I am not a mother. This fact has kept me from expressing my heartbreak over the shootings in Sandy Hook. In the aftermath of this horrifying event, I’ve watched countless friends — mothers, all of them — post wrenching status updates on Facebook. I’ve read them, feeling oddly ashamed inside. These moms talked of compassion for those poor little children, of the need to step up to the plate as adults, of the fear they have for the future, of roiling anger toward the government, and of utter helplessness. They posted pictures of the beautiful young faces lost to this insane tragedy. They urged others to take a stand, and to hold their own children close.
The same thoughts streamed through my head. Tears welled in my eyes, too. I texted my siblings and begged them to hug and kiss their little ones for me.
But something was silencing the part of me that wanted to join these moms in their outrage. I felt it wasn’t my place. How could I know, after all, what kind of fear these parents were expressing? How could I possibly relate to their protective instincts? I am not a mother. Keep reading »
“This subject is old but I have never answered it in its entirety. And even with this post it will remain incomplete. The question why I would LET Willow cut her hair. First the LET must be challenged. This is a world where women, girls are constantly reminded that they don’t belong to themselves; that their bodies are not their own, nor their power or self determination. I made a promise to endow my little girl with the power to always know that her body, spirit and her mind are HER domain. Willow cut her hair because her beauty, her value, her worth is not measured by the length of her hair. It’s also a statement that claims that even little girls have the RIGHT to own themselves and should not be a slave to even their mother’s deepest insecurities, hopes and desires. Even little girls should not be a slave to the preconceived ideas of what a culture believes a little girl should be.”
– Jada Pinkett Smith took to her Facebook page to address the played-out “controversy” over the way her 12-year-old daughter Willow cuts, dyes and styles her hair. Some, apparently, feel that Jada and husband Will Smith should exert more control over what their daughter does with her appearance, which, I suspect, stems from their discomfort that the burgeoning pop star’s look is not traditionally feminine. I absolutely love Jada’s response to this (which echoes the one her husband gave a few months ago), and especially admire the fact that she doesn’t just call out our culture’s expectations of what a little girl should be, but is also upfront that parents should not use their children to channel their own insecurities. Bravo! [Facebook via Clutch Magazine]
No matter how awesome our parents are, we’re bound to have some issues with them. Whether we hash them out in therapy or over cocktails with friends, certain complaints are going to come out again and again. And you know what? It’s possible your parent’s astrological sign has something to do with how and why you clashed with them. Which sign doesn’t give their kids a chance to speak to their mind? Which sign is super critical? And which sign thinks they’re always right? We’ve compiled a list of quotes expressing common complaints you’d have with your parent, depending on their zodiac sign. After the jump, look up your mom or dad’s sign and see if the corresponding quote is something you’ve said to them a hundred times… Keep reading »
A North Carolina woman named Odessa Clay is set to stand trial for tattooing her 11-year-old daughter with a “small, heart-shaped tattoo near her right shoulder.” The 30-year-old’s excuse for tattooing her little girl last September? “She asked me to do it,” Clay explained.
Instead of saying, “I’m sorry honey, you’ll have to wait until you’re 18 and it’s legal,” Clay broke out her tattoo gun and inked her daughter herself. She told police that she thought tattoos for underage children were legal as long as the parent gave consent. Clay blames her arrest on her ex-in-laws who she feels reported her as retaliation for a previous dispute.
I’m sensing a subtle theme here. Well, bad parenting. And refusing to take responsibility for her actions. WORST. [Daily Mail UK]
In America, we don’t have even have nationwide paid maternal leave. We just have the Family And Medical Leave Act, which ensures three months of unpaid job-protected leave for a new mom. Look and learn, folks, because Australia is putting us all to shame: starting in 2013, Aussies will have the Dad And Partner Leave plan, which guarantees two weeks of paid leave at minimum wage (around $630) for the father or same-sex partner after a baby is born. Australia already has paid parental leave which gives 18 weeks of paid leave at minimum wage for one parent.
Although the minimum wage aspect is not ideal for either plan, it’s so commendable that the country is helping to make it possible for parents to both be at home during those early new-baby days. Why, just look at how overwhelmed this mommy koala is at having to do all the childcare work herself! Keep reading »
Arizona State University police were not laughing about this picture of what appears to be a baby doing a keg stand at an ASU tailgate party. Authorities are still unclear if the photo, which originally appeared on The Dirty, was a an act of Photoshop or a real photo-op. Investigation in progress.
I certainly hope it’s not real … and so does the mother who posted those pictures on Facebook of her baby smoking a bong. I’m sure she really regrets that. When are people going to learn what’s crossing the line when it comes to baby photos? Babies in wigs: funny. Babies pounding beer: not funny. [Buzzfeed via The Dirty]
Clearly, the most creative way to tell quadruplets apart is to shave numbers onto their heads. In China, that’s exactly what the mother of identical, six-year-old boys did. “My sons are identical, even to me,” said their mother, Tan Chaoyun.”Even now, their father can’t tell which one is which … Sometimes, he punishes the second one for something the third one has done.” Yeah, that would suck. With their new haircuts, one, two, three and four — or whatever their actual names are — can be easily identified both at school and at home. [AU News]
A Canadian dance studio has announced that they will offer pole dancing classes for children as young as five. You heard that correctly. Pole dancing FOR KIDS. While this may sound totally inappropriate, Kristy Craig of Duncan’s Twisted Grip Dance and Fitness Studio on Vancouver Island insists that there’s nothing untoward about it. “There is nothing provocative. There is nothing sexual about it … It’s pure fitness and strength and fun. I mean kids love climbing trees. They will climb anything.” Keep reading »