When it comes to parenting, one of the more difficult aspects to figure out can be discipline. There doesn’t seem to be one set method that works for every child, yet everyone has an opinion on what supposedly works best. For parents, it feels like a lot is riding on our disciplinary method, as it’s a big part in helping to guide the desired behaviors of our children and raise a decent human being. Disciplinary techniques range all across the spectrum: time outs, spankings, negotiating, positive reinforcement, gentle discipline.It can be tricky to figure out what might work for your child and your family.
While I’m certainly no expert on discipline, I do have to say that there’s one type that leaves something to be desired: public shaming. It has popped up a lot recently and each instance never really sat well with me. Whether it’s snapping a photo of your toddler wearing a sign that details her transgressions and then posting it to social media or making your 7th grader hold a sign on a busy street corner as punishment for twerking at school, it feels like discipline gone wrong. Keep reading »
Police in South Carolina arrested a mom last weekend after she allegedly directed the word “fuck” at her children in a Kroger grocery store. Danielle Wolf, who just moved her family to the city of North Augusta three weeks ago, grew frustrated with her husband for squishing the bread in her shopping cart, and displayed her annoyance with a few four-letter words. A fellow shopper approached Wolf and insisted that she had said “fuck” in front of her children. Wolf had said the word to her husband, not her kids, though I’m not sure why a total stranger felt entitled to this clarification. “She’s like, ‘you said the f-word’, and I’m like, ‘when did I say this to my kids?’” Wolf told local news station WJBF. “She’s like, ‘you told them that they were smashing the bread’, and I said ‘no’ I said that to my husband, that he was smashing the bread by throwing the frozen pizzas on top of it.’”
One thing lead to another, and though the irritated shopper hadn’t intended for Wolf to be arrested, she ended up leaving the store in handcuffs. Keep reading »
Almost exactly year ago, TIME magazine ran a cover story called “The Childfree Life” about the rising number of Americans who were opting not to have kids. One of those couples was Paul and Leah Clouse, who both felt that they couldn’t balance their creative interests (a bakery for her, a blog for him) and also be good parents. “If we decided to have children, we’d have to grieve the life we currently have,” Leah said.
Now, it looks like the grieving time has begun. Because the Clouses are having a baby.
If you go to Leah Clouse’s Facebook page, you’ll see that her profile photo is now an illustration of her (with pregnant belly), Paul, and their two cats, with a note reading “Baby Clouse Arriving April 2015.” For many people, having a baby is a joyous occasion, and I’m happy to congratulate friends when they welcome children of their own. But I just can’t feel too happy for the Clouses. Keep reading »
Although the birth rate for unmarried women has been slowly declining, middle-aged American women aren’t waiting to tie the knot before having kids. According to recent CDC data, birth rates for unmarried females between the ages of 35 and 39 rose a substantial 48% between 2002 and 2012. Read more on Newser…
Once upon a time, I was a high school social studies teacher. One of my favorite classes to teach was a college lecture-style current events course. I co-taught it with a handful of my colleagues and we gathered every morning in the school’s auditorium with the entire senior class. Since it was so convenient, administration occasionally used this time for other events like assemblies, graduation information, and the mandatory sex-education requirement for 12th graders. This requirement was fulfilled over the course of two days, where a sexual health educator from Planned Parenthood would come and lecture for two class sessions on contraception and STDs.
Ninety minutes. Ninety minutes over the course of an entire year. That is how long was devoted to teaching over 500 teenagers the ins and out of safe sex and sexuality. So it never failed to surprise me that, like clockwork, I would have students come up to me after the safe-sex presentation and ask me all sorts of questions. This is absolutely not to dismiss the wonderful educator from Planned Parenthood; she knew her stuff and was a pro at disseminating the information to teens. She never faltered, used to the outbursts, titters, and hand gestures routinely made … especially as she demonstrated the proper way to put on a condom. Keep reading »
Imagine your next formal event. Now picture meeting a man in a tuxedo, asking him, “So what do you do?” and hearing him reply, “I’m a stay-at-home dad.”
How do you respond? As a veteran at-home father (and now writer), I can attest that most men — and some women — stumble here, though progress inches along. Of the many less-than-appropriate replies I have heard while in a tux, regular suit, or just “average dad” clothes at various social events, here is the most memorable: “You must like watching cartoons.”
Not exactly a having-it-all moment. Read more on Ask Men…