I’ve been with my boyfriend now for four years and I love being with him; we get a long very well, especially considering our 20-year age difference. My problem lies in the fact that he has two children (12 and 9) who I love as if they were my own. They are living with us for the summer and MAN are they getting on my nerves. I feel like I have no space, all my stuff is moved around, no food is ever in the fridge and worst of all, all they want to do is play with me! I mean it’s great that they love me and accept me in their lives and all but I’m starting to resent them. Usually, I spend most of my time trying to make them happy, but now that they are here all the time I want to scream. Also, it puts a strain on my relationship with my boyfriend because he’s so easy-going with them that I feel like the bad guy all the time. My biggest dilemma with this situation is I thought I had always wanted a baby of my own, especially after meeting them. But now my boyfriend keeps bringing up the fact that maybe I’m not the right person to have kids if I complain about them. I’m so torn! I have even considered breaking up with him — despite thinking I’d marry him — just because of the this kid issue. I feel like I just can’t trust myself! — Parent Trap
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- Sharron Angle, a U.S. Senate candidate for Nevada, has said that having one parent staying at home with children is the “right” and “acceptable” thing to do. Gee, I wonder which gender she’s talking about?! A group of Las Vegas working moms wondered the same thing and recently held an event to denounce Angle and throw their support behind Sen. Harry Reid. [Las Vegas Sun]
- A former middle school student who claimed teasing at school lead her to develop anorexia has settled her federal lawsuit against the Pittsburgh Public Schools. The girl, identified as “B.G.,” said she was harassed every day beginning in 6th grade by three boys who told her she was fat and ugly. Once, when she began to cry in class from the abuse, “B.G.” said, she was sent to the guidance counselor’s office where she was told the boys must be flirting. In 7th grade, two more boys joined in on the teasing and she developed anorexia. That same year, “B.G.” eventually told her mother about what was going on. The girl’s mother said she was never notified about the teasing, even though school administrators were aware it was going on. The settlement is for $55K, plus the cost of mediation. [Pittsburgh Post-Gazette]
I just finished reading what I found to be a heartwarming story written by Marina Khidekel in Marie Claire about a 30-something woman who decided to have a baby with her gay best friend and his boyfriend. After getting out of a bad marriage, followed by a relationship with a dude who didn’t want kids, Kitty Stillufsen, was ready to start a family … with or without a man. “By the time I was 33, I’d pretty much done everything on my to-do list—traveled, carved out a career, bought two homes, and had a lot of fun … I felt empowered and free. But I wanted a family. I knew I had too much love in my heart not to have a baby, and I believed it was important that the child have a great dad,” she says.
And then while she was shopping for lingerie with her gay besties Darren and Sam, Kitty had a revelation. “In a total I-love-you-guys moment, I blurted out, ‘You two would be the best dads! When are we going to have a baby together?’” Keep reading »
When it comes to Betty Draper‘s parenting on “Mad Men,” people either roll their eyes at her for constantly barking orders at her kids and never seeming to care that much about who they are, what they say, or things they’re interested in or they applaud her for her authoritarianism and want to nominate her for Mother of the Year. So which camp do you fall in? Take a look at this montage of mama Betty to decide. And, just for the record, I’m in Camp A. [NYMag.com] Keep reading »
It had been a bleak year. I started taking anti-depressants and was slowly putting on weight, as the side effects had warned. This alone was not a problem: guys always told me I was a little too skinny and that I had a bony butt, so I actually enjoyed having a juicy badonkadonk for the first time in my life. But as I packed on more pounds on my slender frame, my clothes stopped fitting. J.Crew skinny jeans? Couldn’t wear ‘em anymore. Vintage mini-dress? So tight it ripped. Silk blouse? My upper arms no longer fit without gnarly pit stains. I had to chuck tons of panties that now squeezed uncomfortably around my new butt. Not surprisingly, I started to get a little neurotic (and vain) and seriously considered ditching my happy pills in the hopes that I’d get my zippy ol’ metabolism back.
Then my 26th birthday arrived. My boyfriend was out of town on a business trip and left a birthday present waiting for me on our bed. I ripped the paper off and saw a box from one of New York City’s fanciest lingerie stores: inside was an adorable black and pink bra and panties set from Betsey Johnson. He did his sizing-homework in advance: the panties fit my rotund butt, the bra did not pinch my shoulders. And something immediately clicked: I am attractive no matter what size I wear. Sexy lingerie comes in all sizes! I realized I didn’t have to fit into my existing clothes to be sexy; I could still look sexy in sizes that fit me properly.
These days, I’m OK with my weight. But there’s one person who’s not — my mom. Keep reading »
Oh, dear. TLC’s
resident brood sow “19 Kids and Counting” star Michelle Duggar has received a “Mother of the Year Award.” Perhaps she is a fine mother to her children, but she is most famous for having many of them — which is not in-and-of-itself a marker of good parenthood at all. It’s silly to equate the idea of being a “good mother” with a having good child-bearing hips. (I’m not saying having lots of kids automatically makes you a bad mom — I’m one of five kids, after all — so don’t kick up a fuss!) I wonder what kinda message this sends to mommies who feel stressed with only one or two kids. Keep reading »
I’m not sure I’d want to be raised by a majah supah-stah like Angelina Jolie. Her kids will go to 72 different schools while she zips around the world filming movies. They’re followed by paparazzi everywhere and they’re probably mostly raised by nannies. Still, Angelina sounds like a kick-ass mom in the area where it really counts: supporting her kids. She recently came to her 4-year-old daughter’s defense when asked by a reporter about Shiloh‘s tomboy style… Keep reading »
Five years ago, British mum Deborah Higley had a boob job, increasing her bust from a 32A to a D. Her teen daughters, flat-chested themselves, shared a bedroom and would chat before sleep at night about how they, too, wanted breast implants. This year Deborah arranged for her 19- and 21-year-old daughters, Harriet and Rose, to increase their cup sizes as well — and their father covered the bill for all of this. For reasons completely unknown to me, the Higley ladies and their new bosoms posed together for the U.K.’s Daily Mirror newspaper. Keep reading »
When a study released in late June revealed that one in five women would remain childfree into the next generation, a lot of people were shocked. I wasn’t. In an ironic twist of fate, I had my tubes tied the same weekend. Keep reading »
Everyone stop what you are doing right now and pay attention to Kourtney Kardashian’s MAJOR parenting dilemma. In her mommy blog for People, she expresses her thoughts on the controversial topic of co-sleeping. The new mom gushes:
“I know that having Mason sleep in my bed might be a controversial topic. But I have to be honest: I just love that time. I especially love how when you sleep with your baby, you breathe together on the same pattern. I’ve been able to bond with Mason so much more. Even if I’ve had a busy day, I always look forward to every night and us spending time together when we sleep.”