We love to blame our parents for all sorts of things. It’s their fault that you’re still single. If only they hadn’t made you wear corduroys, you might not be so self-conscious today! If mom had been less hard on your schoolwork, then you might not be failing to get that promotion. And, oh Dad, why did you make me write so many thank-you notes? Now everyone mistakes my politeness for insincerity. And so on …
But if truth be known, the snippets from childhood that we blame for our adulthood failings may not be the correct ones at all. If you really want an accurate demonstration of what your parents were like as parents, then life does offer you a second chance to recapture their parenting skills. All you have to do is wait until they become grandparents. It is unlikely that their parenting skills have changed in the 20 to 40 years since they became parents, and you will be flooded with stark memories and realizations as their parenting successes and failures are revealed through the way in which they interact with your children. Keep reading »
Although Prop 19, legislation that would have legalized marijuana in California, didn’t pass on Nov. 2, a new controversial bill has just gone into effect in the state: San Francisco passed an ordinance yesterday that prohibits toy giveaways in fast-food children’s meals that have more than 35 percent of their calories from fat. Yes, kids, that means no more free toys in Happy Meals. Public health advocates see this as a victory in their battle to stop the fast-food industry from marketing to kids and as a major step forward in curbing childhood obesity and diabetes. Though San Francisco is the first city to pass such a law in the U.S., it’s expected that many cities will soon follow suit.
Really? This news makes me kind of sad … Keep reading »
Halloween! A day for children to get dressed up like anyone or anything they want to be, rewarded with candy and compliments. Well, not always. What do to if your youngster innocently wants to wear a costume that challenges narrow-minded gender expectations? Like, say in the case of “Boo,” a 5-year-old boy who decided he wanted to be Daphne (a female) from “Scooby Doo.” If you’re Boo’s mom, you buy him that costume and take him to school all decked out in his finery and find yourself fielding judgment from other mothers who are appalled that a parent would dare to allow such a thing. Boo’s mom, who blogs under the name Cop’s Wife at the blog Nerdy Apple Bottom, wrote an incredibly heartwarming and inspiring “rant” (for lack of a better word) about the experience that I think is necessary reading for parents (and human beings in general), at a time when bullying of those who are “different” is getting nationwide attention. Read some of what she had to say after the jump … Keep reading »
I was sickeningly shocked when I heard about Michele Kalina, the Pennsylvania woman who killed four of her newborn babies after getting pregnant as a result of a series of extramarital affairs.
But the question on everyone’s lips seems to be: How did she manage to hide all of those pregnancies?! Even from the people closest to her? Wouldn’t her husband — or her daughter — notice as her stomach grew and grew? How in the world, they keep asking, does a woman hide a pregnancy?
While the outcome of my story isn’t nearly as horrific, I personally know how and why you can: Twelve years ago, I was that woman. Read more … Keep reading »
Don’t get me wrong. I was a step-kid. I know how hard it can be to be a kid and your parent who used to be married to your other parent starts dating somebody who is not your parent. It’s not easy for anybody: the parent, the potential step-parent, or the kid. So when I became an adult and tried dating a guy with a kid, I thought, Oh, this’ll be easy. I know what it’s like to be the kid in this situation. I can make it work. Boy, was I wrong. Keep reading »
Rachel Dratch had been keeping the identity of her baby daddy on the DL. But she is finally revealing who’s the father of three-month-old Eli Benjamin. Drumroll please … Actually, it’s no one we’ve ever heard of. He’s a random dude named John Wahl. Don’t get out of your chair. The part I’m obsessed with is their love story. Keep reading »
It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from “Not Sure About Children” the 24-year-old who was engaged to someone who didn’t want children, but, as her name suggests, hadn’t yet made up her mind whether she wanted them or not. After the jump, find out if she’s still engaged and whether she’s any closer to making a decision about kids. Keep reading »