If I ever have a daughter, I know what she’s getting for her seventh birthday: a crotchless thong, of course! No, but seriously, a Colorado woman was shopping with her children at Kids N Teen in Greeley Mall when she spotted the unthinkable: a tiny thong featuring a split down the crotch. Erin French snapped a cell phone video and went to the media; the owner of Kids N Teen initially defended her choice of merchandise by saying that “25 percent of her merchandise is for teens.” (The crotchless thongs have since been removed.) I don’t know which is worse — the fact that crotchless thongs for little girls exist or the fact that the store owner even believes them to be suitable for 9th graders. What ever happened to kids being kids (and wearing underwear not blatantly intended for sex)? [9news.com via Jezebel]
I’m fully convinced that Michael Lohan’s headline-making domestic violence arrest yesterday was copied straight out of Mel Gibson’s playbook. Of course, Mel’s famed blowouts were uniquely terrible because some of them were directed towards the teenage son of ex-girlfriend Oksana Grigorieva. Last month, Mel paid $100,000 to Oksana’s 14-year-old for the guarantee that he wouldn’t sue the once-respected actor for reportedly “terrorizing” him during altercations with his mother. That’s low, even for Mel Gibson. Additionally, his own toddler daughter with Grigorieva bore witness to a number of her father’s detonations.
It’s hard to top this sh**ty parenting, but surprise, surprise, more than a few celebs come come! After the jump, six more celebrities who I definitely wouldn’t want for a dad.
Michigan man, Shawn Weimer reached an all-time parenting low when, after a night of drinking, he recruited his 9-year-old daughter to play chauffeur. Propped up on a booster seat, the girl drove Shawn to the gas station to fill up his van and pick up a pack of cigarettes. For her efforts, she was rewarded with a candy apple and her father’s praise. “Nine years old. Nine! Gas, brake, listen, we’re leaving, and she’s driving. I’m drunk,” Shawn bragged to the cashier. It probably wasn’t the best idea for him to broadcast his crime like that. As a result of his all-around stupidity and recklessness, the cops were called and they pulled the van over even though the girl claimed she was “driving good.” Shawn is facing felony child abuse charges, obvs. Parenting at its finest. [Dumb As A Blog]
Children learn more than just ABCs at their mother’s breast: a new study of 1,455 adolescents and their parents in Spain finds that mothers are the parent most likely to socialize traditional gender roles and therefore pass along sexist beliefs.
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Apparently even French mothers have trouble answering the question “gay or European?” A new smartphone app offers French mothers a questionnaire to help figure out if their sons like sticking their French bread in a warm, buttery croissant … or not. The $2.69 app asks 20 questions which inquire whether their bébé mimics gay stereotypes like enjoying show tunes, dressing well, and eschewing sports. Somewhat more controversially, some questions assume it’s the parents’ “fault” a child is gay, like asking if he had an absent father or the mother was authoritarian growing up. If the questionnaire assesses mama‘s crisply dressed, show-tune loving frog is gay, it tells her to “accept it.” But if he’s just a little, uh, European, the questionnaire reads, “You have nothing to worry about, your son is not gay. So you have a very good chance of being a grandmother with all the joys that brings.” How sensitive. [RFI.fr via The Awl] Keep reading »
Recently, I wrote a blog post about teaching our girls to be feminists. But I also think boys should be taught what it is to be a feminist. A couple of years ago, I recall a conversation I had with my 13-year-old nephew who is quite intelligent and a bit beyond his years. He was saying that he and his friends had had a discussion about who had it easier, men or women. They decided that women did for various reasons. A huge conversation ensued, as you can imagine, with my nephew, his mother, his grandmother and grandfather, and me. I think decidedly, by the end of the talk, we might have changed his mind! But it was a great moment to have an intelligent discussion about gender and what it means to be male or female in today’s world.
There seems to be a lot more research being done lately about boys and gender stereotyping. Undoubtedly, we need boys who will grow up understanding and appreciating what it means to be female in our society as well as the world-at-large because they will benefit from that awareness and so will everyone else. There are plenty of adult men out there who support women’s rights and work equally as hard to continue to make sure that girls and minorities are at the forefront of the discourse about equal rights. The question is, are we raising boys who are sensitive to inequity, critical thinkers, and culturally aware? Keep reading »
“I’m scared of screwing up my kids. I thought that once we were out of the baby stage, parenting would be a breeze. But it’s an even bigger challenge now that Liam and Stella are older. They understand things. You just feel at every turn like, whoa, am I making the right decisions … There are days when I struggle with wanting to be a full-time, stay-at-home mom, and feeling guilty about that because I work. There’s this one mom at school who’ll be like, ‘Oh, we’re having this playdate or whatever, can you come?’ Recently, when I said I couldn’t, she said, ‘Oh, you never go to anything.’ That hit me really hard … I used to be obsessed with what other moms would do, but listening to your maternal instincts is always the right decision.”
—Tori Spelling talks to Parenting magazine about her thoughts and fears on being a parent now that her kids are three and four-years-old. Side note: Michelle Williams looks an awful lot like Marilyn Monroe on the October cover of Vogue. But in this photo, where Tori and her family pose in their Halloween costumes, let’s just say that she’s not a Marilyn. [People] Keep reading »