Women have been faking orgasms since the beginning of time, the reasoning usually being that it’s just easier to pretend you’ve come when you know a real one is not going to happen. It gives the dude you’re getting down with unspoken permission to finish up himself, without having to say, mid-coitus, “Hey, you know, an orgasm just isn’t in the cards for me today, but you should go ahead and have yours!” (Generally, I encourage people to not mislead their sexual partners and would like to see women be more open about what gets them off so they don’t feel inclined to fake — however, there are just some sexual relationships you don’t want to go that deep with. Whatever. Do you, girl.) But one thing I hadn’t considered, even as an occasional faker myself, is that women might actually get off, in some way, by faking it. Well, a recent study published in the Journal of Sexual Archives found that some women fake orgasms for their own pleasure, and upon thinking about it, I realized that I totally relate. Keep reading »
Orgasms. I invented them when I was 12. I was alone in the shower, my bar of Irish Spring was looking really good, I was warm, damp, and feeling adventurous. It was magical and only slightly shameful, the way I insist on all my orgasms being to this very day. Later I found out other people had stolen my idea before I could monetize it, but that’s OK. I’m a giver.
Even later in life, I discovered something most unusual, and that was that not everyone orgasms the same way. Some people use Zest! And yet others eschew a soapy left hand thrust deep in a crack altogether and have discovered bizarre new ways of orgasming that not only don’t involve hands, but don’t even involve genitals. Or, well, not exactly. Check out five crazy things that give people orgasms on Cracked…
While it’s clear that every day should be dedicated to female pleasure, we thought we’d help you observe the holidays with some tips on how to reach an even better orgasm. Read all seven tips on Huffington Poat…
Yesterday, our very own Amelia wrote an article about her inability to orgasm from almost all of her sexual partners—with the exception of one. However, despite the fact that she’s frequently unable to reach the big “O” when partnered, she still finds sex satisfying.
But what if that partner were someone you wanted to marry? Could you tie the knot knowing he/she couldn’t get you off … and might never be able to? Keep reading »
I have slept with a fair amount of people. But I’ve orgasmed with only one, the person I was in a long-term relationship with. All of my other sexual encounters have been varying degrees of fun, but have not resulted in the Big O. For me at least — the men I’ve slept with always come. This never comes as a surprise to me. I don’t expect to come from casual sex, while I’m sure every dude I have it with does. As Natalie Kitroeff notes in an article for The New York Times, “in hookups, inequality still reigns.”
Here’s what I’ve noticed over, uh, the last 13 years of having sex. Some guys, even random dudes I’ve brought home from bars, are really, really into getting women off. But most of them are driven by their own egos. “Every girl I’ve ever been with has come” is something I’ve heard more than a few times from guys who just won’t stop until they’re sure you’ve reached their idea of satisfaction — orgasm. I’ve been known to fake it with these men, because it’s just so much easier than explaining to a relative stranger “I just can’t orgasm unless I am really, really, really in the right mood and there are no distractions and I’m 1000 percent relaxed and my OCD/ADD isn’t acting up. Also you have to be licking my pussy just right and it also helps if I use my vibrator while you’re fucking me, but even then it just might not happen. Don’t take it personally, I’m still having a great time!” I have given a few dudes the short version of that explanation and they all looked at me like I just killed their puppy. Keep reading »
In a brave and epic fashion, Gawker writer Nitasha Tiku attended AND participated in an OM conference, living to pen the tale. For those of you who are not familiar, OM (orgasmic meditation) is a sequenced practice in which one partner gently strokes the other partner’s clitoris for 15 minutes. The result is said to be therapeutic, rather than sexual. The “stroking” allegedly activates the limbic system and releases a flood of oxytocin. The technique was originally billed as a spiritual-style practice like meditation, but as it gains popularity, it’s being presented as more of a “technological innovation” or “body-hack to happiness.” The “guru” of the technique, 46-year-old Nicole Daedone, guarantees that it’s profound whether you’re coupled or single. If you’re thinking OM and it’s parent company, OneTaste, sound cult-y, I wouldn’t argue with you. After reading Tiku’s exhaustive expose, I would describe an OM conference as Landmark Forum for the clitoris. The 1960′s free love culture is back; but for a fee and backed by technological sophistication! Tiku did a thorough job of demystifying the practice. Here are the most important things to know about OneTaste and the OM experience: Keep reading »
After suffering a stroke, one questionably lucky 45-year-old man noticed something different about how he felt while listening to the James Bond theme music. According to the UK’s Daily Mail, the anonymous gentleman reported feeling “orgasmic sensations” and viewing “flashing blue lights” as though he were having an out of body experience. Keep reading »
We’ll always remember Amber Hartnell as the woman who claimed to have experienced an orgasm while giving birth.
“All of a sudden the orgasm just started rolling through and rolling through, and it just kept coming, and my whole body was spiraling and rolling, and I was laughing and crying [and] purring,” Amber said in the documentary “Orgasmic Birth,” directed by Debra Pascali-Bonaro.
Since the film’s release in 2008, pregnant (and non-pregnant) women have been hearing about labor orgasms, and laughing or eye rolling, or both. Don’t try to fool us, Amber! We know that squeezing a baby out of your vagina hurts worse than any inhumane kind of torture we could envision in our worst nightmares. But we could be wrong. Keep reading »
t can happen even in the steamiest moment — you’re on the brink of an awesome orgasm … and then nada. Maybe you got distracted by a nagging thought, like stressing out over unanswered work emails, or you were thrown off when your guy suddenly changed positions. Or maybe your climax just kind of petered out, and you’re not completely sure why. Whatever’s going on, there are techniques you can use to get back in the zone. Allow us to talk you through.
Think of Channing Tatum. Letting your mind go to your sexy place, wherever it is (that time you and your guy hooked up on the kitchen table, the hottie with the ridic biceps at the gym who always says hi), will get you on track for a satisfying finish. “When you fantasize, your brain sends arousal signals throughout your body, and extra blood is directed to your genitals,” says Gail Saltz, M.D., author of The Ripple Effect: How Better Sex Can Lead to a Better Life. The less constrained your fantasy, the better: Women who allowed their minds to wander to their own scenario (as opposed to something scripted, like a scene from an X-rated novel) were more likely to show signs of being turned on, such as increased wetness, according to a recent study in The Journal of Sexual Medicine. And, of course, more arousal usually means that the way your guy is touching/licking/whatever you is going to feel that much better. Read more on Your Tango…