Rookie Mag’s fabulous Ask A Grown Man video series gives us a peek into the male mind from the likes of Jon Hamm and Judd Apatow. NPR host Ira Glass is the latest grown man to dish out advice (he also happens to be the husband of Anaheed Alani, an editor for Rookie) … but not after first teaching us all how to make balloon animals! A balloon Snoopy, in fact. He also answers questions about whether guys think women with short hair are “feminine looking” and how to tell a man in a sexy way that you’ve never given him a blowjob. “I think I can speak for all men when I say there is no unsexy way to tell a man you want to give him a blowjob,” Ira explains. “Literally any words you choose are going to be the right words. Those are are incredibly welcome words of any man or boy of any age. You could write it in crayon in another language and then translate it word by word. You could write it in Braille and run his fingers across it. You could put the words in the reverse. You could say it Yoda-style, like, ‘Blowjob, want to have?” Yoda-style! Whoa. Let’s not get carried away, girls. It’s just a blowie. [Rookie Mag]
Would you be grossed out if a hook-up kissed you after going ‘downtown’? Or would you be seriously offended if a guy rejected a post-bj make out session? Oral sex protocol is a seriously opinion-dividing topic, and I totally get why. A lot of guys just don’t like the idea of going mouth to mouth with someone whose lips have just touched their junk, the same way loads of girls don’t want to get a taste of their own downstairs area. On the flip side, it can feel like a pretty big rejection when a guy turns away from a sweet kiss after you’ve given him the blow job business. It’s just personal preference, which makes dealing with it a bit of a gray area. Read more…
Learning how to give head to a guy is often misunderstood. Fortunately it’s very straightforward and easy to give your man an awesome blow job if you do just a few things right. As the creator of the Bad Girl’s Bible I get questions about giving head to guys everyday. Below I’m going to give you 6 blowjob tips to get you started on giving your man great head.
Think About The Tip! The top part of your man’s penis is the most sensitive part by far. More sensitive = more pleasure. Scientifically this is known as the glans or head of his penis. It’s the purple part of his penis that looks distinctively different to the rest of it. Read more …
According to an article in this month’s issue of Esquire, the blow job is all but becoming extinct in favor of cunnilingus. In an informal poll, conducted by the writer Geoff Dyer, eight out of 10 of his “more mature male friends” preferred “eating p**sy to having their dicks sucked.” And guess what? The two who preferred BJs were gay! He uses this data to assert that the excitement that surrounded fellatio beginning in the ’70s has all but faded.
Clearly, that must be the case, if his friends say so. But it’s not just his friends. He says blow jobs are out in pop culture as well. I mean, Michael Fassbender’s character in “Shame” tells a man in a bar that he wants to go down on his wife. It’s of no consequence that he’s a sex addict, I suppose. And in a scene from Jonathan Franzen’s Freedom, Joey Berglund says he considers getting a blow job as “little more than a glorified jerk off.” Should we talk about how he had been sleeping with his neighbor since he was 13 or something? Perhaps I should remind Dyer of the entire page in Jeffrey Eugenides’ The Marriage Plot dedicated to the sucking of Mitchell Grammaticus’ c**k. That came out just this year.
Dyer says of his perceived decline of the blow job:
“[Cunnilingus] was regarded in much the same way as paying for a round at the bar: You had to do it, but if you could avoid it, you did. It would be a mistake, though, to see this change as meaning that men have gone from being selfish recipients to selfless givers of pleasure; it’s just that what constitutes pleasure has shifted.”
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“The first thing that went through my mind is, ‘Oh dear God, how are we going to film this?’ Then, ‘Oh God, my father’s going to watch the show’ … But I love it. I truly believe ["The Good Wife" co-creator Michelle King] is instigating a sexual revolt for network television. I think it’s brave, and I love to try things people haven’t tried before … I’m such a different person now than I was in my twenties … I had all these insecurities – about doing the right thing, about how people would perceive me. It stopped me from having fun, where now I feel comfortable with who I am, no matter who’s in the room … Now this is me, take it or leave it. … That’s the beauty of growing up.”
–Julianna Margulies talks to More about her “Good Wife” oral sex scene with Chris Noth. I can’t tell whether it’s female or male oral that will be reenacted, but either way, it should be interesting. I would be particularly impressed if it were female oral. Here’s to the sexual revolution on network television! [People]
Let’s be honest: sex is not always the softly focused oxytocin bath that Cosmopolitan magazine spreads make it out to be. Sometimes sex is a romp on dirty sheets with a grabby guy who’s got terrible body odor and zero condoms.
But hey, bad sex is still sex. And if you are horny as we are at The Frisky, you’ll take the bull by the horns anyway because you know there’s a way to troubleshoot most any sexual snaffoo. I am not a sex therapist, but I am a woman who’s has wide variety of sex with a decent number of dudes and have encountered all these problems. (For more in-depth sexual troubleshooting, I recommend the kickass sex guide, Guide To Getting It On.)
After the jump, a thorough, honest (and heteronormative, cause I’m a straight lady who sleeps with dudes) guide to troubleshooting bad sex.
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It was a very bad week for bunnies. Not only did Til, the famous mutant German bunny with no ears, get squished to death this week, but Miss Cooper, a bunny that lived in an NYC boutique, was stolen, too! We also talked about the veritable epidemic plaguing women: migraines. And we discussed the baby geniuses in New Hampshire that are trying to pass a law that would make it okay for doctors to tell women that abortions cause cancer. Which is not true. Mmkay. Tipping the scales for good this week: Well, the finale may have sucked, but we’ll always have “The Bachelor” sketchbook. Pat Robertson, who generally never has anything nice to say, says oral sex is okay (within specific parameters, of course). And the awesome story of the women of Virginia, who were frustrated with Senator Ryan McDougle, an ardent supporter of that state’s transvaginal ultrasound bill. They figured if he cared so much about their vaginas they’d left him know what was going on with them all the time, so they began providing graphic vagina updates on his Facebook wall. Rock on!
Rest assured, everyone: oral sex is not bad for you. TV evangelist Pat Robertson decrees it to be so! He was speaking strictly to a married man and woman, so the jury is still out on the morality of us
strumpets single girls going down. Nevertheless, we are somewhat comforted by his logic that “It’s what’s in your mind … if to you it’s sin, it’s sin.” (Now if he could just apply that same logic to the gays.) We are eagerly waiting for Pat Robertson’s thoughts on anal. [YouTube]
When I heard yesterday that New Jersey’s Governor Chris Christie made a blowjob joke while campaigning for Mitt Romney, I thought it just sounded, at worst, crude. (And embarrassing for Romney’s squeaky-clean Mormon image, although that’s another story.) Christie was rallying for Romney at a campaign stop in Exeter, New Hampshire, when some women started chanting about jobs going down. After a few distracting chants, Christie says, “You know, something may go down tonight but it ain’t going to be jobs, sweetheart.” Keep reading »