Learning how to give head to a guy is often misunderstood. Fortunately it’s very straightforward and easy to give your man an awesome blow job if you do just a few things right. As the creator of the Bad Girl’s Bible I get questions about giving head to guys everyday. Below I’m going to give you 6 blowjob tips to get you started on giving your man great head.
Think About The Tip! The top part of your man’s penis is the most sensitive part by far. More sensitive = more pleasure. Scientifically this is known as the glans or head of his penis. It’s the purple part of his penis that looks distinctively different to the rest of it. Read more …
According to an article in this month’s issue of Esquire, the blow job is all but becoming extinct in favor of cunnilingus. In an informal poll, conducted by the writer Geoff Dyer, eight out of 10 of his “more mature male friends” preferred “eating p**sy to having their dicks sucked.” And guess what? The two who preferred BJs were gay! He uses this data to assert that the excitement that surrounded fellatio beginning in the ’70s has all but faded.
Clearly, that must be the case, if his friends say so. But it’s not just his friends. He says blow jobs are out in pop culture as well. I mean, Michael Fassbender’s character in “Shame” tells a man in a bar that he wants to go down on his wife. It’s of no consequence that he’s a sex addict, I suppose. And in a scene from Jonathan Franzen’s Freedom, Joey Berglund says he considers getting a blow job as “little more than a glorified jerk off.” Should we talk about how he had been sleeping with his neighbor since he was 13 or something? Perhaps I should remind Dyer of the entire page in Jeffrey Eugenides’ The Marriage Plot dedicated to the sucking of Mitchell Grammaticus’ c**k. That came out just this year.
Dyer says of his perceived decline of the blow job:
“[Cunnilingus] was regarded in much the same way as paying for a round at the bar: You had to do it, but if you could avoid it, you did. It would be a mistake, though, to see this change as meaning that men have gone from being selfish recipients to selfless givers of pleasure; it’s just that what constitutes pleasure has shifted.”
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“The first thing that went through my mind is, ‘Oh dear God, how are we going to film this?’ Then, ‘Oh God, my father’s going to watch the show’ … But I love it. I truly believe ["The Good Wife" co-creator Michelle King] is instigating a sexual revolt for network television. I think it’s brave, and I love to try things people haven’t tried before … I’m such a different person now than I was in my twenties … I had all these insecurities – about doing the right thing, about how people would perceive me. It stopped me from having fun, where now I feel comfortable with who I am, no matter who’s in the room … Now this is me, take it or leave it. … That’s the beauty of growing up.”
–Julianna Margulies talks to More about her “Good Wife” oral sex scene with Chris Noth. I can’t tell whether it’s female or male oral that will be reenacted, but either way, it should be interesting. I would be particularly impressed if it were female oral. Here’s to the sexual revolution on network television! [People]
Let’s be honest: sex is not always the softly focused oxytocin bath that Cosmopolitan magazine spreads make it out to be. Sometimes sex is a romp on dirty sheets with a grabby guy who’s got terrible body odor and zero condoms.
But hey, bad sex is still sex. And if you are horny as we are at The Frisky, you’ll take the bull by the horns anyway because you know there’s a way to troubleshoot most any sexual snaffoo. I am not a sex therapist, but I am a woman who’s has wide variety of sex with a decent number of dudes and have encountered all these problems. (For more in-depth sexual troubleshooting, I recommend the kickass sex guide, Guide To Getting It On.)
After the jump, a thorough, honest (and heteronormative, cause I’m a straight lady who sleeps with dudes) guide to troubleshooting bad sex.
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It was a very bad week for bunnies. Not only did Til, the famous mutant German bunny with no ears, get squished to death this week, but Miss Cooper, a bunny that lived in an NYC boutique, was stolen, too! We also talked about the veritable epidemic plaguing women: migraines. And we discussed the baby geniuses in New Hampshire that are trying to pass a law that would make it okay for doctors to tell women that abortions cause cancer. Which is not true. Mmkay. Tipping the scales for good this week: Well, the finale may have sucked, but we’ll always have “The Bachelor” sketchbook. Pat Robertson, who generally never has anything nice to say, says oral sex is okay (within specific parameters, of course). And the awesome story of the women of Virginia, who were frustrated with Senator Ryan McDougle, an ardent supporter of that state’s transvaginal ultrasound bill. They figured if he cared so much about their vaginas they’d left him know what was going on with them all the time, so they began providing graphic vagina updates on his Facebook wall. Rock on!