open relationships

Girl On Girl: Questioning Monogamy

I’m a hopeless romantic, but in the last six months, I’ve had a drastic shift in what love means to me. I’ve let go of the idea that love is an intense and demanding force. It doesn’t need all of my attention and it doesn’t mean things have to happen “now or never.” I’ve learned… More »


Dating Don’ts: How To Approach An Open Relationship

Consider the open relationship. Maybe you’ve always felt constrained by a traditional relationship, and known that you could happily be with more than one person. Maybe your partner brings it up to you one night over tacos and margaritas, and you’re game. Or, maybe this is just something that you’ve wanted to try, to see… More »


10 Celebrity Couples In Open Relationships

According to The National Enquirer, Rachael Ray’s husband, John Cusimano, is a regular patron of an exclusive, members-only NYC swingers club called Checkmate. What a great name, by the way. But back to their marriage. Cusimano was allegedly a member at Checkmate since before he married Ray seven years ago. Sources say he’s been spotted at… More »


Yes, Newt Gingrich Is Really Icky — But Let’s Not Demonize Open Relationships

Marianne Gingrich, ex-wife of Republican presidential wannabe Newt Gingrich, will appear on “Nightline” tonight and dish the dirt on their marriage, which ended after Marianne was diagnosed with multiple sclerosis and he filed for divorce. Marianne Gingrich will reveal all sorts of unsavory things about what Newt wanted to do with his penis, including asking… More »


Girl Talk: In Praise Of Monogamy

Recently my husband and I went on a double date. We met my friend Kate and her husband Bear, at a German Beer Hall. I hadn’t met Bear, and I always find meeting a friend’s partner interesting. Kate seemed to come to life in Bear’s presence. He is upbeat but sensible, she is witty and… More »


What Does It Mean For A Relationship To “Work”?

My Tuesday evening ritual consists of the following: an hour and a half of yoga and meditation, followed by a hot bubble bath, in which I either drink a glass of wine or eat a Haagen-Daz Coffee Crunch ice cream bar, while wearing a mud mask and lisening to Dan Savage’s Savage Love podcast. I… More »


I Want To Have A Four-Way

Sometimes I get to watching shows about polygamy and find myself imagining for a moment what that would be like. If I don’t feel like cooking, no problem! A sister wife could do it. If I’m not up for sex? It’s not my turn anyway! I want to see a movie with friends? My sister… More »


My Husband Wants To Have Sex With Other People

My husband casually mentioned some people he knows at work who are swingers. He brought it up matter-of-factly, but I detected a note of serious interest! Could my husband actually be suggesting we become swingers!? What do I make of this!? Read more … … More »


9 Celebrity Couples In Open Relationships

Lately, Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher have been ultra affectionate in public, trying to show the world that their marriage is not in danger amid rumors that Ashton cheated on Demi with a 21-year-old named Brittney Jones. But in a new interview, Brittney claims that Ashton wasn’t actually cheating when he allegedly had sex with her on a couch while Demi… More »


Dear Wendy Updates: Newly Single Responds

In a new(ish) feature called “Dear Wendy Updates,” people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from Newly Single, a woman who had just met a man in an open relationship after ending things with a long-term… More »


Girl Talk: I’m Not Sold On Monogamy

I was sitting around talking with some single ladies the other night. The topic du jour was the very popular “What are we looking for in a relationship?” I listened to variations on a theme: “someone to spend the rest of my life with,” “a partner, lover, and best friend forever.” I took it in. More »


Dear Wendy: “I’ve Fallen In Love With Another Man”

I am a 28-year-old married woman, who has been with my husband for 10 years (married for two). Last year my husband confessed that he had a “hot wife” fantasy and wanted me to experiment with sexual relationships outside of our marriage. At first I was appalled because I had only had been with one… More »


Mind Of Man: Polyamory Is Not For Everyone

“Open relationships” are like snowboarding. There are people who can do it very well. And then there are people like me, who will end up breaking something. I was in an open relationship once. It lasted for a couple hours and abruptly ended with me storming out into the cold, crestfallen that she had actually… More »


Quickies!: Heidi And Spencer Have A Santa Threesome, World Recoils In Horror

On an “impromptu photo shoot,” Heidi Montag and Spencer Pratt showed how much they’re in love by making out while Heidi sat on Santa’s lap. [Popbytes]
So you thought having an open relationship would solve all your relationship problems? Too bad you didn’t account for jealousy. Here’s how to close the door on jealousy in… More »


Friday Quickies!

Want to date Brad Garrett? He’s putting together an online series where he goes on blind dates with 10 women? [Tango]
Don’t get to worried if your boyfriend is moving in with a girl (who’s not you). [DearSugar]
Em & Lo talk to author Jenny Block about her book on open marriage. [Daily Bedpost]
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Frisky Chatter: Dish From The Frisky Forums

So this weekend, while you’re waiting for everyone to arrive at your green party, or you’re twiddling your thumbs until the Bust Craftacular starts, or you’re counting the seconds until you see Baby Mama, may we suggest you take a gander at the latest happenings on The Frisky Forums. Reader de la thea inquired today… More »


Love 101: Can You Forgive A Cheater?

At this point, it’s redundant to dissect the various political sexcapades of late (although, if you can’t get enough, there’s a great new book of um, politician erotica out called Sex for America). But all that talk of cheating has many of us civilians looking over our partners’ shoulders. And I think every woman cringed… More »