Tag Archives: online dating

Men Who Go Out Of Their Way To Describe Themselves As “Good Guys” Make Me Suspicious

Crazy Blind Dates
Would you let OKCupid set you up on a "Crazy Blind Date"? Read More »
Things To Tell Your Ex
13 things you want to tell your ex, but never will. Read More »
Courtship Isn't Dead
Courtship isn't dead, it's just taking a nap. Read More »
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Earlier this morning, I was reading a piece on How About We’s blog The Date Report about men who are “serial daters” thanks to the ease of online dating web sites. Blogger Justin Rocket Silverman wrote about a piece in The Atlantic by Dan Slater called “A Million First Dates” which argues that online dating allows people the ability to act like kids in a candy store.  Some men feel they can easily discard women or brush off getting dumped , because there’s always the chance someone “better” is waiting for them online (AKA “Bigger-Better Syndrome”). Keep reading »

Would You Let OKCupid Set You Up On A Blind Date?

Reasons To Blind Date
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Ten reasons you should consider going out on a blind date. Read More »
7 Terrible First Dates
First Dates So Terrible They Made The News
First dates that were so terrible they made the news. Read More »
OKC Enemies
Y'all got issues. Read More »

Most daters tend to want as much information as possible when they walk into a room to meet someone. But OKCupid is banking on the idea that information is actually getting in the way. There’s no denying that dating online is a bonafide “thing” now, but some wonder how much it actually results in people meeting their match. After all, users can spends weeks or months communicating with a potential match without actually ever meeting up. OKCupid co-founder Sam Yagan wants to change all that — he believes people should spend more time dating and less time talking. So the company decided to relaunch an old blind dating app they created several years ago — now called Crazy Blind Date — which uses highly protected OKCupid algorithims to match daters with similar interests.

But would you use it?

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The Soapbox: The Self-Righteous Bullies Of Tumblr And Their Feminist Apologists

Shaming "Nice Guys"
nice guys of OK Cupid
All about the Nice Guys Of OK Cupid Tumblr. Read More »
"Nice Guys" Who Rape
Intent isn’t everything, but it does matter. Read More »
Do Not Date These Guys
12 guys you shouldn't date in 2011. Read More »

I’d been planning to let the issue of the Nice Guys of OK Cupid blog on Tumblr slide. [NOTE: The blog has since been taken down.] It is pretty depressing from every perspective. I’d squabbled and grumbled about it on Twitter with a few people, and then thankfully the Christmas break pushed it out of my mind.

If it passed you by, the Tumblr scours the dating/social networking site OK Cupid for profiles of men and then posts their pictures (without permission) alongside selected quotes. The typical entry shows a less than attractive guy with a few quotes from his profile proclaiming himself a ‘nice guy’ who is fed up of being ‘friendzoned’ and then a ‘wrong’ answer from the set profile questionnaires such as “Should women feel an obligation to shave their legs? Yes.” Keep reading »

The Soapbox: Stop Humiliating People For Their Sex Practices Online

Shaming "Nice Guys"
nice guys of OK Cupid
All about the Nice Guys Of OK Cupid Tumblr. Read More »
Online Dating No-Nos
Take these five phrases off your profile immediately! Read More »
OKC Enemies
Y'all got issues. Read More »
Online Dating Lies
Here's some of the whoppers people use in their profile. Read More »
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For as long as we’re aware of other people’s dirty bits and sexual desires, we’re aware of how funny it can be to talk about them. My niece, for instance, thinks that “butt” is the funniest word in the English language. But she’s six. The grown-up version of “Ha ha, butt!” are those conversations — either whispered sotto voce or way-too-loud after a few too many cocktails — about other people’s personal lives, particularly the parts we’re not supposed to know. She did what? He wanted to put his thingy where? Oh my God. EW. 

I’m not above finding the TMI details of other people’s private lives fascinating. Or sharing my own. Hey, the dude who wanted to lock me inside a dog cage and pee on me makes for an interesting story. (Hopefully he has found someone less claustrophobic to fulfill that pecadillo.) It satisfies the same morbid curiosity that wants to see celebrity nude pics. We want to know what other people are packing, I suppose so we can compare it against ourselves.

But there’s a point where a line needs to be drawn. It needs to be drawn hard. We need to stop posting people’s real-life personal, private, sexual information on the Internet for the purpose of mocking or shaming them. Keep reading »

Hitched: What I Miss About Being Single — And What I Don’t

People just love to get engaged at Christmastime. I imagine this is a result of a combination of factors, from feeling more family-oriented than usual (although the holidays have the opposite effect on many of us) to the celebratory atmosphere at large and increased presence of shiny objects generally. I spent Christmas Eve “liking” a whole new host of “Blankety Blank is engaged to Persony Person” updates before heading to sleep in my childhood bedroom with my new-ish husband. Keep reading »

3 Telltale Signs Your Online Girlfriend Is A Scam

Finding love in this post-Friendster era isn’t easy. Just ask 68-year-old University of North Carolina physics and astronomy professor Paul Frampton, who was recently sentenced to five years of house arrest for transporting a suitcase full of cocaine out of Buenos Aires, Argentina, and into the United States.

What compelled the Oxford-educated scholar to freelance as a drug mule? Well, Frampton was under the impression that this valise full of toot belonged to his online girlfriend, one Denise Milani, who in reality is a bikini model who may or may not hail from some undiscovered Toontown where Rob Liefeld was elected mayor. Frampton believed that if he smuggled the drugs, he would be able to retire to a small cabin located two ticks north of Ms. Milani’s solar plexus.

But when Frampton traveled to Bolivia to meet Milani earlier this year, he was not greeted by his new girlfriend/the letter “P” made human flesh, but by a strange man and an even stranger suitcase (their respective cup sizes went unreported by mainstream media). Read more…

Girl Talk: I Think I’ve Figured The Allure Of Online Dating Out

Ambivalent Single Lobster
Who says lobsters mate for life? This one is ambivalently single. Read More »
Too Picky?
Let's see what does and doesn't belong on that list. Read More »
I Found A BF Online
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How Jessica found a boyfriend online dating. Yes, it really happens! Read More »

Last night, I did something I thought I’d never do again, especially not on a random Monday evening: I reactivated my online dating profile.

I looked at the description of myself I wrote the last time I was single. I looked at the photos that I had thought best represented myself.  I checked my months-old messages. I read the new messages that came in as my account had been re-activiated again. And all the while I thought, Oh fuck, oh fuck, oh fuck, what are you doing?

This morning, I deactivated it again. You see, I think I had just wanted instant gratification. Keep reading »

True Story: I Dated An Ex-Pickup Artist

I Got Negged
Rachel got negged by a dude and lived to tell about it. Read More »
Men's Rights Activists
How men's rights activists (MRAs) get feminism wrong. Read More »
Dating Don'ts: Negging
Just say no to negging! Read More »

Rare is the woman whose adventures in dating — scratch that, in living — have kept her from a brush with a pickup artist. I guess I’ve got the equivalent of pickup artist herpes because I actually dated one. Well, a former one. Keep reading »

Crazy Cat Ladies (And Dudes) Rejoice! There’s A Dating Site For Us!

Unimpressed cat
9 things unimpressed cat is unimpressed with
Nothing is spared his unfettered scorn. Read More »
No Cats, Please
Ami won't date a man with a pet cat. Read More »
Spanx for cats?
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Is your cat in need of shapewear? Read More »

Are most things in your house covered in fur? Do you have intense personal conversations with your cats? Are you single? Then maybe you should try the Purrsonals, an online dating service specifically for cat obsessives. As you might imagine, there’s way more women on this than dudes, but what kind of guys can you find on Purrsonals? Well, one user is looking for “a Special Lady for a serious and long lasting relationship or more.” Another says, “I have two gorgeous calicos already. But now I’m looking for a girl who can speak my language to cuddle with at night.” And then there’s this guy:

I like cats. I love cats. Cats Cats Cats. I like to lick cats. I like to breath cats. I like cats with no tails cause the way there butt wiggles.

And don’t worry — you’re more of a dog person (for some reason), there’s always Dog Lovers Personals.

Dealbreaker: He Wore Three Condoms

Dealbreaker: Pee
He asked her to pee on him. It was not what she was expecting. Read More »
Dealbreaker: Pimp
He wanted her to be his pimp. Read More »
Dealbreaker: Height
He lied about his height. Like really LIED. Read More »

I am a woman 33 years of age who practices safe sex. But it wasn’t always that way. As a woman of 19, 20 and 21, I was in no uncertain terms an idiot where safe sex was concerned. Sometimes I forced a guy to wear a condom, sometimes I didn’t.

But that all changed when I hit 22.For it was at this stage that I that I met a man in a bar, went home with him, had sex with him. And not just any man. This man was drummed up in a dive bar. He was covered in tattoos, and I’m quite sure his continued trips to the bathroom were cocaine-related. When we got back to his place I quickly discovered that he owned a pet iguana, a leathery little thing named Juan who he allowed to roam free around his East Village bedroom. I had condom-less sex with this gentleman, and spent the whole of the next day convinced his myriad STIs were coursing through my system.

Now: I know you can’t judge a book by its cover. I know that just because a man is covered in tattoos and owns a pet iguana and has a whiff of the cocaine addict about him, that doesn’t mean that he’s got chlamydia. BUT Keep reading »

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