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Dear Wendy: “Is It OK To Email A Former Online Match?”

I’m currently single, but have been active on a couple of online dating sites for a couple of years. I’m not looking for random hookups, but an actual meaningful relationship. Clearly, I’ve yet to find that, although I have met/e-mailed with some extremely decent guys. Last winter I was e-mailing with this guy I was very interested in — we never talked on the phone, but we exchanged long emails, and I really felt like we connected, that we shared a lot of interests and the same sense of humor. We were talking about meeting up for drinks, but it was hard because we were both visiting family over the holidays. Then he met someone else and sent me an e-mail explaining why he hadn’t responded, telling me he wanted to keep in touch and apologizing for potentially being a d-bag. We never did meet up, but through some internet stalking I found out he ended up in a relationship with that someone else, but I think he may be single again. I know, I sound like Glenn Close in “Fatal Attraction” right now, but if it means anything, I never spent more than a few minutes looking him up. My question is this: would it be overly creepy/internet stalker of me to e-mail him now, a year after we stopped talking? He keeps coming up in my e-mail matches, and I was so excited to meet up with him before he met someone else. Also, I’m starting to get really tired of looking for decent men online, especially knowing he and I probably have a high chance of hitting it off in person. Should I shoot him a quick message or just leave it in the past? — Still Interested

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Dating Site Kicks Out 5,000 “Fatties”

BeautifulPeople.com is an ultra PC online dating site where only the mega-hot are allowed to post profiles. In order to get listed, members go through a rigorous rating period whereby site managers inspect their pictures and determine whether they’re gorg enough to join the club. But after the holiday season, as members posted new photos of themselves, site managers noticed a HORRIFYING thing—some of their members had (gaaaaasp) put on a few pounds. So, the site kindly kicked out 5,000 members, encouraging them to reapply “when they’re looking their best” and go through the rating process again. The founder of the site explained this move saying, “As a business, we mourn the loss of any member, but the fact remains that our members demand the high standard of beauty be upheld. Letting fatties roam the site is a direct threat to our business model and the very concept for which BeautifulPeople.com was founded.”

While this whole thing smacks of a publicity stunt—just like I don’t believe Warren Beatty slept with 13,000 women, I don’t believe that this rinky dink dating site has 5,000 members who so obviously gained weight over the holidays—but if it’s true, pretty horrifying. [Telegraph] Keep reading »

Dater X: Falling For The Guy I Didn’t Want To Go Out With In The First Place

I stood outside a Greenwich Village coffee shop at 6 p.m. on a Tuesday night, staring at the front door. I was meeting a very handsome architect inside, but for some reason, I wanted to bolt. Honestly, I had come close to picking up the phone and canceling our date earlier in the day. Three times to be precise. I just wasn’t excited about this guy. Keep reading »

Meet Velvetpark Mate, A New Lesbian Dating Website

I’m not a lesbian. But, I do have lots of lezzie friends who have complained about the lack of gay online dating options. Now, Velvetpark Media has launched a lesbian dating website called Velvetpark Mate. Writes site editor Grace Moon: “[We are] the first lesbo dating site … because we are NOT an affiliate program, or an ‘out of the box’ 3rd party package with a lesbian label slapped on it, NOR are we an afterthought of a male dominated media company, or the unwanted stepchild of a straight date site.” Keep reading »

Dating Website OKCupid Finds Race A Factor In Email Response

Online dating website OKCupid has posted an entry on its blog that takes a close look at its users’ email response patterns according to race. The results might not be surprising, but they’re nevertheless significant—a sender’s race plays a large role in whether he/she will get a response. By comparing the write-back rate of Asian, black, white, Hispanic, Middle Eastern, Pacific Islander, Indian, and Native American men and women, the website finds that correspondence is noticeably less or more than what the write-back rate “should” be. In a nutshell, OKCupid breaks down the research, which analyzed about a million users. White men get the most responses. Black women respond the most yet receive far fewer replies. White, Asian, and Hispanic women largely prefer white men. OKCupid calls this racism:

“[We] are about to basically prove that, despite what you might’ve heard from the Obama campaign and organic cereal commercials, racism is alive and well.

Do you think it’s racist to have race preferences in the man or woman you date? Are you a racist if you’re not attracted to a certain race? [Blog.OkCupid.com] Keep reading »

Advice For Dudes: The Top 5 Online Dating Dos And Don’ts

Are you a dude on an online dating site? Are you having trouble getting women to actually go out with you? Not sure why? The problem may be you! From corny pickup lines to photo no-nos to profile mistakes, The Frisky gives you the lowdown on the top five mistakes men make when dating online — from the female perspective. Get it right and we might let you take us out on a date! Keep reading »

CrazyBlindDate.com Lets You Order Up A Man In Your Town

Anyone who lives in a big city can tell you that finding a mate is difficult. Sure, there are a lot of fish swimming about, but they’re not willing to settle with one particular mate yet so they keep their options open. Crazy Blind Date has set out to change the big city dating dilemma by making it quick and easy for women to meet men in their area and go out on extremely short notice. So there’s no reading and rereading of profiles and messaging back and forth to see if you and the guy are compatible. You simply give a few specs, the site matches with a guy that fits your requirements, and you go on a date to see if you like each other. You might not find your soul mate in the first few dates or ever, but at least you won’t be sitting at home watching “What Not to Wear” on a Friday night. [Crazy Blind Date] Keep reading »

Words That Will Get You Laid On OKCupid

Any lass who’s dipped her toes into the online dating waters knows after two days all the messages (and the dudes who wrote them) blur together. Newsflash: saying “Hey, I love ‘The Office’ too!’ doesn’t woo the ladies, guys.

But do you know what really peaks the interest and prompts a woman to respond? For OKCupid, it’s messages that contain the words “zombie,” “tattoo,” and “piercing.” Keep reading »

Googling Your Date: A Cautionary Tale

Most of you probably Google a date’s name before you go out with him — some of you probably Google his name before you AGREE to go out with him (I know I would) — but how many of you Google a date’s email address? If you think that’s a crazy idea, too stalker-ish or whatever, have I got a cautionary tale for you! Recently, a friend of mine we’ll call “Angie” met a guy she thought might hit it off with her roommate — we’ll call her “Sheila” — and set about putting them in touch. “But I’m actually attracted to you,” the guy said to Angie, to which she replied honestly that she was already seeing someone and, besides, he wasn’t really her type anyway (he’s heavily tattooed and pierced — something she’s not into, but her roomie is). “Fine,” he said, “But will your roommate put me in my place like you will?” Angie assured him that Sheila was no doormat and would put him in his place if need be. “And you told her what I look like?” He asked. Angie assured him that she told Sheila about his tattoos and piercings and that she was totally fine with it. Keep reading »

Dating Don’ts: How To Keep The Crazy At Bay When You’re Online Dating

Though one or two exes might dispute this, I’ve never been one of those crazy girls. Under normal circumstances I don’t snoop, don’t obsess (too much), and am generally fairly sane(ish) in my dealings with the opposite sex. However, while I met my current, long-term boyfriend on Nerve.com, at no time in my life did I ever feel as nutso as when I was online dating on a regular basis.

Now that my profile has been deleted and I have the wisdom that, unfortunately, comes far too late to be helpful to me, I might be able to save you some heartache…
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