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Online Dating — Brave New World Or Future Fail?

The archetype of the sad sack single internet computer geek may soon have to be retired. A new study from the American Sociological Association found that people with internet access at home were more likely to be in relationships than those without.

And, it turns out, it’s likely that many of these relationships were found online. Keep reading »

Dear Wendy: “My Boyfriend Isn’t Physically Attracted To Me”

I met a guy on the internet a little over a year ago. We clicked right away, and discovered we’re both mid-30s and share the same philosophies, thoughts and beliefs. A lot of our likes and dislikes mingle quite nicely, too. Of course, it’s a long-distance thing, but we’ve had a couple visits, both in his town and in mine. We’ve had fun in bed — the sex isn’t amazing, but it shows distinct promise. Bottom line: I want to make a life with this man; I can’t imagine connecting with someone else on the same level ever again. But, the problem is he isn’t physically attracted to me. I think I’ve always known it, but I pushed it to the back of my mind. The only time the word “hot” has been mentioned is when I’m performing particular sex acts on (or for) him. And even then, it wasn’t “you’re hot”, but “that’s hot.” Silly, I know, but it makes a difference… And now it’s out in the open, and I feel utterly broken up by it. He’s insisting that he loves me with his “fully-advanced” brain, and that what the “reptilian brain” thinks isn’t important. But it is! If he doesn’t find me attractive, then he doesn’t love me completely. Is it possible to make a life with someone when their heart doesn’t skip a beat upon seeing you? — Not Hot to Him

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Frisky Rant: Leave The Texting Lingo Out Of Online Dating!

As I’m sure you’ve noticed in my writing on The Frisky, I’m guilty of speaking in what I call “Gossip Girl”-ese. Example: It’s totes obvs that I like to shorten words for no real amazeballs reason. But whatevs. I have no doubt that this is seriously grating to some people, but on the blog — which I consider my online home — and amongst friends, this is the way I speak and how I write in emails and text messages sometimes. Amongst friends, I specified. When I’m getting to know someone new or conversing with someone professionally, I, of course, leave the “whatevs” and the “WTFs” and the “totes” out of it. I wish others would do the same, but unfortunately, I’ve started to notice modern web, text, and pop-culture lingo infiltrating the online dating process. Keep reading »

OkCupid Apparently Thinks I Am Ugly

Last night, my friend J. forwarded me an email that had been sent to a friend of hers from OkCupid. “We are very pleased to report that you are in the top half of OkCupid’s most attractive users,” the website wrote to J.’s pal. “The scales recently tipped in your favor, and we thought you’d like to know. How can we say this with confidence? We’ve tracked click-thrus on your photo and analyzed other people’s reactions to you…” The reward for J.’s friend, now that he was one of the online dating site’s elite hotties? Easier access to the other elite hotties! “You will now see more attractive people in your match results,” OkCupid raved. Uh, OK, whatever. But how was J.’s friend to know that OkCupid wasn’t just sending this email to every single user as a marketing scheme? “And, no, we didn’t just send this email to everyone on OkCupid,” they assured. “Go ask an ugly friend and see.” Turns out J., also an OkCupid user, is an “ugly friend,” since she didn’t receive this oh-so-special surprise in her inbox. And apparently, so am I, because I didn’t get one either! Hey, OkCupid, bite me! Keep reading »

Online Dating Just Got Creepier With Pickup Cards

I’m having issues lately with the fact that dating rituals seem to be getting further and further away from “natural”—like where two people meet, like each other, and decide to go out. I already have trouble accepting online dating as a necessary evil of being a 30-something single, but there are some cool sites out there that are giving it their best effort to make it as not awkward as possible. And then there are others that are ruining dating altogether. According to an article in The New York Times, there is new online dating trend that involves business cards with pickup lines and barcodes. Oh. No. Keep reading »

Man Banned From Facebook After Claiming He Bedded 300 Women From The Site

It sounds like Clive Worth fancies himself a modern day Casanova. He claims to have bedded more than 1,500 women thanks to the help of online dating and social networking sites. He even wrote a book about it called A Serial Shagger’s Guide to Online Dating. Yuck. The 60-year-old ex-miner claims that at least 300 of his conquests have come from Facebook. So now the site is banning his account. Worth says he doesn’t see the reason why the site is not allowing him access, but is working around the ban by creating a disguise profile as a woman. What an ingenious man! Keep reading »

Dealbreaker: He Told Me to Lose Weight

Dan had a big grin in his profile picture, like he’d just said something super funny. He liked foreign novels, old buildings, and could spell in complete words. He looked like a cute professor.

Could this be … my guy?

I’d been online dating for a few months – long enough. There were the guys who lied about their age/height/marital status, the guy who said I was a dead ringer for his favorite blond sports reporter and would I mind putting on a fake newscast for him, and my favorite, the guy who asked me not to use face cream because he had a phobia about moisturizers. Keep reading »

8 Big Mistakes Women Make On Their Online Dating Profiles

Another day, another crop of online dating profiles to annoy the crap out of me. I don’t enjoy online dating much in that so far it’s been pretty unsuccessful, but I sure do love reading online dating profiles. This time, I decided to take a break from perusing profiles for guys who’ve given themselves weird nicknames and specify they’re only interested in younger women, to study what my fellow female online daters are up to. I have to say, I am impressed. I have some stiff competition, at least in the New York area — ladies who are attractive, funny, witty, smart, and sassy. Seriously, I was ready to message at least a handful of these chicks to see if they’d want to be besties. After skimming dozens and dozens of profiles written by women, it’s clear that men are the ones who need the most help when it comes to attracting women online. Still, I did see a few glaring DON’TS being committed by the ladies, so let’s learn from them, shall we? Here’s how to make sure your profile is a cut above the rest. Keep reading »

The Most Common Lies People Tell When Dating Online

OKCupid has compiled another one of their exhaustive reports on online dating factoids after surveying their data, and this time around we get to find out what exactly men and women are lying about when it comes to online dating. Really, there are no big surprises here, but it’s sort of eye-opening when you see how, well, endemic it is. For example, it’s not like a few dudes lie about their height. Like, large numbers of them are claiming to be two-inches taller than they really are. Maybe that’s no big deal if you’re a 5’6″ chick, but I’m 6’1″, and homie don’t play that. People also lie like hell about their income and on average make 20 percent less than they claim. Another conclusion: The more attractive your photo is, the more likely it’s out of date. Also? All you people frontin’ about being bisexual? Mostly, you’re straight. In any case, it’s sort of disheartening, until you realize that we’re all, in one way or another, misrepresenting ourselves, to some degree — aren’t we? [OKCupid] Keep reading »

A New Online Dating Site For Bookworms

I try not to judge a book by its cover—except when it comes to a potential mate’s taste in books. I definitely weed people out based on their bookshelves or lack thereof. No books = no way in my world. That’s why I’m excited about a new online dating site, Alikewise, where you can choose your dates based on their taste in books. It’s perfect! You can skip that awkward moment where you sniff out each other’s book persona and get straight to the part where you geek out over your love for Ayn Rand. Or in Amelia’s case, you can, ahem, eliminate him if he happens to have enjoyed The Fountainhead. But seriously, whether you’re into sci-fi, great literature, romance novels or memoirs, you can find a fellow bookworm with whom you’d be happy to read in bed on Sunday night. [Alikewise] Keep reading »

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