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Here Are The Surprising New Findings From Pew’s Study About Online Dating — In GIFs!

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Online dating is not for the faint of heart. That much I can tell you from personal experience. From the guy who called his own mother a “slut” to the guy who picked a fight with me on our second date, it truly was a wild ride and I’m glad not to be kissing any more Mr. Toads.  You need anecdotal horror stories about online dating, I’m your girl.

But what about the data-driven side of finding wuv online?

Well, the Pew Research Center released a new report today on public attitudes towards online dating and relationships. It asked almost 2,252 ages 18 and up their opinions on Internet romance, comparing many of their questions with the results of past studies. The good news is that online dating is getting increasingly more accepted by society? The bad news?  It’s still dating.  Blech.

Here are some of the surprising new findings from Pew’s study, presented in GIFs! Keep reading »

Here’s What Happens When You Make An OKCupid Profile That’s Actually Honest

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Let’s be real, honesty terrifies people — probably more than almost anything else. We like to fill our social interactions with surface-level conversations about how we’re “doing just fine” and save the real stuff for a select few people we trust. Even then, it’s tempting to only confide deep feelings that reflect well on us and push the ugliest stuff  deep down. Do the masks we wear cause us to lose out on potential deep connections? Probably.

Brooklyn artist Jessica Prusa wanted to see what would happen if she skipped the surface-level niceties and presented her most vulnerable, raw thoughts to strangers. So, as she explained on The Hairpin, Jessica created an OKCupid profile (originally for a nude self portrait-themed art exhibit in New York) that explores the honesty of the Internet when paired with the accountability of having your name and face next to your words. Her profile shared some of her deepest thoughts and fears, as she hoped to gauge how men would respond to blunt truthfulness instead of the “best self” we tend to present in our online personas.  Keep reading »

Dater X: Stuck Between A Rock And A Bar Place

Dater X: Stuck Between A Rock And A Bar Place

As I approach my two-year anniversary as an online dater (AKA my slow descent into madness), I’m finding myself incredibly bitter about the fact that I still haven’t met “the one.” I’ve always believed that there are multiple soul mates out there for everyone, but that the one person you end up with is entirely dependent upon a series of choices you make in life. Kind of like a Choose Your Own Adventure book, I feel that every decision I make — from selecting a career path, right down to whether or not I should run a yellow light — will determine which of those guys I end up with. In my eyes, there’s a different one at the end of every storyline. After dozens of dates and three pseudo-relationships — the longest of which lasted two months — I’m starting to doubt my theory. Keep reading »

Debate This: You Can Filter Matches By Body Type On OKCupid — But Is That Such A Bad Thing?

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In a move that is sure to cause ripples in some dark corner of the Internet hive mind, the A-list subscription service on OK Cupid includes a robust search function that lets you sort by body type and attractiveness rating. To those of you prepping your pitchforks and strapping on your combat boots to storm the castle, hold off. I know what this sounds like, but trust me, it’s not necessarily as bad as it seems.

This feature has been available for months, and it’s only now gained traction, but it’s just a recognition of the way human minds work. There is nothing worse than being on a date with someone who is clearly not interested in you, whether you are fat or thin or covered in scales. Life is short! If you find yourself sitting across the table from someone that’s too short or too tall or bald or you’re just simply not attracted to them, that’s just a free beer and a waste of time. Imagine the new heights of success your dating life could reach if you were able to sort out by what you knew you weren’t attracted to! Imagine not feel weirdly obligated to at least mouth kiss some dude that bought you a lot of drinks, despite the fact you’re not attracted to him. Keep reading »

Meet Amy Webb, The Woman Who Outsmarted Online Dating

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Meet Amy Webb, The Woman Who Outsmarted Online Dating
She Cracked The Algorithm Of Love

When Amy Webb, a single 30-something who had just gone through a breakup, was faced with the prospect of trying to find eligible bachelors in the city of Philadelphia, she realized the pickings were slim. How slim? After crunching some data on single, Jewish men, she ascertained that she had exactly 35 possible romantic options in a city of 1.5 million. Webb knew that she could either take her grandmother’s advice to “luck into love” or go online. Could her story sound any more familiar? I don’t think so.

Webb eventually chose to post an online profile, which she filled out by copying  and pasting phrases from her resume. After a few horrendous dates (one guy left her with a bill that cost an entire month’s rent!), Webb, a data junkie and lover of algorithms, undertook the Herculean task of outsmarting online dating at its own game. Here’s how she did it: Keep reading »

Dater X: Are We Really Talking About Sex Before Our First Date?

Dater X: Are We Really Talking About Sex Before Our First Date?

This past week, I got a bunch of messages on OKCupid. Some of the guys I’d never consider because I tend to avoid men who tell me they prefer to “stay home on most Friday nights and read poetry with a good glass of single malt.” Others seemed too old for me… and that’s not even including the scotch sippers. Out of  the eight messages I received, there were two contenders that seemed datable.

Both were seemingly nice guys — attractive with ambition and wit. Hot Doctor is just finishing up med school and has a smile that would charm the knickers off grandma. The other guy, whom I’ve dubbed Sensitive Frat Bro, is a sweet entrepreneur who could just as easily be wearing a toga and chugging a beer on a Phi Kappa Tau recruitment poster. Eligible bachelors on free dating websites (and in life) are pretty hard to come by, so I decided to message them back. After talking to both of my suitors (one on Gchat and the other on OKCupid instant messenger) for several days in a row about things like family, hobbies, and careers, they both brought up the topic of sex. Keep reading »

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