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11 OKCupid Questions I’d Like To See Put Into Rotation

11 OKCupid Questions I'd Like To See Put Into Rotation

True facts: I’m still on OKCupid, mostly to gawk at people and to try to answer ALL THE QUESTIONS. I’ve answered 1503 of them. I’m behind.

That being said, I don’t think they’re always as to-the-point as they could be, and some of them are just plain bizarre (and they get weirder the more you answer, trust me on that). I have some ideas for questions that would make it easier for me to discern who should be my friend or not: Keep reading »

Science Says These 7 Things Will Score You A Date Online

Science Says These Seven Things Will Score You A Date Online

Meeting a mate online is not easy. At all. And anyone who’s used even a dating app can tell you a horror story or three. Your straightforward and basic account profile won’t catch potential partners’ eyes – instead, it’ll turn them off.

What matters? Well, according to statistics, it’s a mix of things we can’t control, how talk about ourselves and what we show off. It can be everything from race to your favorite sport. And while appearances matter more than ever to the online world, so does vocab … and where you take your profile picture.

Here’s what science says will get you in the door — and staying there. Read more on Your Tango…

Dater XY: How Many Women Is Too Many To Date At Once?

Dater XY: How Many Women Is Too Many To Date At Once?

It has been a few weeks since I called things off with The Teacher. Things just weren’t going in the direction I wanted, so I began my search again. Since then, I’ve been on a several dates with a couple of different women.

I define dating is the time before two individuals make their relationship exclusive. That time period is usually five or six dates for me; for other people, it may be a lot more. Since I go out with some women only one or two times, this means I end up dating several ladies simultaneously. Recently,  I’ve started to wonder how many women is too many to date at the same time. Keep reading »

Dater XY: I’ve Got A Booty Call Plus

Dater XY: I've Got A Booty Call Plus

Welcome to our new weekly column Dater XY! Our anonymous MALE dater will be revealing the adventures and misadventures of finding love from a dude’s point of view. Let’s give him a big welcome! 

With a high of four degrees and over a foot of snow, the weather was not fit for man nor beast. But I had a date, so off I went into the icy cold. I’d met The Teacher through an online dating site, like so many of us do these days. I had sent her a message to see if she wanted to share a drink, she accepted, and we met at one of my favorite restaurants.

Over dinner, we chatted about the usual first date things: where we were from, how long we’ve been in the city, music we like, if we enjoyed our meals, etc. The more we talked, the more our chemistry grew. Of course, the chemistry could have been the Malbec. But judging by the smiles on our faces, The Teacher and I had something more. After a few hours of flirtatious and witty banter, we paid our check and I walked her to a cab. Our next date was set in two weeks and I was a happy guy. Keep reading »

Uh, Why Haven’t I Thought To Use A Dating Pseudonym?

Uh, Why Haven't I Thought To Use A Dating Pseudonym?

There is only one Amelia McDonell-Parry on Planet Earth. Do a Google search for my name and the first page of results turn up links to my writing — much of it about sex and dating on The Frisky — as well as a highly ridiculous and random Google group discussion post claiming that I advocate the rape of minors. (I don’t, of course. This allegation, started by a men’s rights activist quite a few years ago, dates back to an old Frisky post I did on hot guys we’re ashamed we want to bang. Nick Jonas was among them — he was 17 at the time. So, not only not a minor, but also since when does “want to bang” = “advocate raping”? I digress…)

Aside from that last one — which is, again, ridiculous, but vaguely annoying to have to explain — I’m not ashamed of anything you might find by Googling me. (Okay, unless you dive deep into my internet footprint and turn up the work I did in the mid-’90s as a diehard “General Hospital” fan campaigning for the preservation of Sonny and Brenda’s love. That I’m a lil’ mortified by.) But I’ll be honest — as someone who has (willingly and happily) written extensively about dating and sex and held back virtually nothing in the embarrassing stories department,  I totally cringe at the thought of a guy reading alllllll about me before our first date. So maybe it’s time I rip a page from writer Anna Davies book and start using a pseudonym or two. No, not as my byline — as the name I give to new dudes I’m dating, until I decide that they’re allowed to know the real me and dig for more. Keep reading »

Dating Don’ts: Is It A Booty Call Or Nah?

Dating Don'ts: Is It A Booty Call Or Nah?
Booty Call Etiquette
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You should not wake your roommate up if you're having a booty call. Read More »

We’ve all been there. Someone you were hot and heavy with will suddenly disappear, as if wiped from this earth, only to reappear in the form of a typo-laden text message one night while you’re doing a face mask in your sweatpants. Like that mosquito that you try endlessly to kill before going to sleep, this text irks you. Maybe you were bummed about the way things ended, and you’re considering entertaining this missive. Maybe you hate this person forever, but didn’t mind having sex with them and could be persuaded to do it again. Communication these days is so very tricky, but never fear, I am here for you. In this day and age, it can be difficult to figure out what precisely constitutes a booty call, and how exactly you should respond to it. Whatever your situation may be, you’re facing the age old question — is it a booty call or nah? Here are some situations you might find yourself in, along my expert assessment so that you might tackle these situations head on. Keep reading »

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