The older I get, the better I become at listening to what my intuition is telling me. I haven’t always been able to read when something is “off” with a guy, but I’m figuring it out. And thank God.
Take this weekend. I’d been messaging for a couple days with a guy from an online dating website. Let’s call him Empty Profile. We’re calling him that because he had a mostly empty profile. He wrote a few brief lines about himself, which didn’t reveal much, but he did post several pictures of himself. We flirted back and forth and Empty Profile eventually asked me if I wanted to get drinks on Saturday night. Keep reading »
Online dating, ugh, am I right? Total pain in the balls. But if you’re rich, like most things, you can buy your way out of it. That’s because Canadian online dating company A Million Matches now offers an attractive new service — for a measely $1,249, they’ll take the pain, frustration and annoyance (as well as joy, excitement and fun) of online dating from you and do all the heavy lifting.
“Every year more and more people subscribe to online dating sites,” explains the site. “Last year alone the industry grew 60 percent. But this explosion in growth comes with more competition, more work and less convenience. Well-presented online daters can receive up to 100 messages a day. Finding your ideal companion is one thing, finding him or her in minimal time is another.” Keep reading »
Ladies, ever get a creepy, unwanted dick pic or jerk off shot from a dude online? There you were, talking about your favorite Jay-Z song and then all the sudden — blam! — there’s a dick all up in your inbox. That’s what happened to Sarah, who had posted a profile on the dating website Let’s Date, hoping to find someone nice. The 20-year-old Long Island, New York, woman was was minding her own business, talking about the weather — literally, talking about the weather — with a guy named Trevor, when he surprise dick-pic-ed her.
Sarah was understandably upset. “I don’t need to be disrespected by someone I don’t know,” she texted back to him. Sarah told Trevor to leave her alone, but he didn’t listen, and instead responded with a barrage of insults. Time and again she asked that he stop messaging her, but he wouldn’t.
But rather than just getting mad, she got even. Keep reading »
No matter how many times people are warned about conversing with strangers online, people do it. People have a driving need for human interaction, and as our lives become more and more isolated — working from home, living far away from family, conversing with friends only through social media — that intense need for human interaction can loosen your grip on common sense. How else to explain that when a woman met a charming man on a dating site, she struck up an intense online-only relationship with him that included delving into all of the details of her horrible relationship with her ex-husband? The woman was in for a shock when it turned out that the man she’d been confiding in for a year was – none other than her ex-husband. Read more on The Stir…
Good news, online daters! Your next relationship is more likely to last than that of your non-Internet-y peers. A new study from eHarmony (and independently verified) found that more people than ever are finding their mates online. A survey of 19,000 married people found that a third of them met their significant other via an online dating site. And those who met online reported higher levels of satisfaction in their marriages. Couples who met online were also less likely to break up or get divorced.
But just because two people met online doesn’t necessarily mean they were using an online dating site. While 45 percent of the people surveyed were on some matchmaking site, 20 percent met their mate via social networks, and another 10 percent through online chat rooms.
Why might meeting online work so well? Keep reading »
While many people start online dating to meet people, I joined OKCupid because I knew far too many already. This may sound cold, but I wanted to meet guys outside of my social circle who were more … expendable. If a date or few went badly, I didn’t want to bump awkwardly into these guys at a party. At that time, I didn’t take dating especially seriously. I was bored and I thought of it as an amusing diversion. Maybe I would have been more cautious if I had been more invested, but I wasn’t.
Online, most daters try to present the best possible versions of themselves in their profile. Supposedly, this is the only way to get dates. Instead, I tried to present a more accurate picture. I had a few photos of me all dressed up, but being a makeup artist, that felt a bit unfair, so I included some regular candid shots with my usual BB cream and lip balm. I didn’t want my dates to be disappointed when I didn’t put that much effort in to meet them for coffee. On the older version of OKC, you got to describe yourself in three words and I always made sure one of them was “neurotic.” Keep reading »
My girlfriend and I met on eHarmony, so I’ll be the first to acknowledge that online dating can absolutely be a worthwhile experience. Still, it was far from a smooth journey. I dabbled with it for almost seven years, and prior to Melissa, the most memorable thing I came away with was a tome’s worth of craptacular dating stories. (Though, in that respect, I guess I do have eHarmony and Match to thank for my writing career.)
Armed with years of slow-churned cynicism, I took to the internet to see if others shared my experiences. What I uncovered were some harsh realities about online dating that no one ever talks about. After the jump, some things you might not have known… Keep reading »
Who has the time or the inclination to online date? Why bother with it, when you can just outsource it to an online dating surrogate, someone who will do all the “connecting with another living human being” junk for you. Some real peach of a guy created this Craigslist ad, in search of a woman to do all the dating heavy lifting. What’s he looking for? Funny you ask! “Ideal candidate for this job is similar to dating candidates sought: Pretty, thin, educated female in her 20s or 30s (with great taste and strong writing ability.)”
Sounds totally reasonable — as the plot of a shitty Justin Long movie.
The full ad is after the jump. [Betabeat]
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OK Cupid can be a great place to get a date. But delve too deep into the hidden corners of the online dating site, and you’re probably not going to like what you find. Ever take a gander at their “questions” section? It’s extensive, and covers everything from what you like to do in bed, to what you like to eat, to how you’d raise your future OKC spawn. There are literally hundreds — nay, thousands — of these questions, created by the site and also submitted by users. And LaptopMag.com trolled through and found 10 of the creepiest. Keep reading »
“I had a longtime boyfriend … That ended a couple years ago. And I haven’t found the next Mr. Right … I started to laugh halfway down the page [when filling out my Match.com profile], … It was, like, impossible …I want to do my real thing… I love dating.”
– Martha Stewart complained to “Today’”s Matt Lauer about online dating. Join the club, Martha. We all get to that place when filling out our online profiles and then we breathe through it because the option of spending eternity alone seems even worse. Way to give us hope, Martha. [US Weekly]