Kicking and screaming, dragging my feet all the way, after more than four years offline, I finally joined an online dating site. I was trying to avoid it, but I decided that, while I was was meeting guys in person, I wanted meet a wider variety of guys. I am happy to say, that so far, it’s not so bad. But I’ve noticed a few things that guys are consistently doing wrong in my humble opinion. After the jump, some things dudes need to stop doing if they want to improve their luck online. Keep reading »
And, considering it has been sent to me, like, 10 times today, I suppose I should write about it, even though every time I try and think of an annnngle or a point of viewwwww or a spinnnnnn, I feel sick to my stomach. So I am not going to say anything other than James Holmes, the guy who killed 12 people and injured countless others at a midnight screening of “The Dark Knight Rises” last week, had a Match.com profile and he turned up on a list of matches for a woman only identified as Diana and she naturally felt sick about it. Aside from the fact that his tagline was ”Will you visit me in prison?” his profile looks not unlike the bajillions of dudes that have messaged me over my years of online dating and that just confirms what I already know, which is that crazies walk amongst us and it’s impossible to tell who they are based on a couple of doctored up factoids. [TMZ]
In the golden age of technology, online and mobile dating has become a prominent way to connect with new people. With an estimated 40 billion singles online, it has never been easier to target and meet potential love interests. At the click of a button, you can meet and possibly find the man or woman of your dreams. So why isn’t it working for you?
Let’s look at your online dating profile. People to tend to forget that a first impression is a lasting impression and if you are looking for love online, you have to make sure that the impression you leave is a good one.
Listed below are my top 4 reasons why your online dating profile may be sabotaging your love life. Read more…
Internet dating: isn’t it fun? It can be if know how to have fun with it. Don’t just sit back and wait for people to contact you. If you are male or female (especially if you’re female) reach out and contact the people you find attractive. It’s a whole different world of dating today.
What I tell my clients is to think of Internet dating like a huge single’s party. Let’s say you were looking around the room and someone caught your eye. You could never be sure who noticed whom first. Maybe the other person had been checking you out seconds earlier. The thing is to hook that other person’s attention and create a spark so they he or she will want to talk to you. It’s the same with the Internet. All you want to do is get the other person’s attention and make them want to know more. Read more …
For a second, I was almost like, “Man, these OK Cupid profiles of Juggalos are too sad to even post.” And then I was like, “Wait! Actually, I’m a terrible person, I don’t care.” Sorry, but Juggalos are never not funny. The new Tumblr JuggalosOnOkCupid proves the point, by highlighting all the awesome Insane Clown Posse fans available and ready to take you on a date, Faygo and hatchet included. [JuggalosOnOkCupid]
In the summer of 2006, after having recently endured a breakup, I decided to bite the bullet, finally hopping on the online dating bandwagon. I chose Nerve as the site, and “Sara_B” and “This is really awkward” as my username and headline. Because, well, I am. And because, well, it was. I downloaded this one photo of me in a polka-dot dress and this other one of me in an absurd straw fedora and scoured the internet for someone to date.
I found him the very next day: LuckyJim_28. He had well-groomed facial hair, and those trendy, thick-framed hipster glasses. Nerve asked its members for a list of items they couldn’t live without, and LuckyJim_28 had written Martha Steward pie-crust mold and gun for killing Facebook friends who post about what they had for dinner. I found LuckyJim generally attractive, and the written answers to his profile genuinely amusing, and so I emailed him the following: “Hi there LuckyJim. Thanks for recognizing the level of self-absorption on display when one photographs one’s own food and uploads it on the internet. Also, I think you have nice glasses. – Very best, Sara B.”
His reply — “Well hello sara_b. Glad to meet a kindred spirit” – came later that same night. I liked the brevity of both the email and the response time – neither overly eager nor too hard-to-get – and after more back-and forths, we set up a date at a local bar. Keep reading »
“The internet has really changed the way people date. I just went to an OKCupid wedding. One of my really good friends met her fiancé on an OKCupid-style website. OKCupid’s really popular–all my girlfriends have joined. I love those sites. I go on and I pick the guys for my friends. I think it’s great … It’s online shopping! We all get together with our laptops and have a glass of wine. Then we message the guy … If I didn’t do what I do, I would do Internet dating instead of going out to bars. In two seconds I would. It makes so much more sense … No, [I don't date online]. Because, ultimately, what’s going to happen? I’ve never dated. I can say this honestly: I don’t know what it’s like to date. But also, how am I going to date? I’m not in one state long enough.”
–Mila Kunis talks about dating in Glamour. As complicated as dating is for a Jane Doe like me, I image it would be eons more complicated for a star like Mila Kunis. But is she really meeting guys in bars? I doubt it. Just please let the rumors about her and Ashton Kutcher be completely false. She does say that 99 percent of what we read in the ‘bloids in bulls**t and calls it “bullying.” I am taking that to mean that she’s not doing anything with Ashton. Phew. [Glamour]
Real talk: a lot of people are really bad at selling themselves online dating. Have you seen OK Cupid Enemies? Have you read Annals Of Online Dating? From their profile pics to their self-descriptions to their harebrained “what up girl i wanna get wit u” messages, they almost make it too easy.
Too easy to stay single, I mean.
So I’m going to suggest something uncomfortable: I’m going to suggest you show your online dating profile, everything in your online dating profile, to a trusted friend and ask for an honest assessment of what you’re doing wrong. Keep reading »
If you’ve ever heard anyone say “they look so cute together” and written it off as some magical fate-like bullshit that only romantic-comedy-loving girls would say, a new dating site called Find Your FaceMate might prove you wrong. That’s because they match people who they believe look good together.
Yes, ladies and gentlemen, it doesn’t get any more superficial than this. While sites like eHarmony use a 100-point check system to match couples based on legitimate commonalities, Find Your FaceMate makes matches based on people with similar looks. Read more …
For anyone who’s ever wondered what the downside to online dating is, allow me to present THIS GUY and his scary makeshift medieval weapon. And the other guys in this slideshow. And every other dude (and some women) on the blog OK Cupid Enemies, which collects truly abhorrent examples of singles currently on the market on the popular dating site. Prepare to be very, very scared. [OK Cupid Enemies]
Note: I have taken it upon myself to blur their faces, but OK Cupid Enemies does not.