I recently started dabbling in online dating again. I like to look at profiles while I watch TV. This internal monologue reflects a hodgepodge of recent “binge sessions.”
New episode of “Revenge”? Hell yeah. Finally. Got my wine. Well, maybe I should top it off so I don’t have to get up.
Glug glug glug. That’s good. That’s just two large glasses in total so that’s not bad at all. That’s half a bottle left for tomorrow, during “Top Chef.” Always need wine with food TV.
Ohhh-kay. Press play. Recaps from the last episode, like, three weeks ago. Time to check OK Cupid. Keep reading »
Even if you’re not a tech geek or a self-identified nerd, it’s highly possible that you’ve heard about an essay that ran on the blog Gizmodo on Monday (it’s received almost 800K hits as of this writing). In the piece, writer Alyssa Bereznak described how her first attempt at online dating resulted in her going out with a guy who, at first, seemed “normal,” until he revealed that he not only played that admittedly geeky card game Magic the Gathering, but was, in fact, the world champion. In the story, Bereznak also reveals his full name, generally a big time no-no when it comes to writing about personal experiences on the internet. (Although it becomes clear that she almost doesn’t have to give his name, as Jon Finkel — that’s his name — is a legend among the Magic community because of his “world champion” status.) Keep reading »
OKCupid loves crunching the data on its daters. This week, they took a look at the most common words and phrases in the profiles of New York singletons. The results are fascinating. For both genders, not only is the most common phrase a TV show, it’s the same TV show—”30 Rock.” From there, the lists diverge, but there are an awful lot of TV shows on both gender’s lists. For men, the most used words are: “30 Rock,” “Arrested Development,” “Always Sunny in Philadelphia,” Bob Dylan, born and raised, and my iPhone. For women, the list is: “30 Rock,” “True Blood,” Jay-Z, obsessed with, ice cream, and wine.
Presumably, people mention these TV shows because (a) they like them and (b) they think liking them will appeal to potential suitors. And so we’d like to give the straight guys out there some help. After the jump, the shows guys should name check, in addition to “30 Rock” and “Arrested Development,” if they want to pique a woman’s interest. Plus some more random words that will help, too. Keep reading »
This helpful guide, created with data from OK Cupid user profiles, breaks down male/ female sex styles by keywords. This should come in very handy when searching for an online date who is CYNICAL like me. Check out some more informative OK Cupid sex charts here. [OK Cupid] Keep reading »
I recently canceled my OK Cupid account for the millionth time because I was sick of going out on dates with guys who weren’t actually interested in dating. But I’m happy the site exists if only because the data they release is so random and fascinating. For example, the site found that people whose taste buds are titillated by beer are a lot more likely to sleep with someone on the first date. What about wine drinkers? What about wine drinkers?! Oh wait, I know the answer to that question. [OK Cupid] Keep reading »
OK Cupid has attempted to decode the algorithm of the male lizard brain. Using women on the site as data, they demystified female beauty in the eye of the male beholder. Well kind of … beauty being defined in this case as getting the most messages. Keep reading »
White women talk about Nicholas Sparks, Eat Pray Love, Carrie Underwood and mascara. Black women love lip gloss, self-help and “Pretty Woman.” Latinas are gung-ho for the “Twilight” saga and “Sixteen Candles.” For Asian women, it’s “A Walk To Remember,” lip balm, and Tuesdays With Morrie that make the cut. Middle Easterners get excited by Vogue and Elizabeth Gilbert, while for Indians it’s “When Harry Met Sally” and Jane Austen. Pacific Islanders just love Mitch Albom, chivalry, and a bargain.
You might be wondering what I am talking about. Keep reading »
One of the reasons I love OKCupid — not that I’m online dating anymore — is that they do all these studies on their users’ tastes and habits and release the results, which are often fascinating. The service recently studied profile photos — the different types of photos users post and how possible paramours react to them based on the rate at which these users were contacted. Some interesting findings, after the jump … Keep reading »
Online dating website OKCupid has posted an entry on its blog that takes a close look at its users’ email response patterns according to race. The results might not be surprising, but they’re nevertheless significant—a sender’s race plays a large role in whether he/she will get a response. By comparing the write-back rate of Asian, black, white, Hispanic, Middle Eastern, Pacific Islander, Indian, and Native American men and women, the website finds that correspondence is noticeably less or more than what the write-back rate “should” be. In a nutshell, OKCupid breaks down the research, which analyzed about a million users. White men get the most responses. Black women respond the most yet receive far fewer replies. White, Asian, and Hispanic women largely prefer white men. OKCupid calls this racism:
“[We] are about to basically prove that, despite what you might’ve heard from the Obama campaign and organic cereal commercials, racism is alive and well.
Do you think it’s racist to have race preferences in the man or woman you date? Are you a racist if you’re not attracted to a certain race? [Blog.OkCupid.com] Keep reading »
Any lass who’s dipped her toes into the online dating waters knows after two days all the messages (and the dudes who wrote them) blur together. Newsflash: saying “Hey, I love ‘The Office’ too!’ doesn’t woo the ladies, guys.
But do you know what really peaks the interest and prompts a woman to respond? For OKCupid, it’s messages that contain the words “zombie,” “tattoo,” and “piercing.” Keep reading »