The only really positive thing about still being in the dating game in my 30s is that I spend a lot less time wasting my time. After all these years of dating Mr. Wrongs, I can immediately spot the signs that I am going to have to send him back into the sea for some other (un)lucky girl to catch. Sometimes I still try to convince myself that he can stay and play in my pond for a little while, ya know … just for fun, but I’ve gotten much better at knowing why and when to let that sucker swim. After the jump, some signs that Mr. Wrong needs to be Mr. Gone. Just in case you needed a friendly reminder to let that not-right-for-you guy go. Add your tips in the comments. Keep reading »
In the latest issue of Glamour, there’s this really interesting feature called “How I Knew” which features short little essays by men on “how they knew” certain things: “How I Knew I Really Would Marry Her,” “How I Knew I Was Going To Cheat,” etc. My favorite of the bunch was “How I Knew She Wasn’t The One,” in which writer Adam Sternbergh rather humorously describes how he knew various women weren’t “the one” until he finally did meet the one who was. Now, I’m not really a big believer in “the one,” so to speak, as I think we all have lots of of ones, but I am a big believer that we have even more people in our lives who were NOT the one and we can usually pinpoint one particular moment when that became clear. So, in the vein of Sternbergh’s essay for Glamour, here’s my own “How I Knew He Wasn’t The One.”
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OK, first of all, let me make it clear that I don’t believe in the concept of “the one.” I think each of us has more like the “top 40” or even “winning 100,” depending on how much ground you cover. But even in a world brimming with possibilities, at some point in our lives most of us have found ourselves infatuated with a guy who was just completely wrong for us. Not that he was necessarily a bad guy—he was just a dude we should’ve relegated to fling territory instead of fooling ourselves into thinking had long-term potential.
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