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Josh Gondelman Is Comedy’s Nicest Guy: “When I’m Mean, It’s Like A Juice Cleanse”

It doesn’t feel good, and it’s ineffective. Nobody wants or needs it.”  More »


The Soapbox: Don’t Let Drake’s “Sensitivity” Fool You – He’s Still A Misogynist

Drake’s NiceGuy (TM) persona doesn’t exempt him from being a misogynist. More »


The 10-Step Guide To Being A Total Creep To Women, According To The Founder Of A Harry Potter Fan Site

Here’s a story of a woman named Grace and a guy named Ben who refused to be ignored. Grace is a writer at Buzzfeed, while Ben is a guy she’s been familiar with since her youthful days in the Harry Potter online fan club realm. Grace and Ben don’t know each other in real life,… More »


Guy Talk: How To Spot An Asshole Pretending To Be A Nice Guy

For the past few years now, I’ve had a sporadic conversation with a close friend (I’ll call her “Jenna”) about her admitted weakness for a certain type of guy. The problem, in her own words, is that she falls for Prince Charmings who end up transforming into toads.

Recently, we turned to the… More »


Ask A Married Guy: “Is Mr. Nice Just Stringing Me Along?”

This is our friend Tom. He’s a married guy with tons of relationship experience, and a skilled advice giver who’s here to answer all your pressing sex, dating and relationship questions. Have a query for Tom? Email him at friskymarriedguy@gmail.com! All questions will be posted anonymously, unless otherwise requested.
Mr. Nice and I met in 2012. Our… More »


Dating Don’ts: The Difference Between Nice Guys And Guys Who Are Nice

I had a drink with a friend the other night who spent the entire time pouting as he regaled me with the latest details of his most recent failure in the dating world. “Girls don’t like me because they don’t like nice guys!” he said. “Girls only like assholes. No one ever wants to date… More »


Girl Talk: On Lying About Having A Boyfriend

Two days ago, I lied about having a boyfriend. I don’t do this, ever. This is one of those things I do not like to do. I do not want to feel like I have to lie about having a boyfriend to get out of an uncomfortable situation. Before I get to this story, here… More »


Dealbreaker: He Was A “Nice Guy”

The first day I met Jason* he told me he was a virgin and a “nice guy” – which was why, according to him, he was unable to get many dates.

“Women are only interested in dating guys who treat them like shit,” he told me.

The virgin thing wasn’t by… More »


How To Tell If You’re A “Nice Guy” (And How To Stop Being One, Because They’re Awful)

Let me be clear right here from the start, nice people are amazing all the time and wanting to be one should be a main goal in everyone’s life. This isn’t about them.

“Nice Guys,” with the quotes — and if you’re reading this out loud, a little stank in your voice –… More »


Men Who Go Out Of Their Way To Describe Themselves As “Good Guys” Make Me Suspicious

Earlier this morning, I was reading a piece on How About We’s blog The Date Report about men who are “serial daters” thanks to the ease of online dating web sites. Blogger Justin Rocket Silverman wrote about a piece in The Atlantic by Dan Slater called “A Million First Dates” which argues that online dating allows… More »


The Soapbox: The Self-Righteous Bullies Of Tumblr And Their Feminist Apologists

I’d been planning to let the issue of the Nice Guys of OK Cupid blog on Tumblr slide. [NOTE: The blog has since been taken down.] It is pretty depressing from every perspective. I’d squabbled and grumbled about it on Twitter with a few people, and then thankfully the Christmas break pushed it out of my mind.
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“Nice Guys Of OK Cupid” = The Scariest Tumblr Of Dudes You Never Want To Date

How do we feel about this new trend of shaming people by attaching their photos to douchey stuff they say online? I’m not arguing that some of the gents on Nice Guys Of OK Cupid are not pigs. The Tumblr is unmasking all kinds of misogynists and power-hungry freaks. Like, say, the guys who answerMore »


The Soapbox: On Nice Guys As Rapists

Almost a year ago, I wrote an essay about having been date raped in college. The piece got a strong reaction from commenters, many of whom debated whether or not I had given or not given consent for this guy to have sex with me. Much of the back-and-forth centered around the fact that I… More »


Mind Of Man: Do Nice Guys Really Finish Last?

A recent study has concluded that it doesn’t pay to be a “nice” guy. Scientists have found that men who are “agreeable” in the workplace don’t earn as much money as men who are more cutthroat. This groundbreaking finding serves to prove that tired old saying that “nice guys finish last.” When did you become… More »


Dear Wendy: “I Moved Too Slowly And Lost The Girl”

I’m 18 and have made the mistake of taking Mr. Nice Guy too far. Like so many men, I use my manners, and my charm, even my flair for romantic gestures (I write poetry and love sending flowers), as a shield. Actually, it takes me a long time to open up at all to people… More »


Sorry, Girls — There Are No Nice Guys

Here’s the thing — on paper, I’m actually one of those Nice Guys you often hear and/or read about. I’m uncomfortable to the point of nausea at the idea of being a jerk to women in order to manipulate them into sleeping with me. I do everything in my power to make a girl I’m… More »


SexReally Tries (& Fails) To Explain Why Nice Guys Finish Last

The second SexReally podcast by anti-hookup crusader Laura Sessions Stepp is online, this time looking into the subject of “Why Nice Guys Finish Last.”

Jorge from NYC told Sessions Stepp that he “stopped being nice” because he wasn’t getting any girls and added, “I know guys who are a**holes because they think that’s the… More »


Do Nice Guys Really Finish Last?

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What do women have against nice guys? Honestly, I don’t think we have anything against them. It’s not like we want to be treated like crap. If a guy we’re totally into is super nice, that’s amazing. But if a guy we’re not quite sure about or… More »