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Debate This: Would You Let Your Therapist Set You Up?

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In this weekend’s New York Times, clinical psychiatrist Richard A. Friedman grapples with the question: should therapists play matchmaker for their patients? The answer he arrives at is no: “Looking to your therapist to set up a date is as ill-advised as it is to look to Match.com for help with depression or an eating disorder.”

Friedman admits to be tempted to fix patients up but ultimately decided against it because it “would involve crossing useful boundaries. And would bring my personal life in conflict with my job as therapist, which, among other things, is to help patients understand themselves and discover how to make their own lives as full and rich as possible.” Keep reading »

James Deen Responds To Lindsay Lohan’s Portrayal In The New York Times “Canyons” Profile

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"The Canyons"
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“She has a unique way of communicating. She’s a child star who’s been living in this fame world being chased by paparazzi. I tried to consider that in every interaction with her, so when she speaks, what could be construed as an insult by some was not necessarily intended to be an insult. It was just her communicating her interpretation of the scene … People treat actors like these fragile, delicate creatures, and you’ve got to remember that for the past 10 years, Lindsay could not go to Starbucks. She was raised in the Hollywood system, so she’s used to a certain level of treatment. Instead of saying, ‘Excuse me, could you please pass me the water?’ She’s used to saying, ‘I need water,’ and then someone just giving her water. She’s been conditioned to say what she needs and then someone will bring it to her, so I can see why people would consider her to be a train wreck or a bitch or whatever, but her intentions are fine.”

James Deen responds to the controversial New York Times profile about the making of “The Canyons.” I think he’s very gracious and diplomatic in his assessment of Lindsay Lohan. This idea of the “Hollywood system” creating a condition of “celebrity” is interesting, but it seems like a cop out for bad behavior. If you haven’t read the piece yet, I highly recommend it. It reads like fiction — but it’s true! [The Daily Beast]

Courtship Isn’t Dead, It’s Just Taking A Nap

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According this recent New York Times Style section article, the end of courtship is nigh. It’s dead. Gone. Buried. Mourned. Ashes to ashes, dust to dust. We are now living in a post-courtship dating world where  instead of the traditional dinner-and-a-movie, you get a “last-minute text to tag along.” The article posits that these “texts, Facebook posts, instant messages and other ‘non-dates’ [are] leaving a generation confused about how to land a boyfriend or girlfriend.”

Writer Alex Williams interviews an assortment daters and experts and cobbles together various hypothesis as to why “traditional courtship” is biting the dust, especially for millennials: “Asynchronous communication” (classified as text, e-mail, IM and Twitter) absolving one of the need to be charming; hookup culture and the confusion about intimacy which it has spurned; online dating and the accompanying FOMO (fear of missing out); Facebook as a replacement for all the things one would normally learn about a person on a first date; the “mancession” and “the end of men”; confusion about gender roles. Etcetera. Keep reading »

Are People Really Asking Each Other For Their Credit Scores On First Dates?

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Frisky readers, I need your help putting my mom’s fears to rest. Today, she sent me a link to an article on AlterNet about a recent New York Times trend story that claims single folks are now asking the people they date for their credit scores on first dates. “I find this very disturbing,” my mom wrote. She wasn’t specific about what she found so disturbing, but knowing my mom the way I do, I suspect that while she’s bothered by the utter invasive shallowness of such a question, especially at such an early point in the “relationship,” she’s also grossed out by the way the credit industry is attempting to infiltrate every possible crevice of our lives.

My first instinct was to call bullshit on this trend, simply because I know how trend stories are made in the New York Times lab. Writer’s friend’s sister hears random weird story over brunch in Brooklyn + press release for new-ish website/book/study related to the topic landing in writer’s inbox in same two week period = IT’S A TREND! See previous NY Times’ trend stories on dresses, man buns, Big Buck Hunter and bangs for proof that NY Times trend stories are either about things that are not trends at all or were trends, like, a year and a half ago. Keep reading »

Taylor Swift Hates Your Indie Rock Band, Okay?

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“That all came out of this one relationship I was in. This guy was just, so, so cool. It kind of gave me a bit of a complex for this album, because he was always going on and on about this new band that was so cool because they were so underground. I have so many indie bands on my iPod. What I don’t really understand is the attitude that if a band is unknown, they’re good, and if they get fans, then you move on to the next band.”

Taylor Swift feigns like she just doesn’t “get” indie rock, but like, not “getting” it is totally the super ironic hipster response, Tay-Tay. Swift was talking about indie bands after New York Times interviewer Susan Dominus noted that she calls out dudes listening to indie bands in her hit “We Are Never Getting Back Together.” It’s kind of a thing with her, we think, because she also claimed to listen to a lot of indie music but refused to call out any single band. Plus! New images taken from her newest video shoot show her getting all hot and heavy with a very hipster looking dude. So, irony. [NY Times]

Modern Love Tackles One Woman’s Spanking Fetish

First Time: Spanking Party
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This is what happens at a spanking party. Read More »
Tales Of A Kinky Feminist
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You can be a kinky feminist and flawed human being. Read More »
Dominant Sex
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The New York Times Style section usually emits more groans from me than cheers. Remember that piece about how bangs are “in”? And how women wear dresses? So I was ecstatic this week to see the Modern Love essay is by Jillian Keenan, a woman with a spanking fetish who is struggling to come out about it to her boyfriend. The essay touched on the struggles female spankos face from a judgmental and/or misunderstanding public, namely that we all must have suffered sexual abuse (not true) or must be gravely damaged in some way (also not true). And I was particularly delighted that 50 Shades Of Grey got only a brief mention. Keep reading »

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