Rapists will pretty much use any excuse to avoid taking responsibility for their rapes, usually by blaming it on their victim. She was wearing a short skirt. She was passed out drunk. She had flirted with him. A-n-y-thing to avoid responsibility for his own actions. So I should not be surprised that an accused rapist in New York City is blaming his alleged sexual assault and physical attack on a 21-year-old woman on mind-erasing Four Loko drinks. Keep reading »
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Victim Blaming 101: Of course she wasn’t raped — she’s just lying! Or drunk! Or both!
Sadly, victim blaming is in full swing with the “pizza boy rapist,” a 16-year-old boy who allegedly raped a 35-year-old woman in her New York City apartment. Cesar Lucas was delivering a pizza on Saturday night on the Upper West Side and was let into the building by a doorman; after he delivered his pizza, he told police that he started turning the knobs of doors in other apartments. When he found one that was open, he entered and climbed on top of a sleeping woman while her seven-year-old child slept nearby. The victim told the Post he covered her mouth and told her to be quiet. Before he left, he apologized and stole the woman’s iPhone and $20 from a wallet.
The young man confessed to police that he raped her and sickeningly explained that he was “horny.” But now his mother is blabbing to The New York Post and suggesting the alleged victim was “drunk.” Because you know how us ladies get when we’ve been drinking: we invite random teenage pizza delivery boys into our apartments, have consensual sex while our child is sleeping on the same bed, and then give them our iPhones as a farewell gift! Keep reading »
Earlier this week, The New York Post dropped the “exclusive” that nurses at 13 New York City public schools can dispense the morning-after pill and provide oral and injectable birth control, like Depo Provera and the Pill — “without parents’ permission.”
Tragedy struck Manhattan yesterday when city officials shut down a vibrator giveaway sponsored by Trojan. The condom company planned to give out 10,000 of their new vibes from pushcarts at three tourist-heavy locations: Rockefeller Center, South Street Seaport, and the Flatiron District, which is near The Frisky’s offices. New Yorkers congregated f0r free $40 Trojan Tri-Phoria vibes (two thumbs up, says I!) or a free $30 Trojan Pulse. Yet less than an hour into the event, an unnamed city official pooh-poohed the crowds and told Trojan’s Pleasure Carts to pack up and go home.
Horny area woman Linda Postell was irate about the shutdown, huffing to The New York Post, “I’m 57-years-old. I should be able to get a vibrator! I have a problem with the smoking ban and the soda ban — and now this!” Keep reading »
In every life, a little rain must fall. For one 73-year-old man, this came from the cold, hard realization that it was not a good idea to buy his 27-year-old girlfriend a $775,000 apartment after knowing her for only 10 months. Keep reading »
- New York City police officer Arthur Roldan has been accused of raping his 23-year-old ex-girlfriend. On Tuesday night, Roldan allegedly held the woman — who is pregnant— at gunpoint and knife point and then raped her inside a car in a parking lot. He also allegedly punched her in the face when she initially refused sex. Roldan was charged with two counts of first-degree rape, two counts of second-degree menacing and one count of third-degree assault and released on $20,000 bail. [Gothamist]
- Film student Sophie Peeters has made a short called “Femme de la Rue” about all the street harassment she faces walking around Brussels. Damn, and I thought NYC was bad. [Guardian UK]
- A lesbian Chick-fil-A employee speaks out! (Anonymously, duh. Girl ain’t dumb.) [The Daily Beast] Keep reading »
The good news is that YouTube has pulled an account belonging to “John Zippy,” a man who was surreptiously filming women’s legs on the subway through a camera placed inside a Starbucks cup and posting the videos online.
The bad news is the YouTube channel “New York Subway Girls” had 35 videos posted on it before it was yanked, featuring 102 women whose body parts were being filmed without their consent. Gross. And the New York Police Department is unable do anything about the vids — unless a woman filmed specifically complains about sexual harassment — because filming in public is not illegal. Keep reading »
We can all agree that sex trafficking of women and girls is abhorrent and should be illegal. Maybe we won’t agree about whether consensual sex work should be legal. (I personally believe it should be.) But where do you stand on punishing cab drivers who knowingly drive around prostitutes?
On Friday morning, New York City Mayor Michael Bloomberg signed legislation that pins a $10,000 fine on a cab driver who is convicted the second time for knowingly transporting prostitutes to their work. Simply transporting a prostitute or a decoy prostitute would not be illegal, the mayor said, but knowingly driving around sex workers even after getting caught doing so once before would now constitute participating in a ‘sex trafficking operation.’ Keep reading »
Nearly one year ago, those of us who put our faith and trust in the police had our world rocked: an New York City Police Department officer named Michael Pena was charged with grabbing a 25-year-old woman off the street, threatening to shoot her, and raping her in a yard. A neighbor saw Pena raping the woman and called 911.
But this March, a jury failed to convict Pena of rape. It convicted him of seven charges, including sexual assault, but wouldn’t convict him of rape because he insisted he did not “penetrate” her. The eyewitness neighbor who called 911 said it very clearly was a rape and was shocked the jury didn’t believe the 25-year-old woman.
Yesterday, the ex-cop admitted he had lied. In a retrial yesterday, Pena admitted he raped the young Bronx teacher and plead guilty to two counts of rape and two counts of sexual assault. Keep reading »
Hello, my name is Alexandra Gekas and I am a single woman living in New York City who used to watch “Sex and the City.” I can assure you that I did not come to New York City to live the life of “Sex in the City.” But I also did not know just how unrealistic and off-base that show was when I arrived five years ago, otherwise I probably would have stayed away.
Don’t get me wrong, I love this city. Its power, its energy, its diversity… That’s why people are willing to sacrifice so much to stay here. New York is like that insanely hot guy who’s kind of mean to you, but the sex is great and when he’s on he makes you feel so good, you just keep coming back for more. But he’s not exactly Mr. Right, now is he? Having watched the new ABC show “Don’t Trust the B in Apartment 23” and in anticipation of the upcoming HBO show “Girls” (which premieres on Sunday night), I’ve realized that A) I have not let myself admit just how hard it really is and B) not only am I not alone, but there are so many of me that my life has become a television cliché. Keep reading »