There are a lot of things in this world that I am interested in learning how to do. Play my ukulele! Become fluent in Italian! Floral arrangement! Learning to appreciate the music of Phish! I’m generally adventurous. But there has been one thing I just have never been able to get down with.
I absolutely hate to exercise. Keep reading »
My main goal for self-improvement this year is simply to be kinder to myself. I’ve realized that my stringent standards, constant self-criticism, and inability to say “no” have done nothing but suck the life out of me. Lately, I’ve been too exhausted to do anything at all. And I know that’s not good. I don’t want to stop being driven. I don’t want to stop growing as a person. But I need to learn how to ease up on myself so I have space to grow and achieve. This year, I’m endeavoring to cultivate more balance in my approach to my life. After the jump, some ways I plan on being kinder to myself. Keep reading »
We’re celebrating New Year, New You month here at The Frisky, and we’d like to propose a simple, fun goal for 2012: let’s all be a bit more fabulous. Let’s bring out our inner diva. Let’s throw a fake fur vest over our jeans and T-shirts. Let’s have more orgasms. Let’s walk into coffee shops like we own the place. Here are 25 little things that will make you look and feel more fabulous. Please feel free to add your own tips and tricks in the comments!
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When it comes to men, I have a type. Physically, he’s tall and lean. He’s also the soft-spoken intellectual and creative type. And more often than not, he’s emotionally unavailable and self-absorbed. And yet, I date him over and over again, like a broken record stuck on one false note.
This might be why there’s an entire dating industry geared toward women. And as much as you might want to blame it on “Sex and the City,” the truth of the matter is that many women, myself included, don’t always go for the right type of guy. You may now cue the latest romantic comedy that you don’t want to believe is loosely based on your life. But in honor of New Year, New You Month, it’s time for a change Keep reading »
So, you’ve got a freshly minted BA and you’re ready for an adventure! Or maybe you’ve been slaving away in a cube farm and you’re fairly sure that a warm beach is calling your name. Since you’re not tied down with a mortgage/child/spouse yet, why not have a bit of adventure? Here are five way that you can explore the world and escape your cubicle — all without breaking the bank. Keep reading »
You know that part in “There’s Something About Mary” where Matt Dillon’s character says he wants to “slow things down, read more books, see more movies”? I have that same thought a lot, usually when guilty pleasures have been hogging up my available brainspace. Where does all the time go? Will I ever finish that pile of books next to my bed? Why do I watch so many “Chelsea Lately” reruns instead?
I don’t have the answers to these questions. But I do have a bunch of great suggestions of blogs and podcasts to check out to eke a little more culture into your life to balance all that “Jersey Shore” viewing. No, the half-an-episode the gang spent sight-seeing around Italy doesn’t count. Keep reading »
In high school, one of my best friends was a girl we’ll call Tara. Tara and I had been close since middle school, but as we got older we developed an unhealthy dynamic: Tara demanded so much of my time and energy, and I wasn’t good at putting up boundaries. She had a mean streak, and I was constantly getting hurt. I started to get the feeling it would be better if we went our separate ways, but how do you break up with a friend? There’s no precedent for such things. Ultimately I wrote her a long email telling her that I didn’t think we were good for each other. It was a rough breakup, but when it was over I felt like a whole new woman, and I had learned an important lesson: life is much too short to spend time with people who make you feel crappy. Keep reading »
I remember the first time I was told that black and white should only be worn with … each other. Maybe a little gray or brown, if you’re feeling crazy. I scraped my jaw off the floor, snickered, and promptly dismissed this restrictive advice as total bunk.
But it lingered in my brain. And, over time, I began to notice that color-on-color pairings looked richer, livelier, and more sophisticated than color-on-neutral pairings. When several shades are combined in carefully crafted ensembles, the colors look their best and so do their wearers. This isn’t to say that colors should NEVER be worn with neutrals. Oh hell no. There are plenty of ways to create intentional mixes that include both colors and black or white. Or both, or other neutrals. But I believe that learning to pair multiple colors is a skill worth cultivating, especially as The Frisky celebrates New Year, New You month. Here’s why… Keep reading »
In honor of New Year, New You month at The Frisky, I’ve taken an in-depth look at one of the biggest teen movie cliches: the “makeover scene” (second only to the “prom scene”). You’ve seen it a thousand times — the heroine descends a staircase in slow-motion and we cut to the montage of her metamorphosis from nerd to culturally-sanctioned hottie. It’s no new invention. The makeover goes as far back as Cinderella. The message is that in order to be liked, girls must be conventionally pretty (and not look poor) to land the prince. And while there’s plenty to tease apart there culturally, it’s hard not to love a good geek to chic makeover montage, especially the rebellious or ill-advised. Click through for some teen movie makeovers that made lasting impressions on our collective girl unconscious.
The internet is littered with posts about a lady’s must-haves (LBD! The perfect boyfriend jeans! Matching silverware!) and while all that is lovely, we know we are not what we own. Right? Right.
So, in honor of The Frisky’s “New Year, New You” series, let’s devote some internet space to the important skillz that you (and I) should master. Keep reading »