Tag Archives: new relationships

Dater X: I’m (Drum Roll) In Love

Dater XFebruary 22, 2011 //

Like a cat who constantly wants to be petted, I have an insatiable need for back rubs. I am forever asking significant others for them—a request that is usually obliged, but that is sometimes met with a “Maybe later,” an “I’m tired” or, worse, an “Again?” So far, The Young One has been happy to indulge each and every back massage request. But last Thursday night, as we watched TV at his place, I suddenly found myself sitting on the back of the couch, leaning over and kneading my hands into his shoulders. “That feels incredible,” he said.

He hadn’t asked me for a back rub, nor had I consciously decided to give him one—it was something I did without thinking. It was the first moment I realized that I am totally in love with this guy. Keep reading »

Girl Talk: I’m A Little Jealous Of Your New Relationship

Kelli BenderApril 28, 2010 //

I want to start this confession with a disclaimer: I have a boyfriend who I have been dating for two and a half years. It is a relationship that I have poured more love, commitment and concern into than any of my previous ones put together, and he does the same. He listens sincerely to all the problems I unload on him, even when it’s the same stale series of issues over and over again. Our biggest fight has only led to about 10 minutes of oh-so-mature silent treatment. We even have embarrassing nicknames for each other that I know better than to publish here. I know I am lucky to have this sort of relationship and I cherish every moment of it. I wouldn’t trade it for anything. Even though Jake Gyllenhaal is my “Get Out of Jail Free” exception, if he came calling in his “Prince of Persia” regalia, I know I couldn’t act on it. Now that has to be love.

And yet, I’m jealous of you—you giggly new couples with your adorably awkward first dates and timid hand-holding. Keep reading »

How Long Until You Let A New Guy See You Without Makeup?

Leonora EpsteinNovember 2, 2009 //

Unless you’re a Neutrogena spokesmodel with flawless skin, you know there’s a huge difference between you with makeup and the bare-faced you. At least, I know this in my case. It’s not that my skin tone is that uneven or that I have so much acne, but I look like a completely different (and prettier) person with a swipe of foundation and a dab of concealer in the problem areas. Keep reading »

In New Relationships, Is Sleep An Indicator Of Your Future Together?

Leonora EpsteinOctober 1, 2009 //

Consider the following: you’ve started dating a new guy, and things have progressed to the point where you’re beginning to have sleepovers. Naturally, one of two things happens then. You can either sleep or you can’t.

So, do you believe that how you sleep with (and real sleep, not sexytimes) a new boyfriend is an indicator of compatibility and long-term potential? Is it good if you can sleep like logs together on your first night? Does restless slumber mean you’re uncomfortable? Or does no sleep, because you can’t keep your hands off each and he’s occupying lovely thoughts in your head, point to passion? (Although, we imagine, this could lead to burnout.)

Do you have beliefs about bedtime compatibility? Duke it out in the comments below. Keep reading »