In a world where everyone celebrates engagements, weddings, anniversaries and other relationship-centered milestones, the private lives of those who are not married or in a relationship are often pushed to the wayside. Not this time — it’s National Singles Week. Also known as Unmarried and Single Americans Week, this holiday was started in the 1980s by the Buckeye Singles Council in Ohio. It’s meant to commemorate single individuals and celebrate their contributions to society because, hey, we matter too!
In honor of National Singles Week, read on to discover important lessons and tips from singles to help you live your best single life. Read more at Your Tango…
Happy National Singles Week! In honor of the festive occasion, I’d like to discuss people who SETTLE.
I’ve always been told not to settle for anyone who’s less than perfect for me, but for some, singlehood is seemingly not an option. So many people I know have chosen to be with, and in some cases, marry, someone who is not right for them— just to avoid the possibility of not finding “the one” and growing old alone. Keep reading »
There were many low points in my eight years (more or less) as a single person. One in particular was in December of 2010, right around my 32nd birthday. Funny that I can’t even remember why it was a low point. Probably because I had created some kind of timeline where I imagined that I should have been in a relationship by that point. To cope with all the hopelessness, bitterness, loneliness, panic, frustration and feelings of failure I was experiencing, I wrote an open letter to my single self. Although I didn’t believe it at the time, I gave myself the most awesome advice. To quote myself to myself (how meta), my main point was that I should be patient and do nothing:
“In waiting, you’ve grown impatient at times and have tried to force things that weren’t meant to be, fought too hard for something that you knew was wrong, held on too tight to something that was already dead and gone, or pushed people away out of fear. No more of that. The only thing left for you to do now is NOTHING … Love is a mystery that you can’t harness or control or elicit or will. Accept that it’s a mystery and sit down, shut up, enjoy your freaking life, and patiently wait your turn.”
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