I’m confused about whether or not I should move in with my boyfriend of about a year. We are both in our twenties. For the past year, I’ve been living with roommates. During that time, he would frequently invite me over to his place, a house with a big yard, and then invite me to stay the night. He would do this almost every night and feel very happy about it, even proudly joking he had successfully “stolen” me from my roommates once again. He always talked about me moving in. Even when I tried to find other roommates, he would always insist I just move in with him.
But when my roommates moved out a month before the lease expired, his story changed. Now that it’s just me, he never “steals” me, and if I go to his place he is sure to bring me back to my place so we can sleep separately. Now he says he’d prefer for us both to have our own separate places. I can’t afford to live on my own in this city without roommates, plus I very much prefer to live with other people. Living alone feels unnatural, uncomfortable and unsafe to me.
My lease expires soon, and I wasn’t searching for other roommates very seriously as I was spending most of my time with him, and up until a few weeks ago, he was insisting I live with him. Why did he only want me when I was living with other people? What is going on in his head? I feel trapped. – S.
It boils down to this: there’s a difference between what people say, and what people do. Keep reading »
Whether your last relationship was a brief affair or years in the making, breakups are always tough to handle. For many of us, the five stages of grief include sulking, series binging on your favorite TV shows, drowning your sorrows with multiple pints of Ben & Jerry’s, and staunch avoidance. Still surrounded by mementos of your ex and your relationship, sometimes the easiest response to your emotional state is to sit on the couch and do nothing at all. That is, until your best friend comes over to deliver a much-needed pep talk and finds you buried beneath a pile of post-relationship clutter.
With a little push, you admit that it’s time to get organized and get on with your life. To help guide the process of cleaning up after the breakup, here are five simple tips for excising your ex and all his/her stuff from your home: Keep reading »
Moving in with your girlfriend is a huge deal. In life-change terms, it’s a bigger transition than getting married. Though you don’t get the recognition from your family and friends that comes with tying the knot, you’re going through a huge day-to-day shift when you move in with a woman.
We’re all for cohabitation before marriage, and there are plenty of reasons why shacking up with your girlfriend is a great idea. You create a home together. You develop an ad hoc cuisine that is native to only the two of you. (You’ll know something special has happened when you walk into the kitchen and she’s making that cottage-cheese-and-pickles mix you’ve been dipping Triscuits into since you were seven — and she’s making it for herself.) Read more…
What the rest of us call “cohabitation,” or in some circles “living in sin,” the Palin family calls a “trial marriage.”
That’s exactly what abstinence-promoter Bristol Palin and her boyfriend, 21-year-old Gino Paoletti, are doing in a home she purchased in Wasilla. “Bristol and Gino are crazy about each other,” a source told The National Enquirer. “They’ve talked about getting married, but they think it’s a good idea to get a feel for living together before making it official.” They’ll be sleeping in separate bedrooms, I trust? Keep reading »
Of all the aspects that were difficult about my recent breakup from my boyfriend of two years, the hardest was moving out of the apartment that we shared together. You can verbally say all kinds of things: we’re broken up, we’re on a break, we’re seeing other people, whatever. Those words might change from day to day. But pulling your sundresses off the closet hangers feels final. Same goes for taking your face wash out of the shower. I built a life, a relationship, with someone and then all of a sudden, it was just my things in an apartment that was now his. Keep reading »
So, that’s it. You’ve decided to move in together. You’re excited, in love, and ready to go for it. People are warning you that it’s a big deal, but you are different and so is your relationship. Is it such a big deal, though? Yes. After all, it’s like marriage without the standup mixer and the tax break. Keep reading »
While our government tries to figure out how to get us out of the recession, the Onion News Network “reports” on an option that could solve our sticky economic sitch: Why don’t couples who live in separate apartments move in together? As one girlfriend supporting this course of action says, “In a recession, it just doesn’t make any sense for two people who say they love each other to pay separate rents.” Meanwhile, the boyfriends fear they’ll lose any last semblance of independence. Keep reading »
On last night’s episode of Men In Trees (Don’t laugh. I had nothing else to do.) the characters Marin (the city girl who moved to Alaska) and Jack (the hot Alaskan outdoors-man) decide to move in together. But it’s not easy, especially when you have two houses to choose from! (I’m not bitter. I love my one-room apartment and just can’t imagine having two houses to choose from. And they’re keeping both of them! Talk about excess. I thought people in Alaska were supposed to be into saving the environment.) They pick hers, mostly because he used to live with someone else in his house. Then, they have to merge their belongings. He doesn’t like her curtains, and the other Alaskan guys are like, “Girls love scented candles and those things will asphyxiate you.” Meanwhile, Marin doesn’t want him to keep his toolbox inside the house. Eventually, they come up with a scheme in which one of them is the “captain” of every room. Marin picks the bedroom, Jack gets the living room, and then Marin gets the rest of the house.
Would this whole “captain” business work outside a TV show? Personally, I think it makes the place look a little disjointed. Instead, shouldn’t two people work together to create a new, hybrid style that is even better than they’re individual styles? Like, if he has a really great flat-screen TV and a genius coffee table, and I have this amazing rolling bar cart (I do), couldn’t all three look good in the living room? Keep reading »