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Dear Wendy: “My Mother Thinks I’m Too Young For A Meaningful Relationship”

I am 23 and halfway through my master’s program. I have been dating my boyfriend, whom I met my senior year in college, for the last year and a half. It has not been easy due to our constantly changing life situations and the fact that we are long distance right now, but we make it work and I see myself with him for the foreseeable future. My mother, however, is very pessimistic about my relationships. Ever since I started dating, she has made me feel like my relationships aren’t “real” because I’m so young. She will say things like, “Well, I don’t think college relationships are meant to work out,” and once when I was going through a rough patch with my guy she encouraged me to go out and meet other guys — not to cheat on him, but to hang out with other guys “as friends” to see if there was any potential. Recently, I mentioned the possibility that he might have to move to California (we live in New York) and she said “Well, it’s only a year, maybe your paths will lead back to one another someday.” She’s done this with every guy I’ve ever dated whether she liked them or not. Is she right? Am I incapable of forging a meaningful, long-lasting relationship at 23? It’s not like I’m marrying the guy. How do I tell her to stop minimizing my relationships? — Can’t Stand Up to Mom

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Today’s Lady News: Italian Company Fires All Women “So They Can Stay Home” With Kids

  • When an Italian company Ma-Vib faced budget problems, it fired all 13 of its female employees and justified it claiming the women could stay home with their kids now: “We are firing the women so they can stay at home and look after the children. In any case, what they bring in is a second income.” I can’t even deal with the sexist … and the stupid … and the brain freeze … [Jezebel]
  • Slightly less worse than yesterday but still terrible: Kansas is denying a license to all but one of its abortion clinics temporarily today. The Planned Parenthood clinic in Overland Park, Kansas, is the only abortion provider to remain open. [Mother Jones]
  • Eleven highly dubious diets that people actually tried. [The Hairpin]

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Department Of WTF: A Mother/Daughter Womb Transplant

Here’s some exceptionally weird science for you. Sara Ottosson, 25, was born without a uterus and is taking part in what could be the world’s first womb transplant. The donor? Her mom—Eva Otosson, 56, a businesswoman who runs a lighting corporation in the UK. “[Sara] needs the womb and if I’m the best donor for her … well, go on,” explains Eva. “She needs it more than me. I’ve had two daughters so it’s served me well.”

If this all works, Sara could carry a baby in the very same womb she herself gestated in. Keep reading »

Girl Talk: Growing Up Without A Mother

I’ve never been a big fan of Mother’s Day. It’s not the commercialization that fuels my dislike, though — it’s that for 14 years, I haven’t had a mother to celebrate.

On September 20th, 1996, my mother’s 36th birthday, she died. Four years earlier, she had been diagnosed with breast cancer. In the intervening time, she endured hours of chemotherapy and radiation, the loss of her hair to the chemo and a breast to mastectomy, a surgery to reconstruct her missing breast, a bone marrow transplant, and countless days away from her family in the hospital. All this while raising three children and making sure that “cancer” was never, ever a dirty word in our house. Keep reading »

Girl Talk: Accidental Lessons In Love From My Mother

My mom has a boyfriend.

For most children of divorce this is nothing new–or perhaps all too common–but for me, this is big. Really big. You see, my mother has been single for most of my life. She has great friends, a close-knit family, and a job she feels passionate about, but she’s never really had a guy in her life since my parents divorced.

A typical Friday for her involves her bathrobe, the couch, our dog, and “The Daily Show” accompanied by the phrase “I like my life just the way it is!” Now, I realize that this sounds like the ideal Friday night for many people, myself included. But, it’s not really about the bathrobe or the TV shows or even the fact that it’s a Friday night. It’s about seeing some variation of this over and over again: My mother, alone. Keep reading »

Are Attractive Women More Likely To Have Daughters Than Unattractive Women?

In today’s totally scientific study of the day, we learn that attractive women are more likely to have daughters than unattractive women. Or, are they? The results, you see, are a tad confusing. First, “Dr. Satoshi Kanazawa, of the London School of Economics, analyzed data from a survey of 17,000 babies born in Britain in March 1958 and tracked them throughout their lives. At the age of 7, their attractiveness was rated by their teachers.” That part is really weird, right? What kind of teachers are rating the attractiveness of their 7-year-old students? Anyway, these kids were tracked down years later when they turned 45 and asked about the gender of their children, and that’s where things got really strange. Keep reading »

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