“I was told by John Cassavetes when I did ‘Tempest’ never to be a mom because I would not be sensual anymore. I think I laughed. I’m happy to be considered desirable. I love it!”
–Susan Sarandon, mother of three, tells People magazine about feeling sexy and desirable at age 65. Can we just take a moment to appreciate the fact that this woman is 65? She looks incredible, and I love her outlook on life, even though she makes me feel old and frumpy by comparison. [People]
I am a writer. I have been a writer since age eight, when I penned a dramatic tale about a girl who gets asked to the prom by the school bully. He turns out to be really nice, and they end up getting married. It was daring, featured some witty dialogue, and suggested an attraction to bad boys that never played out in real life. It also suggested something else—my classic, boring, old-fashioned interest in getting married and living happily ever after, in that order. Keep reading »
Senator Rick Santorum — long known for his insightful analyses of same-sex marriage (a mere gateway, as he alluded, to human-dog couples) and more recently for his repudiation of education — proclaimed in 1994 that before single mothers continued on their heedless quest to destroy the “fabric of the country,” they needed a swift “kick in the butt.”
I was a single mom, living separately from my child’s father or any other adult, until my son was four. I worked full-time in order to support myself and my child and, during that time, there were many things I needed: child care that I could both trust and afford, health insurance (I worked freelance and was responsible for paying for own medical care), and the occasional night off. Topping that list, I now realize, should have been a kick in the butt.
Frankly, I’m flattered that a busy family man of Santorum’s stature would be willing to take time out of his day to spur me on, literally, as a responsible cowboy would his trusty (but, face it, lazy) horse. Keep reading »
This is not the change I voted for. Nor how I thought the year would end for women’s rights in the USA. Secretary of Health and Human Services, Kathleen Sebelius recently overruled scientists at the Federal Drug Administration and blocked a move to allow for Plan B emergency contraception, also known as the morning after pill, to be sold over-the-counter without age restriction. Her rationale was to protect 11-year-old girls from taking something that might harm them. President Obama backed her up, asked us to use “common sense” and pulled the daddy card.
Well, I’m pulling the mommy card. Keep reading »
“I do a lot of interviews where people ask, ‘Now that you’re all happy and content are you going to lose your edge?’ Like there’s nothing edgy about being a mom. Which means that as we all become parents, songs are not written for us anymore, and we have to relive our youth to get off on music or something. Where is the music of where you get older? To be content and secure in your personal life doesn’t make you lose your edge so much. For me it almost gives me more fuel to be radical, to be political, to be fighting the good fight because you have something to stand on. When you’re all wrapped up in your personal foibles it’s hard to have any energy for changing the world or whatever. But now I feel more energized because I have that support system behind me.”
It isn’t hard to impress me when it comes to Ani Di Franco. But I want to send this interview with Ani on Bitch‘s web site to every mama that I know. She reminds me of something the iconic feminist Gloria Steinem often says, which is that women grow more feminist with age. I can absolutely see how bringing a child into the world — a daughter, in Ani’s case — gives you that extra push to make it a better place. [Bitch Magazine] Keep reading »
“This is so not glamorous, but it’s true: I need to take longer showers so that I can collect the hair that falls out and throw it away so I don’t clog the drain. Why do actresses never talk about that? … It just started falling out at the three-month mark … And I’m not a girl who likes extensions, so Selma’s going to be bald!”
– Selma Blair talks about her post-baby hair. And in the the third person no less. Something tells me she is exaggerating just a little bit. But if she’s not, and she is indeed on her way to baldom, that’s a side effect of motherhood I wasn’t aware of. Something to look forward to. [People]
That time your mom made you come home from the party by 11 and you were so pissed and thought she was the worst mother on Earth? Yeah, you should forgive her. At least your mom didn’t make you fistfight another kid in a parking lot. Alas, we cannot say the same for Nida Longoria, 28, and Veronica Zertuche, 26, of Florida. Keep reading »
Children learn more than just ABCs at their mother’s breast: a new study of 1,455 adolescents and their parents in Spain finds that mothers are the parent most likely to socialize traditional gender roles and therefore pass along sexist beliefs.
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