Tag Archives: motherhood

Questions For Our Mothers: Emily’s Mom

In honor of Mother’s Day, we’re interviewing our moms to find out how their lives changed when we were born and what they learned about love and life as a parent. Today, Emily’s mom.

I am not one for words, which is why I am a designer at The Frisky, not an editor, but my mom is one of the most amazing people in my life. After constantly fighting with her throughout my teenage years, my mom and I have become best friends (finally!). I talk to her just about every night and I don’t know what I would do without her and her words of wisdom. I know a lot about my mom, but not that much about what it was like for her when she had me — besides the fact that she got gestational diabetes and it stuck! — so it was really interesting to learn what her life was like before me! Keep reading »

Questions For Our Mothers: Annika’s Mom

In honor of Mother’s Day, we’re interviewing our moms to find out how their lives changed when we were born and what they learned about love and life as a parent. Today, Annika’s mom.

My mom and dad knew each other when they were growing up in Barbuda, an island in the Caribbean. They didn’t get along, but as they became older, a romance blossomed when they both lived in NYC. My grandmother helped my dad become a U.S. citizen, and he was a part of the family before he and my mom married in 1979. I was born soon after, but my parents divorced after two or three years. Although I know my dad and spent time with him throughout my childhood, I have to say that it was my mom who did the day-to-day raising of me. She supported my creativity with dance and art lessons and taught me to develop my own opinions, even when my opinions caused me to get detention every day. That’s why she and I have had this attitude that it’s us against the world. My mom is my best friend and she’s usually the person I prefer to talk to before everyone else. She’s my sounding board and gives great hugs. But that’s not to say we don’t argue.

I know pretty much all there is to know about my mom’s past, but I was still curious to ask her about being pregnant and raising me, her only child. Keep reading »

Today’s Lady News: U.S. Not The Best Place In The World For Mothers, Says Study

  • The United States is the 28th best place in the world for mothers and their children, according to Save The Children’s annual report, given our inconsistencies on maternity leave, restrictions on birth control, and maternal mortality rate. Norway, where maternity leave is mandated and birth control is easy to access, clocks in at number one on the Mothers Index, followed by Australia, Iceland, Sweden, Denmark, Finland, the Netherlands, Belgium and Germany. The worst offenders on the Mothers Index include Afghanistan, Yemen and Sudan. [USA Today]
  • Sunshine State News video caught Florida State Senator Mike Bennett looking at pornographic photos during a debate on an abortion bill. Sen. Bennett said he was “bored as they were debating the abortion bill,” but said he “clicked away from it right away.” I’m sorry, but a white male politician looking at porn while abortion rights are being debated is just the biggest cliche ever. [My Fox DC]
  • Paris has decided to lift a 1799 rule that forbade women from wearing “trousers” and made any woman who wished to “dress like a man” seek permission from the city’s police station. The French have tried to repeal the bill numerous times, to no avail, but recently 10 MPs submitted a draft bill to remove the no-women-in-pants law entirely. [Telegraph UK]

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Questions For Our Mothers: Amelia’s Mom

In honor of Mother’s Day, we’re interviewing our moms to find out how their lives changed when we were born and what they learned about love and life as a parent. Today, Amelia’s mom.

I think I have been truly heartbroken twice in my life. The most recent one was obviously when my relationship with my ex-fiance ended. But the first time my heart broke wasn’t due to a boy. When I went away to college, I was bowled over by the truly unexpected pain of leaving my mother behind. We had always been close, but in my teenage years we fought loads, as teenage girls and their moms tend to do, and I’m sure I shouted, “I can’t wait to get out of this house!” more times than I choose to remember. But when I moved hundreds of miles away to go to school, I missed her so goddamn much. I felt a hole in my heart that I know she shared, which eventually subsided, of course, but I’ll never forget that feeling — it made me realize how much I should and do appreciate and love her. (And, lucky for my brother and me, she recently moved to New York City!) That’s why I was excited to interview my mom, Cheryl Parry, who is a wonderful painter, in addition to being a longtime English as a Second Language (ESL) educator. Keep reading »

Questions For Our Mothers: Kate’s Mom

In honor of Mother’s Day, we’re interviewing our moms to find out how their lives changed when we were born and what they learned about love and life as a parent. Today, Kate’s mom.

My parents met the cutest way ever—waiting on line to see Shakespeare in the Park in New York City in June of 1967. They married a year and a half later, but their journey toward becoming parents was hardly a straight line between point A and point B. While I am the oldest of their two children (hey Lizz!), I was not their first baby. In 1978, they had a son named Matthew. At three months old, he died during a surgery to mend a heart defect. It was an incredibly sad period in my parents’ life, and one that I’ve never quite understood how they got through with such grace, poise, and hope. So I was very curious to ask my mom, Marianna DeMarco Torgovnick, what it was like becoming a mother again a few years later, when she had me. Keep reading »

Frisky Rant: The Mommy Wars Go Digital

Mommy bloggers are crazy. No, not because they blog about every mind-numbingly boring burp and giggle — because they do it despite the fact that their readers are just vicious to them. For example, The New York Daily News tells us about mommy blogger Shellie Ross, who lived every mother‘s worst nightmare when she found her 2-year-old drowned in a pool. Less than an hour after she found the child’s body, she tweeted (“micro-blogged”) her Twitter followers to ask for their prayers — what kind of compassionate response did she get? People blamed her for her son’s death and someone even accused her usage of Twitter as the reason for his drowning.

It’s no secret that telling mothers they’re crappy parents is an American pastime. But the Daily News asks an interesting question: Is this “you’re a terrible mom!” judgment and hatred-spewing actually cyberbullying? And I say yes, yes, yes. Keep reading »

Can Someone Explain Why Sandra Bullock’s Adoption Is “Sweet Revenge”?

Wronged wife Sandra Bullock dropped the bombshell-of-all-bombshells when she announced on the cover of People magazine yesterday that she adopted a baby boy in January. And while I’m happy as a clam for Sandra and little Louis Bardo Bullock, I also find the way the media’s handling the story to be quite odd.

The New York Daily News‘ cover today says “Sweet Revenge!” and teases an article on their website about Sandra’s adoption with the line, “She doesn’t need a big baby like Jesse — she’s got a real one now.” Metro (a free newspaper handed out in big cities) trumpets, “Sandy’s Trump Card? Her Secret Adoption.”

I’m sorry, but why is a newborn baby a “trump card” or “sweet revenge”? Keep reading »

Quotable: Alicia Silverstone Wants To Get Preggers

“Wearing a pregnancy suit was so much fun. I loved the feeling of pretending to be pregnant and having little arms and legs and this big belly. I’ve been wanting to have a baby since I was 2 years old—I’m destined to be a mother. I can’t wait to be pregnant.”

—Alicia Silverstone on playing a pregnant woman in the Broadway play “Time Stands Still.” Let’s just hope hubby Christopher Jarecki is on board. [People] Keep reading »

Well, At Least We Know Who To Blame …

Writing for the UK Times, Eleanor Mills declares that all those women who find themselves at 30-something and 40-something unmarried and without children have someone to blame: their mothers. And who do those mothers have to blame? Feminism. Keep reading »

Breaking News: Boobs Are For Breastfeeding, Too!

Shocking, I know, but I had to break the news some time: Our fabulous funbags are actually biologically designed to feed hungry babies, not just to look tasty in a Body by Victoria C-cup. Alas, some Neanderthals can’t handle such a bombshell about breasts — namely, folks in corporate America who’ll do everything from tweet (and delete!) to kick a nursing mother out of a restaurant at the slightest hint of a snacking infant.

After the jump, two recent breastfeeding incidents that make us think we could all use a Biology 101 refresher course. Keep reading »