Have you seen the new Similac Formula ad? You must have, it’s everywhere. All up in my Facebook and Twitter feeds, with everyone posting it along with a “Hell, yeah!” or some other affirming shout out.
The video takes on the “Mommy Wars,” pitting all the different stereotypical parenting ideologies against each other. We’ve got the formula feeders and the breastfeeders, the working moms and the stay-at-home moms, the babywears and the stroller users. The ad even happens to toss in a group of dads for good measure. All these groups meet up in the park and sling a bunch of tired old one-liners at each other in a sad attempt to throw shade. Keep reading »
The cover of J. Cole’s 2014 Forest Hills Drive album features a photo of the rapper sitting on the roof of his childhood home, the single-family dwelling that he and his family moved into after years spent living in a trailer park. At some point, his mom, a single mother, lost the house because of financial hardship, but years later as an adult with his own money, Cole bought the house back. But buying the house wasn’t just about using it as a symbol on his album cover, nor did Cole or any of his family actually move into the house on Forest Hills Drive. Instead, Cole announced his plans to turn the home into a rent-free haven for women like his mother, raising multiple kids on their own. Keep reading »
To get this out of the way from the get-go, Elisa Albert’s After Birth is going to offend a lot of sensitive people, some for the following reasons:
Some mothers won’t like the fact that the novel takes place in the depths of post-partum depression and will claim that they got through birth just fine, thanks, so why whine about it? Meanwhile, of course, completely missing the point. They will give it one-star reviews on GoodReads that misspell the narrator’s three-letter name. Keep reading »
Breastfeeding in public just got a major, holy, endorsement. Pope Francis recently told mothers that they could breastfeed in the Sistine Chapel. While presiding over the baptism of 33 babies, the leader of the Catholic church said, “You mothers give your children milk and even now, if they cry because they are hungry, breastfeed them, don’t worry.” Later, during the mass, he urged the congregation to think of impoverished women struggling to feed their children.
So, what’s the big deal? Why are people getting all excited by this? I mean, it’s not like the Sistine Chapel doesn’t already have its fair share of boobs all over the place. Artwork notwithstanding, this vocal support for nursing in public by the Pope is rather significant, particularly as mothers in the U.S. are still being hassled for doing so, regardless of their legal rights. Just recently, mother Alanna Panas was kicked out of a Maryland casino for breastfeeding her infant in an empty lobby. Ocean Downs Casino security told Panas that her daughter Lilly was a “security threat,” and told her to leave, despite the fact that Panas was nowhere near the casino floor (where those under 21 are not allowed). The casino eventually reached out with a half-hearted apology, but one that certainly did not make up for the harassment Panas felt. And unfortunately, she’s not alone. Keep reading »
In the latest issue of Porter magazine, actress Emily Blunt discusses motherhood — she and her husband, John Krasinski, are the parents of 10-month-old Hazel — stating that raising children “…is such a fear-based industry.” She goes on to clarify that “there used to be one book that everyone read, now there’s How to Raise a Gluten-free Baby, How to Raise a Scientific Baby… It’s insanity! So I haven’t read anything, I’m just letting her do her own thing.”
Yes, Emily Blunt, YES! I totally agree with her that there is a culture of fear being pushed around parenting, and much if it has to do with the unrealistic expectations that are pushed on moms and dads. The idea of perfection (thanks: Pinterest, Facebook, Instagram, etc…) in parenting is everywhere you look, causing parents to scramble to be the best in every aspect, despite living in a society that is not set up to support families in the ways that they need. Couple this notion of perfection with the idea that if you fail in any regard — nutrition, education, extra-curricular activities, etc. — your children will fail, and the fear becomes very real. Add to all of that a market that makes money off this fear and it’s a near recipe for disaster. Keep reading »