Posts tagged "monogamy"

Girl Talk: One-Nighters Are Not For Me

I have had my share of one-night stands. In fact, a significant percentage of the people I have slept with in the nearly 10 years since losing my virginity have been one-time deals. There was that guy at Mardi Gras — hold on … have to ask my friend what his name was … damn,…

By: Amelia McDonell-Parry / April 8, 2010

Are Humans Supposed To Be Monogamous?

Does the entire wedding industry these days seem like one big racket to you? In your lifetime, how many thousands of dollars have you spent flying all over the country (or out of it) to watch people say “I do,” buying place settings and champagne flutes from couples’ Williams-Sonoma registries, and oohing and ahhing over…

By: DivineCaroline.com / March 6, 2010

Smart Dudes Are More Likely To Be Monogamous

According to a new study, there may be a practical way to find out if your man is going to be faithful to you … test his IQ. If you’re a wise lady, then you should be looking for a very smart man, because researchers in the U.K. have discovered that high IQ and the…

By: Ami Angelowicz / March 2, 2010

Girl Talk: I Don’t Want To Get Married Again

I love weddings. I stop dead before store windows to gaze at gorgeous dresses and drool over diamond rings. I’m thrilled when I happen upon a noisy banquet in a Chinese restaurant. I read the New York Times wedding announcements every Sunday. I love watching “Say Yes to the Dress.”

But I don’t want…

By: Angela Tung / February 18, 2010

Dear Wendy: “I Love My Boyfriend, But I Fantasize About Other Men”

I’ve been in a committed relationship with my wonderful boyfriend for about two years now, and I’ve been extremely happy so far. I know he wants to get married in the next couple of years, and I thought I wanted the same thing. Recently though, I’ve started to find myself attracted to other guys. I…

By: Wendy Atterberry / January 12, 2010

Dear Wendy: “How Long Should I Wait To Be Exclusive?”

Sometimes the advice for people who email me is so obvious I wonder if they just need to hear someone else say it to truly believe it themselves. Today’s column is dedicated to those individuals.

I have been talking to/dating this girl for a little over a year. We both agreed not to be…

By: Wendy Atterberry / December 29, 2009

Girl Talk: Can A Relationship Become Too Comfortable Too Fast?

Recently, my boyfriend expressed some fear that we had moved too fast. While it’s only been four months, it feels like way more. Not quite a lifetime, but certainly a few years. We had clicked almost instantly, and while I was less than a year out of a nearly five-year relationship and he was, um,…

By: Amelia McDonell-Parry / December 28, 2009

Dear Wendy: A Coke-Dealing Boyfriend & A Serial Monogamist

“I met my current boyfriend about six months ago and there was an INSTANT attraction. At first he was perfect: he would make time for me, we would go out and do things together. He wasn’t like any other guy I’ve ever dated — he was polite, open-minded, caring, funny, and RESPECTFUL. I was the…

By: Wendy Atterberry / August 28, 2009

Mourning The Death Of My Single-Girl Friendships

I’m getting married in a little over two months, and though this is a happy, exciting time in my life, there’s a bittersweetness. It started when I moved to New York a year and a half ago to be with my boyfriend. Up until then, our relationship had been long-distance; he was in Manhattan, and…

By: Wendy Atterberry / May 12, 2009

Thoughts From Guys On Our IM: How Do The Seasons Affect Your Interest In Sex And Relationships?

Spring has arrived! I can practically smell the sunscreen and the delightful ocean breeze. But with the heat comes a question — do men suddenly get a little skip in their step when spring arrives that signals a sudden interest in flirting and non-committal sexy times? I’ve heard the theory that people, especially men, prefer…

By: Amelia McDonell-Parry / March 25, 2009

Top Ten Ways Women Take Things Up A Notch

Ask Men U.K. had an interesting article recently on the top ten ways a guy could take a relationship “down a notch” when he doesn’t want to necessarily end it — or, you know, give up regular sex — but just “slow things down a little.” AM tells its readers, “The trick is cooling thing…

By: Wendy Atterberry / March 9, 2009

My Friends Don’t Get My Relationship

A few weekends ago, my girlfriends and I decided to have a drink night. For most girl crews, drink night usually starts out with a few friendly cocktails and pointless compliments on each other’s outfits (the question, “oh my god where did you get that?” is a surefire sign that you need a few more…

By: YourTango.com / February 16, 2009

Put A Fork In It: Marriage Is Dying

And I’m not just declaring it so because I’m no longer getting married and am bitter in some way. No, marriage is dying because the studies say so. According to new census figures analyzed by The New York Times, married couples, whose numbers have been declining for decades, have finally slipped into the minority. So…

By: Amelia McDonell-Parry / January 26, 2009

The Monogamist: Retaining Your Individuality When You’re Part Of A “We”

Last month, I showed up at a party that my hubby, Andy, and I had been invited to, and I was greeted with silence. Now, I know I’m not that unpopular, so something had to be wrong. As I shrugged off my coat and people got back to mingling, my friend approached with a vodka…

By: Annemarie Conte / January 26, 2009

Against Cheating: A Man’s Perspective

I’m single, 40, and have dated more than any good man should. Add to that the fact that I love women, I love seducing, and my ego is clearly invested in the power it gives me, and something tells me I’m not the man you’d think would advocate devotion and fidelity. But the truth is,…

By: YourTango.com / January 26, 2009

Are Creative Types Just Good For Flings?

Are “creative types” good for anything other than flings? “I am always attracted to creative men,” one woman writes the Guardian. “Most of my boyfriends have been poets or artists, largely because of my job and circle of friends. But my last two boyfriends were unfaithful and I wonder if creative types are good only…

By: Wendy Atterberry / January 5, 2009

The Breakup Diaries: My Six-Month Sex Sabbatical

My breakup is…hold on, checking the calendar…almost three-months-old. Which means my hoo-ha has about three months worth of dust gathering inside it. About, oh, three weeks ago, I reached the point in the breakup evolution where I felt a sudden aching urge to have sex. With someone. Anyone even, after a few glasses of wine.

By: Amelia McDonell-Parry / December 4, 2008

The Monogamist: When To Reveal Your Crazy Side

A friend call me the other day. She was struggling to figure out what was going on with her relationship of a month. He’d do sweet things, like post photos of the two of them on Facebook. Then he’d write curt responses to her e-mails. Normally, she’s extremely self-confident, self-assured, and successful in life. It…

By: Annemarie Conte / October 31, 2008

The Monogamist: What Marriage Feels Like

Well, I did it. A couple of weeks ago, I tied the knot. Got hitched. Became a ball and chain. And got my own ball and chain? People make it sound so weighty. When we got engaged, it did feel huge, like this gigantic life-altering decision that was so…permanent. And it is. I’m not saying…

By: Annemarie Conte / October 1, 2008

Crushes As Foreplay

Confession: I’m having a secret affair with my 21-year old Irish doorman. It’s such a secret, not even HE knows. The other night, when my fiancé was out, my doorman – I don’t even know his name – came upstairs to my apartment to replace three light bulbs. As he stood on the ladder, screwing…

By: Amelia McDonell-Parry / August 18, 2008