Posts tagged "monogamy"

10 Things You Lose When You Commit

Commitment seems like a great idea. You make your relationship more official and share your life with someone who’s not going to leave by the time morning arrives. But with any big idea, there are pros and cons attached to it. With commitment comes benefits, yes, but there're also risks. It’ll do you good to…
By: Ask Men / January 23, 2011

Is Monogamy On Its Way Out For Young Couples?

I've questioned monogamy for quite a while now, but a new study shows that young people are seriously confused by it. Researchers studied more than 400 married and unmarried couples ages 18 to 25 and found that 40 percent of them disagreed about whether or not they were exclusive with their partners -- eve…
By: Ami Angelowicz / January 21, 2011

What Makes A Woman Girlfriend Material, According To Men

When it comes to getting a man to settle down with you, we’ve all heard advice like “hold out on sex” or “be unavailable.” But if that worked, nuns, Olympic athletes, and frigid work-a-holics would be like dude catnip. So, clearly, we need to go straight to the source to find out what…
By: Simcha / December 30, 2010

Dear Wendy: “I Don’t Want To End Up Alone”

I'm a 21-year-old girl who can't seem to find happiness. Don't get me wrong; I love hanging out with my friends and having an active social life, but I just can't seem to find someone who wants to be with me. I feel as if I'm worthless because any guy I'm remotely interested in would…
By: Wendy Atterberry / November 24, 2010

Girl Talk: The Two-Night Stand

I met Elliot* at a restaurant. I was sitting at a table having dinner with a friend when I saw him sipping a bourbon at the bar. My palms got a little clammy, my jaw dropped slightly, and I may have even audibly gasped. "Hottest. Dude. Ever," I announced to my friend. My mouth started…
By: Amelia McDonell-Parry / November 17, 2010

Girl Talk: Go Ahead, Tell Me I’m In The Wrong Relationship

When I was 18 years old, I wanted to get my then-boyfriend’s initials tattooed across my hand. I needed the world to know that we were madly in love (which, of course, we weren’t) and this was going to be the man (which, of course, he wasn’t) that I’d spend the rest of my life…
By: Rebecca Brown / November 2, 2010

Girl Talk: I’m In A Relationship — Do I Have To Stop Flirting?

I always thought "settling down" was a euphemism. It meant nesting and discovering the pleasures of Saturday nights on the couch, cuddling in sweatpants. And it does mean that a little bit. But in my case, "settling down" has meant literally calming down. The parts of me that were more spontaneous and manic, quick to…
By: Caitlin Row / October 29, 2010

The Official Map Of Non-Monogamy

Click here for the full image.This map of non-monogamy makes me understand why so many people subscribe to monogamy ... it's way less complicated. I am going to go study for my non-monogamy pop quiz now. Dan Savage would be proud of me. [Tacit]…
By: Amelia McDonell-Parry / October 21, 2010

Is My Relationship Exclusive?

You know the saying, sometimes a cigar is just a cigar. But when does a casual series of drinks and meeting up at parties become a deeper entanglement of feelings, fascinating discussions about the origin of childhood scars and trips to the grocery store for toilet paper and dish detergent? To use the parlance of…
By: Lemondrop / September 30, 2010

Mind Of Man: How He Knows He’s In A Relationship

When a man gets into a relationship, he’s usually the last to know. Women fall in love, men slip on it. Women gently twirl down the rabbit hole of love like whirligigs, landing on their feet in a land of wonder. But for men, love is a sudden minor concussion. One moment, we’re strolling dow…
By: John DeVore / September 15, 2010

I Was Engaged To A Man With Commitment Phobia

When I met the cute blue-eyed surfer who lived in my apartment building—we'll call him Max—we clicked immediately. I'm a workaholic by nature, but I set aside my writing while he and I stayed up until dawn in fits of side-splitting giggles, thumbing through photo albums, playing music and talking—about everything. Politics, religion, sex—nothing wa…
By: YourTango.com / August 21, 2010

The Science Of The Booty Call

Evolutionary psychologist Peter K. Jonason thinks he has this whole friends with benefits thing figured out. Annoyed by seeing only the extremes of one-night stands and marriage being studied, Jonason decided to take a step into the gray area of researching what he calls "the booty call relationship." The end product is a…
By: Kelli Bender / August 9, 2010

Girl Talk: I’m Commitment-Phobic

Most of the time, when you hear "commitment-phobic," you think of a man. But that's not always the case. I'm commitment-phobic, and I'm a woman. The thought of being in a relationship terrifies me. The thought of committing to someone forever scares the pants off me. Oh, and getting to the altar? Watch me…
By: Anonymous / July 23, 2010

Quotable: Cameron Diaz Likes Relationships In 5-Year Increments

"Who would want to be with the same person for 80 years? Why not break it up a little bit? I think people get freaked out about getting married and spending 20 or 30 years sleeping with the same person but if that's the case, don't do it. Have someone for five years and another…
By: Amelia McDonell-Parry / July 22, 2010

Girl Talk: How Much Space Is Too Much In A Relationship?

We've all dated a jerk at some point in our lives, and if you haven't yet, you will. Like they say, you have to kiss a bunch of frogs to find your prince, right? Well, needless to say I've kissed my fair share of frogs and still no prince. But each frog I've dated ha…
By: Carli Alexa Blau / June 4, 2010

Girl Talk: I’m Not Sold On Monogamy

I was sitting around talking with some single ladies the other night. The topic du jour was the very popular “What are we looking for in a relationship?” I listened to variations on a theme: "someone to spend the rest of my life with," "a partner, lover, and best friend forever." I took it in.
By: Ami Angelowicz / June 3, 2010

Girl Talk: What The Hell Is Happening To 30-Something Guys?

If every time I met a cute, funny, smart, nice, emotionally stable, 30-something man with a girlfriend an angel exploded into a fireball and someone gave me a nickel, I would have enough money to buy a fancy angel graveyard with marble headstones. That is how frequent -- and how tragic -- this experience ha…
By: Amelia McDonell-Parry / May 11, 2010

Hugh Hefner: The New Poster Boy For Monogamy?

I never thought the day would come when Hugh Hefner would become the face of fidelity and sexual morality; but, alas, pigs have flown. At 84 years old, Hef has finally decided to settle down with one woman. Yes, folks, he’s given up his harem of bimbettes for girlfriend Crystal Harris. Sure, she’s bleached-blond…
By: Ami Angelowicz / April 14, 2010

Girl Talk: One-Nighters Are Not For Me

I have had my share of one-night stands. In fact, a significant percentage of the people I have slept with in the nearly 10 years since losing my virginity have been one-time deals. There was that guy at Mardi Gras -- hold on ... have to ask my friend what his name was ... damn,…
By: Amelia McDonell-Parry / April 8, 2010

Are Humans Supposed To Be Monogamous?

Does the entire wedding industry these days seem like one big racket to you? In your lifetime, how many thousands of dollars have you spent flying all over the country (or out of it) to watch people say "I do," buying place settings and champagne flutes from couples' Williams-Sonoma registries, and oohing and ahhing over…
By: DivineCaroline.com / March 6, 2010