monogamy

I Asked My Boyfriend To Sleep With Someone Else, And It Was Fantastic For Both Of Us

I found myself capable of deriving sexual pleasure from my boyfriends’ experience. I’ve since read this feeling is called “compersion.” Compersion is defined by the urban dictionary as the “feeling of joy when a loved one invests in and takes pleasure from another romantic or sexual relationship.” More »


Shirley MacLaine Dishes On Her Open Marriage

Oscar-winning actress Shirley MacLaine has rarely held back, whether it’s writing about reincarnation and past lives to wild sex tales, and her latest revelation is no different. The badass 81-year-old star told Jess Cagle, the editorial director of EW and People, that she and her ex-husband Steve Parker practiced non-monogamy.

MacLaine revealed, “I… More »


Girl On Girl: Questioning Monogamy

I’m a hopeless romantic, but in the last six months, I’ve had a drastic shift in what love means to me. I’ve let go of the idea that love is an intense and demanding force. It doesn’t need all of my attention and it doesn’t mean things have to happen “now or never.” I’ve learned… More »


Girl On Girl: The Myth Of Lesbian Bed Death

One of the things about being a little different from society’s standard is that you tend to seek out and consume the kinds of things that you see your reflection in. This is why “The L Word” stayed on the air for as long as it did. This is also why Jews still go to… More »


Dater X: To Bang Or Not To Bang?

In the lifecycle of dating, there’s a black hole smack dab in the middle of “I’m talking to someone” and “He’s my boyfriend,” that I like to call Exclusivity Limbo. I’ve been in that spot before and I’ve detailed my time there, what with the constant questioning, confusion and uncertainty of where things stand. But… More »


Cameron Diaz On Monogamy: “Everyone Will Be Cheated On”

“Everybody has been cheated on, everyone will be cheated on. I can’t fix that, I don’t know how, I don’t have any judgment on anybody, I don’t know how to fix the problem. We are human beings,we are complicated -– you cannot go through life without tallying up a few scars, you cannot go through… More »


Ethan Hawke Is Not So Keen On Monogamy

“My relationship with my present wife [his children’s former nanny, Ryan Shawhughes] is thrilling to me and I’m committed to it. But neither she nor I know what shape the future will come in. Sexual fidelity can’t be the whole thing you hang your relationship on. If you really love somebody you want them to… More »


Lisa Ling Explores Non-Monogamy In OWN’s “I Love You & You … & You”

I’m cautiously optimistic about the next episode of “Our America,” Lisa Ling’s docu-series on the OWN network, in which she discusses families/couplings who are non-monogamous. I’m pretty psyched anytime that the mainstream media acknowledges alternative sexualities at all, bonus points for when it acknowledges we are “normal.”  Polyamory or even just being monogam-ish are more common… More »


The Soapbox: In Marriage Equality, Three Shouldn’t Be A Crowd

When a public notary in Sao Paulo, Brazil, authorized a civil union between one man and two women, neither she nor the triad expected to make headlines. Now, three months after their three-way relationship was formalized, it has become an international news story with flashy headlines like “‘Big Love’ In Brazil.” The members of the… More »


Hitched: Should Cheaters ‘Fess Up Or Take It To The Grave?

You know how the worst kind of parent will be all, “Oh, you couldn’t possibly understand what it means to truly love another human being until you have a child of your own?” And you are all, Oh word, you’re right, I must be the emotionally crippled jerk here because I don’t go around conducting… More »


Girl Talk: In Praise Of Monogamy

Recently my husband and I went on a double date. We met my friend Kate and her husband Bear, at a German Beer Hall. I hadn’t met Bear, and I always find meeting a friend’s partner interesting. Kate seemed to come to life in Bear’s presence. He is upbeat but sensible, she is witty and… More »


Mind Of Man: Sure, Monogamy Is Unnatural

My lady friend asked me if I thought it was “absurd” to want to be monogamous with someone and I immediately told her that I did not think it was absurd. It’s absurd to want to be monogamous with a rhinoceros or a pineapple. Especially pineapples, because they are the sluttiest fruit. But I do… More »


Girl Talk: I Always Ask The Big Questions

Can you see yourself with him forever? I asked myself just, oh, the other day.Yes. Yes I can. I had asked this question of myself a few months ago too, but about someone else. The answer was the same. And about six months before that. Same question, same answer. Did I mention I’m currently single? More »


Soapbox: Why I Must Consider Non-Monogamy

The other day, I was talking to one of my lesbian friends about the difference between gay and straight relationships. “Being a straight woman, who may want to get married someday, means I have to entertain the notion of having a nonmonogamous marriage,” I argued.

“Why?” she challenged me. (I get this reaction… More »


The 9 Types Of Pre-Exclusive Relationships

One of the most frequently asked questions in the world of dating has got to be “If they’re not your significant other, than what the hell are they?” Well, pre-exclusive relationships (or PXRs) don’t have to be a frustrating grey area anymore. Here’s a handy guide to the 9 most common types of PXRs, all… More »


Monogamous Sex Is Best For Society, Says Conservative Dude

With so many points of clarifications that we could use from social conservatives — Single motherhood is bad! But so is abortion! — one would think The New York Times’ conservative columnist, Ross Douthat, would have plenty of rich, complicated topics to dig into. But in an op-ed column that ran yesterday, Douhat argued inMore »


Delusion Does A Happy Marriage Make

A new study conducted at the University of Buffalo found that the secret to a happy marriage is being slightly delusional about your partner. Researchers found that those who tend to idealize their beloved do better than pragmatists like myself when it comes to long-term happiness in marriage. “People are very good at changing their… More »


Why Smart Women Fail At Relationships

When I first met my husband Noah ten years ago, if you had met me, you would have thought to yourself, “Now here is a smart woman. She’s getting her M.B.A, great job, confident. Here is a woman with tons of self esteem.” And you would have been right. That was all true. Which is… More »


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