I hate Black Friday for a lot of reasons: Because it so neatly encapsulates the total delusion of consumer culture; because most of the things you can get deals on are completely unnecessary; because I’m not a huge proponent of any sort of fanaticism but especially fanaticism over spending money; because it forces retail employees to work hours they should be spending with their families at the risk of being fired; because it provides such a stark contrast between mobs our culture accepts (mobs spending money) and mobs it doesn’t (protesters fighting injustice). I also hate it because the people who claim there’s a “war on Christmas” as a Christian holiday are often the same people who are proponents of Black Friday, a day that reduces Christmas to a secularized consumer holiday, because it’s good for the economy or something. I hate it because it entrenches consumer goods as status symbols. I hate it because it points out how many of us Americans are living in poverty, how desperate we are to provide our children with a normal, capitalist American lifestyle, and how easy it is for giant corporations to pull our strings. Keep reading »
A strong relationship with your partner, and a solid, secure financial life together, begins with what you bring to the table. As a money and relationship coach, I work with couples who struggle with this; and, while there’s a lot they need to work on together, they first must start with themselves. And so do you.
Here, I’ve outlined the 10 big ideas that I walk everyone through to get on solid footing with their finances, so that they’re ready to be honest and optimistic about their future, their finances, and their relationships. Read more on YourTango.com…
Over the years we’ve received many requests for advice about dealing with friends and money. So many of life’s most celebratory events — weddings, weekend getaways with friends, epic steakhouse dinners — involve the often-ignored element of financial negotiation. After the toasts have been made, the plates cleared and everyone has migrated out to the balcony for cigars, how do you settle up?
Well, we’ve finally put the most frequently asked questions together in one place and sat down to hash out our rules. These apply to any financial reality. Read more on Ask Men…
So I guess that Gen Y has gone straight from being whiny, entitled dickheads whose only redeeming quality was our entrepreneurship, to being irrelevant and also apparently never really that entrepreneurial in the first place, according to Salon. I guess Gen X, the Boomers, and the Greatest Generation can all breathe a sigh of relief knowing that they can blame us for … I don’t know, whatever it is they’ve been complaining about for the last few years. Keep reading »
This week, I found myself in a position with Scar Twin that I’ve never been in before (and no, I’m not talking about sexual positions— that’s a story for another day). Anyway, as many of you know, my last long-term relationship ended about four years ago when Patrick Bateman decided to have two girlfriends and two lives in two different states. Since then, I’ve found myself on an endless carousel ride of courtships lasting approximately two months each before things turn to shit. During those short-lived romances, the issue of money never really came up. And then, this week, it did. Keep reading »
My life three years ago is sometimes incomprehensible to me. Retrospectively, it’s so absurd that it’s hard to believe that the things that happened happened, or that I tolerated some of the things that happened, or that I actively participated in some of the things that happened.
Enough mystery. When Jessica’s article about the time her husband spent unemployed went live, I told her about my experiences on both sides of the unemployment-in-a-relationship fence. I spent three years with an unemployed (former) spouse, and then became unemployed myself last year, during the course of the relationship I’m in with my boyfriend now. Jessica recounted beautifully the anxiety of watching a partner she loves undergoing the stress of unemployment and job-searching. Keep reading »