Congratulations! You have taken the first step toward choosing to have an entirely different relationship with your mother. That’s very exciting — and admirable … especially after all these years of feeling that you were powerless to change your feelings, and that she may have been the one at fault. Now let’s take the next step so that this Mother’s Day is different — and you are left feeling satisfied at having achieved your own freedom from your reactions. That would be a remarkable achievement indeed!
Mother’s Day, like Christmas and other family times together, can be a period of enormous stress and apprehension before, during and after the event. I suggest that you make the choice based on a powerful new perspective, which will give you a profound sense of peace, ease, and even love. How good would that be? How freeing would that be for you? Would there be anything to lose? Read more …
This Mother’s Day we’d like to take a moment to recognize our mothers for all the love they bestowed upon us, all the wisdom they imbued us with, and most of all, for the weird fears they attempted to instill in us. Whether they managed to turn us or not is a different story. Some we embraced (we agree that it is important to unplug your flatiron so as not to burn the house down), and some we vehemently rejected (tampons are perfectly safe to use). But we respect their perseverance in trying to make us accept their irrational truths as our own. Check out the bizarre fears our mothers taught us to have after the jump. Keep reading »
On the one hand: an adorable child rapper spitting rhymes about how guys need to stop checking out his hot mom. On the other: it’s slightly weird/creepy that a 12-year-old is admonishing a bunch of grown-ass men for gawking at his mother. You decide. [Astronomical Kid
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The other day, Amelia posted a list of her life experiences that were empowering and pretty epic. So epic that I began to get concerned that, maybe, I haven’t done enough with my life. I was able to leave my comfortable suburban Michigan existence surrounded by everyone I know, to go to college in New York where I knew no one. But outside of that, I couldn’t come up with the same confident list of experiences, and it kind of started to freak me out. I am also in the midst of finals and I think my emotional state is a little more fragile than usual, allowing me to panic over the topic for a while. Soon enough I came around and realized that I am only 21 and not even out of college yet [And not an old fart like me, huh? ;) -- Editor Amelia], I still have a whole lot of life to experience.
Somehow that is a thought that doesn’t scare me. I know that I am as ready and mentally prepared as I can be for whatever events I happen upon, or smack me in the face. This is a confidence I owe to my mother. Even though I haven’t gone through too much, I have been a constant audience to the ups and downs of my mom’s life. It may have been secondhand, but watching the way she has handled herself has given me an excellent course for the future. So when I get my chance to handle life’s experiences gracefully, I will have my mom to thank. These are the five things that my mother has taught, and in turn the ways my mom has empowered, me for the future. Keep reading »
A few nights ago I met up with an older journalist for cocktails. We sipped our drinks and talked about work, men, the usual subjects. Then she mentioned she’s going to New Orleans for a week with nine of her friends from college to build homes. “That’s so cool!” I exclaimed.
“Oh, we’ve done a vacation together every year,” she explained. “We don’t all go every year, because when the first one of us had a baby, we made a rule that no children are allowed to come. Usually the ones with younger children miss a few trips. But most of us go each year and leave our kids home with our husbands.”
Color me flabbergasted. My stay-at-home mom never did anything like that. And my three sisters, who are moms, have behaved at times like they can’t go see a matinee with me without Navy SEAL-level advanced planning.
“I’m a bad mom,” my new friend smiled, sipping her cocktail while her two kids sat at home with a sitter.
“Oh, no!” I assured her. “You’re the kind of mom I want to be!” Keep reading »
Still upset you didn’t win the school science fair? Well, Whirlpool is giving you a chance to come in first place as an adult. The company has just announced their 4th Annual Mother of Invention Contest for crafty women with clever product ideas. Prizes include a $20,000 grant for the winner, four runners up will get $6,000 a piece, enrollment in business boot camp, and of course some will even be awarded appliances. Past award-winning innovations include a baby bottle nipple that adjusts to fit the sizes of a variety of bottles, a plunger that stores under the hood of the toilet, a waterproof bra, and a germaphobe’s dream cleaning service for children’s toys. So while the competition is stiff, the catch is, you also have to have been through labor. But you know, mothers know best. [Start Up Spark] Keep reading »
Joyce McFadden, a New York City psychoanalyst, who runs a site called Women’s Realities, actively conducts studies where she asks women questions and then let’s them answer in their own words. As you’d expect, we ladies have sex on our minds. So, when prompted with, What do you want to know about your mother but would never ask?, the responses were overwhelmingly about their mother’s sexual history — from how she lost her virginity, to possible abortions, to if she had even ever questioned her sexuality. While the answers to this query may not be child-proof, as a teenager or adult struggling with our own sexuality and love life, this info could be a bit uncomfortable, but useful and potentially validating. Although, just a few days after buttering our moms up with Mother’s Day presents, we still can’t seem to ask. [Huffington Post] Keep reading »