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Girls’ Breasts Not Being Big Enough To Be Groped Isn’t The Damn Point

Margaret Cunneen

I haven’t been following the Australian swimming community’s sexual abuse scandal. I only feel like I have been. That’s because these sorts of heartbreaking stories are so goddamned familiar: a coach is accused of sexually abusing the young charges under his tutelage and with whom he has shared lots of private time, often far from home.

In Australia’s case, several coaches were accused of sexual abuse of both male and female swimmers between the ages of 11 and 16. One coach is Scott Volkers, who is accused of child sexual abuse by three now-adult women. Volkers is accused, among other things, of rubbing the genitalia of a 13-year-old girl and groping the girls’ breasts; he has long claimed his innocence. Charges were dropped against Volkers in 2002 because accusations could not be proven “beyond a reasonable doubt.” Two years later,  in 2004, prosecutor Margaret Cunneen advised against recharging him.

Currently, Australia is holding an investigation (called a “royal commission”) focusing on the country’s institutional response, including whether Cunneen’s advice not to recharge him was appropriate. At the time, Cunneen showed skepticism that the abuse could be prosecuted. Which, as a lawyer, is her job to prove. However, what Cunneen said about it all was pretty offensive to these victims. Cunneen said it could all be seen as “trivial … almost fanciful” and it would be difficult to prosecute Volkers for molestation because his victim may not have developed breasts yet. “It is legitimate to consider whether 12-year-old swimmers even had breasts,” she said. Keep reading »

Pamela Anderson Opens Up At Cannes About Childhood Sexual Abuse

  • Pamela Anderson launched her own foundation at the Cannes Film Festival and publicly spoke about the sexual abuse she suffered as a child and an adolescent. From age six to 10, Anderson was molested by a female babysitter and at 12, she was raped by the older brother of a friend’s boyfriend. Then in 9th grade, she was gang raped by a boyfriend and six of his friends. What kept her going, she confessed, was her love for animals and the environment. “My affinity with animals saved me, they came to me naturally,” Anderson said. “The trees spoke to me, I wasn’t sure why I was alive, a burning question, a quest. My loyalty remains with the animal kingdom. I vowed to protect them and only them.” You can learn more about the Pamela Anderson Foundation here. [US Weekly] Keep reading »

Dylan Farrow Will Model In A Charity Event For Sexual Abuse Survivors

  • Dylan Farrow will model in a charity event on Friday night in Connecticut to support survivors of sexual abuse through organization called Jane Doe No More. The usually-private Farrow wrote a piece in the New York Times earlier this year about alleged sexual abuse she endured from her adoptive father, Woody Allen. [Page Six]
  • Malik Bendjelloul, the director of “Searching For Sugarman,” which won the 2013 Oscar for Best Documentary, has died suddenly at 36, reportedly from suicide. [Rolling Stone]
  • Prince Harry, true to form, hooked up with an anonymous blonde socialite while attending a wedding in Nashville. Please, just not Paris Hilton. [US Weekly]
  • A seven-year-old girl planning her own comedy show wrote the cutest tips. [The Maude] Keep reading »

Mia Farrow & Lena Dunham Speak Up In Support Of Dylan Farrow, While Brother Moses Farrow Supports Woody Allen

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The reaction to Dylan Farrow’s New York Times article about sexual abuse she allegedly suffered as a young girl at the hands of Woody Allen has gotten even murkier this week. Mia Farrow, 28-year-old Dylan’s mom, and Lena Dunham have both voiced their support. But Moses Farrow, one of Mia’s other adopted children, has publicly sided with his father, telling People magazine that Mia was “vengeful” and “drummed it into me to hate my father.”

Oh dear.  Keep reading »

Angel Haze’s “Cleaning Out My Closet”: Startling Song About Childhood Sexual Abuse

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Angel Haze

“Wanted to rip it out and just fucking step on my heart.”

There is really no way to describe “Coming Out Of The Closet” by Angel Haze, her rap about the sexual abuse she’s suffered since the age of seven, other than to say it’s the most intense song about sexual abuse I’ve ever heard. It’s candid, graphic, and heartwrenching. The song (set to the beat of Eminem’s “Cleanin’ Out Of The Closet”) isn’t just about the abuse itself, but also Haze’s ensuing self-loathing of her body and fear of men.  Survivors and people triggered by sexual violence should be warned. Angel Haze’s album Classick comes out October 25th. Listen to “Cleaning Out My Closet” after the jump… Keep reading »

Dad Who Killed His Daughter’s Molester Regrets It, So Stop Applauding Him!

The debate over whether a father who found a man molesting his 4-year-old daughterand allegedly beat him to death has been raging for days now. And it’s time to put it to bed. The Texas dad will remain anonymous, and cops say he will likely not be prosecuted. What’s more: he says he wishes it hadn’t happened.

A grand jury will still debate charges of some kind for the father while police search for family of the deceased before releasing his name. And regardless of their decision, the father who acted out on his daughter’s abuser has two things to live with for the rest of his life that I don’t wish on anyone. Read more…

Quickies: Kara DioGuardi Opens Up About Rape & HBO Has Already Renewed “Game Of Thrones”

  • Former “American Idol” judge Kara DioGuardi opens up in her new memoir, A Helluva High Note, about the molestation she suffered as an 11-year-old and her experience as an adult being date raped by a well-known music producer. DioGuardi writes that she kept the rape to herself for years out of fear that angering him would ruin her career. [PopEater]
  • Drama! A “Glee” extra has leaked the identities of the prom king and prom queen on Twitter (but fret not — there’s no spoiler at the link). Heads will roll! [Crushable]
  • 100 songs, $100 in aid relief to Japan — what could be a better deal? A group called Songs of Love for Japan is selling 100 songs from artists like Tori Amos, Sara Bareilles, Ani DiFranco, and Elizabeth and the Catapult, and donating proceeds to ShelterBox, a charity that helps in disaster areas. (If $100 is too steep for your pocket, you can get a sampler of 20 songs for $20!) It runs through Thursday April 21st at 10:00 a.m. EST, so hop to it! [Songs Of Love For Japan]
  • ZOMG, check out these 13 recipes featuring Cadbury creme eggs. Those brownies look amazing! Someone bake these, please. [BuzzFeed]

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Is That A Banana In Your Pocket Or Are You Sexually Assaulting Me?

“One thing I used to do is carry a banana around in my pocket,” is what one man is using as evidence that he is innocent of sexual assault. David Morris, a 60-year-old pastor in Wales, is on trial for sexually assaulting a 12-year-old girl 15 years ago. Keep reading »

Dr. Nipple Sucker, M.D.

A Finnish doctor is on trial for sexual molestation after using a highly unorthodox method to diagnose a patient. When a 20-year-old woman came into his office complaining of nipple fluid, the doctor says he “used an old midwives trick” to diagnose her. After asking her permission, he sucked on her nipple. Now it’s up to the Finnish Supreme Court to decide if his method was inappropriate. Way to go, Dr. Nipple Sucker, M.D. That’s about as creepy as it gets. [FOX] Keep reading »

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