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Occupy Modern Love

Dozens of protesters gathered outside The New York Times building on Eighth Avenue last night to protest the no-comment policy of the newspaper’s weekly Modern Love column.

“The Times is suppressing free speech,” said Jax123, who, like many of the protesters, prefers to be called by his screen name. “And since we aren’t… More »


The Most Common Relationship Issues According To The Editor Of The New York Times’ “Modern Love”

“There are broad subjects with a lot of areas to explore, but what I continually get is stories about Facebook during midlife marriage stress. People in their thirties, forties, fifties, experiencing a lack of passion, claustrophobia, kids taking all your attention, and the kind of fantasizing that Facebook brings out in them.”
Daniel Jones,… More »


Modern Love Tackles One Woman’s Spanking Fetish

The New York Times Style section usually emits more groans from me than cheers. Remember that piece about how bangs are “in”? And how women wear dresses? So I was ecstatic this week to see the Modern Love essay is by Jillian Keenan, a woman with a spanking fetish who is struggling to come out… More »


The Dangers Of Dating Someone You Feel “Meh” About

You know when your friend gets a boyfriend, and for whatever reason, you know it’s not a good idea and that it’s not going to work out? And you say “I dunno, I feel like it’s not a good idea, and that it’s not going to work out…” But your friend is stubborn, so obviously they go… More »


Girl Talk: Do I Really Need To Know Why He Dumped Me?

I probably could have written the Modern Love essay, Exit Left, Wordlessly, in this past Sunday’s New York Times. Not that I could have penned it better than writer Aimee Lee Ball, just that I have a story which is frighteningly similar. Ball’s tale is about breaking up with a man only to have him resurface… More »


Would You Date Someone With A Terminal Illness?

What if you found out the man (or woman) of your dreams was dying of an incurable illness? Would you stay, or would you go? This weekend the New York Times Modern Love column brought to light a real-life dilemma for thousands of people: What happens when it turns out the love of your life… More »


“Modern Love Revenge” Proves There Are Always Two Sides To Every Story

If you’re like me, the first thing you do every Sunday morning is check the “Modern Love” column in the New York Times—a collection of first person essays about love of all varieties. Usually, I am wrapped up in the storyline, scrolling down the page, sipping my coffee, eager to find out how the saga… More »


Could You Ever Get Past Hearing “I Don’t Love You Anymore?”

One of the big bombshells my ex dropped the day he decided he needed a break was, “I don’t know that we’re in love anymore.” I didn’t buy it. I was in love and I was certain he was too. He was confused, he needed space, and I was going to give it to him,… More »


Girl Talk: Why EChem is Just Not Enough

I heart words and communication. This includes emails, text messages, Gchat, Blackberry Messenger, iChat — the works. I am a sucker for a well-crafted email or a witty text message. My motto: The way to my heart is through my brain. That’s why I thought Joe could be Mr. Perfect for me. Joe and I… More »


Modern Love, From Newspaper Column To TV Show

The New York TimesModern Love column is something many simply adore — and others love to hate. Each week, readers learn intimate details about someone else’s relationship, and sometimes learn lessons about human nature, relationships, and love. The column has helped several writers launch their careers by way of book deals; now it may… More »


Love 101: When An Angelina Arrives

Every woman I know can share some anecdote regarding that gorgeous female “friend” her boyfriend annoyingly adores. It’s just inevitable. The minute you settle down with the Brad of your dreams, some Angelina shows up like a bee to your honey. Occasionally, she really is “just a friend,” but when her feelings run deeper, well,… More »


Real Chick Lit: What Shamu Taught Me About Not Being An Annoying Nag

One of the things you learn very quickly in a relationship is that people have really annoying habits. This becomes especially apparent when you move in with someone and suddenly their little eccentricities become part of your everyday life, from the way they leave empty paper coffee cups on the table for weeks on end,… More »


Poll: Would You Date A Guy Who Had A Kid?

The “Modern Love” column in this Sunday’s New York Times was about a woman who dates a musician who has a kid with a woman he briefly dated. The guy turns out to be a bit of a child himsef, but the whole piece got me thinking about whether I would be down for dating… More »


Feature: A Not-So-Innocent E-mail Affair

When I think of virtual reality, I think of those goofy Star Trek-looking visor/headsets that people thought would transport them to their ultimate fantasy world back in the early ’90s. I certainly never thought the term would apply to my life. And yet, for more than a year, I was involved in what can only… More »


Falling In Love On The A Train

The whole Patrick Moberg, nygirlofmydreams.com thing really got our hopes up about the possibility of meeting someone on public transportation. It would be such a good use of time since we’re on a bus or subway almost two whole hours every day. So we got really excited about this article in New York about four… More »


NY Subway Dreamgirl: The Epilogue

You know a “New York Tale of Hipster Love” has gone mainstream when Diane Sawyer is cooing about it on Good Morning America. Patrick Moberg, the author and illustrator behind the infamous “Dreamgirl” website/doodle, appeared on the show with his finally found paramour. The recap? They went out on a date and totally clicked! And… More »


Missed Connection Notice Sweet or Scary?

Guy sees dream girl on subway, guy misses opportunity to woo dream girl, guy posts adorable doodle on internet with his phone number. We would be skeeved out by the potential creepiness if we weren’t too busy going, “Aww!” [NY Girl Of My Dreams] … More »