Here’s what I’ve learned about men on the internet who are annoying at best and abusive at worst: They think they know the women they harass. They have access to our ideas and our creative output (i.e. writing, videos, etc.), to our faces, to basic information about us, to a few scant personal details, and from that they concoct for us fictional life stories, fictional personalities, and fictional motivations. It can be terrifying on this end of that interaction, because we don’t know who these men are at all, but they believe they know us and interact with us, talk with us, as if they do.
It’s worse for celebrities, because it’s not just compulsive internet commenters who do this — it’s everyone. We want to be able to relate to celebrities. So we take their movies, videos, music, writing, interviews, press releases, and Instagram and Twitter accounts, and we create a fiction about who they are, or who they would be if we knew them personally. To some extent, that fictional personality is something that they curate and cultivate in order both to create demand and to create distance. Keep reading »
Fox News’ new show “Outnumbered” pits four female anchorbabes up against one male guest. The premise? Gender wars! Fun! On Friday, the male guest, (unscrupulous) Fox Business contributor Charles Payne, wore a cute little accessory on air to signal his disdain for the opposite sex: cufflinks depicting a caveman with a club, dragging a woman behind him by her hair. Yes, really, he actually wore cufflinks depicting caveman domestic violence — he said so himself! You couldn’t make this shit up. [YouTube via MediaMatters]
Last night, VH1 asked Twitters users to tweet interview questions for Robin Thicke — big mistake. The #AskThicke hashtag took a totally different turn than the network planned and became a sounding board for Thicke’s creepy, misogynistic behavior. Watching him get called out on his douchecanoe behavior was some of the better entertainment I’ve seen in a while. Here are some of the best… Keep reading »
A University of Washington student was arrested on Saturday afternoon after writing comments online that he intended to be “the next Elliot Rodger” and he would “make sure I kill only women.” Keep reading »
“Everyone is a complicated human being, and everyone is strong and weak and funny and scared, and we get to have the full range of emotion experienced with these women. I don’t want to make a centralizing comment about womanhood, because I think that’s problematic from a feminist perspective, but we just see these amazingly complicated women, who are strong, and vulnerable, and scared, and want to support each other at the end of the day.
I think about #YesAllWomen and the culture of misogyny that I believe we exist in that a lot of people don’t want to acknowledge. I’ve said loving transgender people is revolutionary, but I think loving women — really loving women, is revolutionary too, in a social context that is deeply misogynistic, deeply does not celebrate women. And we have pockets of that, we do have places where we celebrate women a lot, but I think the way the culture is aligned and structured is misogynistic. It just is. So it’s really great to have a show that creates spaces that really do celebrate women and our diversity, and not just one kind of woman. That’s revolutionary.”
Transgender actress Laverne Cox spoke to ELLE about the complexity of the characters on “Orange Is The New Black” and what an impact that can have on viewers by portraying women as complicated people. I love Cox’s willingness to talk about subjects like misogyny and feminism in interviews. It’s really refreshing to have an actress on a hot show in the public eye right now who talks about those topics with candor. [ELLE]
During a chat with HuffPo Live on Thursday, comedian Chris D’Elia, who stars in some sure-to-be-canceled show called “Undateable,” decided to weigh in on the Twitter hashtag #YesAllWomen. To recap: the hashtag was launched following last Friday’s mass murder near UC Santa Barbara, which shooter Elliot Rodger justified in a misogyny-drenched, 137-page manifesto and in a YouTube video called “Elliot Rodger’s Retribution.” Twitter was flooded with stories from women of having their personhood violated by men assuming ownership, just as Rodger felt that women owed him sex, love, attention, and adoration, and intended on killing them for not delivering it. These stories illustrated what women fear even if “not all men” engage in those behaviors. While upsetting, it was inspiring to see women of all sorts come together in solidarity to share their stories. Chris D’Elia, it seems, wasn’t as impressed:
“I think that it’s terrible that a lot of these people tweeting about this—using this hashtag—I think that it’s a little bit shitty to what actually happened. I think that what happened was terrible, people died, and somebody’s like, ‘A guy looked at my butt, that’s not cool, #yesallwomen’? I think that that’s kind of rude to the people that lost their lives.”
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