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Not All Men Are Dangerous, But Yes, All Women Do Live With The Fear Of Elliot Rodger’s Fury

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“Life is not fair. One can either accept that fact, keeling over in defeat; or one can harness the strength to fight against it. My destiny was to fight against the unfairness of the world.” – Elliot Rodger

On Friday night a man stabbed and killed three men in his apartment, got into his car, drove through the postcard-pretty college town of Isla Vista, California, and killed three more people while injuring 13 others.

He was Not All Men, of course, just a deeply disturbed, homicidal 22-year old who has been identified as Elliot Rodger.

Before I write anything, I first need to pause and offer my sincerest condolences to the loved ones of those who were killed. Like the rest of the world, I am also heartsick for those who were injured and traumatized by this attack. Nothing anyone can do or say will ever bring them back and that is a tragedy no words will ever rectify. Keep reading »

#YesAllWomen: Women Tweet Stories Of Their Personhood Being Violated

YesAllWomen: Women Tweets Stories Of Their Personhood Being Violated

Friday night, six people were killed in Isla Vista, California, near the campus of UC Santa Barbara, by Elliot Rodger, a 22-year-old bent on “retribution” for his lack of success with girls. Rodger died as well from, police believe, a self-inflicted gunshot wound. Various YouTube videos, internet forum comments, and a 140-page manifesto (which I read in full) sent to a local news station reveal the misogyny behind Rodger’s violent mass murder. Rodger felt he deserved sex, love, adulation and devotion from women, for no reason other than his perceived belief that he was a “gentleman,” and that women should die for denying him that. The mental state that led him to actually commit that violence is a subject that should be addressed but not as a distraction from the misogyny that fueled it. Why? Because women everywhere — YES, ALL WOMEN — deal with this denial of their full personhood every day. This shared experience is what prompted the hashtag #YESALLWOMEN, featuring women’s stories of their personal autonomy being violated in ways “big” and “small,” and the ways we’re forced to protect ourselves from these violations. It is incredibly powerful and I urge you all to look through the hashtag here.

Single? #LookADouche Is Here To Tell You To “Shut Up” To Be Dateable

Yesterday at a Richardson High School assembly in Texas, students got some … interesting … relationship advice.  Motivational speaker Justin Lookadoo — now appropriately deemed #LookADouche by the students — shared questionable “tips” such as telling students that “dateable girls know how to shut up.”

I’m sure that went over wonderfully with fragile 14-year-olds’ self-esteem. Keep reading »

Dude We Love: Joss Whedon Hates The Word “Feminist,” But Loves Feminists

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"You either believe that women are people or you don't."

I wouldn’t blame anyone for being sick of the discussion around the word “feminist.” The conversation is extremely fucking overwrought, when it shouldn’t be.  I agree with Joss Whedon, who says in the video above, that you either believe that women are human beings equal to and deserving of the same opportunities and respect as men, or you don’t. But Whedon said something else when he spoke earlier this week for Equality Now at an event called “Make Equality Reality.” He said that he hates the word “feminist.” Keep reading »

Lesbian Blogger Explains Why Telling A Woman She’s “Too Pretty To Be Gay” Is Insulting To All Women

In a piece published yesterday in the Huffington Post, DapperQ Managing Editor, Anita Dolce Vita, does a bang up job of explaining why, not only is telling a gay woman “she’s too pretty to be a lesbian” or “you shouldn’t have a hard time finding a boyfriend” or “you don’t look like a lesbian” NOT a compliment (as some men seem to believe), but an insulting form of homophobia. “Most people who spew such nonsense expect me to delight in their backhanded praise and are surprised when I inform them that telling someone that she is too pretty to be a lesbian is actually not a compliment,” she writes. “Believing that there is a point on some arbitrary scale at which a woman is too attractive to be gay is based on the assumption that heterosexual women are inherently better-looking, and that’s just plain homophobic.” Keep reading »

Is This Offensive Johnny Farah Ad The “Worst Ad Of The Year”?

Ford India Offensive Ad
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Ford India ad shows Kardashians bound, gagged in car trunks. Read More »
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Nigella Lawson photographed being choked by her husband. Read More »
Thigh Advertising
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Japanese women are wearing advertisements on their thighs. Read More »
Natalie's Ad Banned
A Dior ad with Natalie Portman has been banned over Photoshop. Read More »
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This ad was made in an effort to “celebrate” the collaboration between Johnny Farah, a Lebanese designer of luxury belts, bags, and accessories, and photographer Joe Kesrouani, but it ended up being more horrifying than anything. The photo features a man, inexplicably covered in like ten different belts, pushing a woman forward with his hand while pulling her neck back with a belt. To make matters worse, her head is covered by one of Farah’s luxury leather bags. According to Farah, however, this is all in the name of art! Keep reading »

Australian PM Julia Gillard’s “Small Breasts” And “Huge Thighs” Shouldn’t Be On The Menu

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Some jerk is making a list of the ugliest women in politics. Read More »
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Study says Republican woman are more feminine than Democrats. Read More »
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Even the prime minister of Australia is not immune of objectification and body-snarking: at a political fundraising dinner Julia Gillard was reduced to the significance of the quail served up for dinner with an absurdly offensive menu item listed “Julia Gillard Quail – small breasts, huge thighs, and a big red box” as the main entrée. Keep reading »

Danish Show “Blachman” Offers Unkempt Men’s Opinions On Naked Women

Take a good look at the picture of the two men posted here. Would you want the two of them to judge your naked body? On national television? Because that’s exactly what’s happening on a new show in Denmark. TV host Thomas Blachman (the bald, pot-bellied one) and a rotating male guest (in this episode, an unkempt hairy one), openly ridicule, judge and comment on women’s naked bodies. And yes, that’s the entire point of the show. Called simply “Blachman,” the show is intended to helpfully give women an honest earful about what men truly think about their bodies.

Women, says Blachman, “‘thirst for the words of a man.” You’re thirsty right now, right? Keep reading »

Sexist Axe Ad
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A headless pair of boobs stars in Axe's new commercial. Read More »
Sexist Beer Marketing
Lady beer expert pens open letter letter to beer enthusiasts. Read More »
Is This Sexist?
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Some say this ad is sexist and offensive, some say it's not. Read More »

The Soapbox: The Self-Righteous Bullies Of Tumblr And Their Feminist Apologists

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All about the Nice Guys Of OK Cupid Tumblr. Read More »
"Nice Guys" Who Rape
Intent isn’t everything, but it does matter. Read More »
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12 guys you shouldn't date in 2011. Read More »

I’d been planning to let the issue of the Nice Guys of OK Cupid blog on Tumblr slide. [NOTE: The blog has since been taken down.] It is pretty depressing from every perspective. I’d squabbled and grumbled about it on Twitter with a few people, and then thankfully the Christmas break pushed it out of my mind.

If it passed you by, the Tumblr scours the dating/social networking site OK Cupid for profiles of men and then posts their pictures (without permission) alongside selected quotes. The typical entry shows a less than attractive guy with a few quotes from his profile proclaiming himself a ‘nice guy’ who is fed up of being ‘friendzoned’ and then a ‘wrong’ answer from the set profile questionnaires such as “Should women feel an obligation to shave their legs? Yes.” Keep reading »

Frisky Rant: Hugo Schwyzer’s List Of Ways Men Are “Fighting” Sexism Is Really Lame

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Apparently. And it's all your fault. Read More »
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Common dumb things people make the mistake of saying to feminists. Read More »
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Everything The Frisky has ever written about feminism! Read More »

Thanks, but no thanks. Yesterday, Jezebel posted an article by resident man feminist Hugo Schwyzer (who, full disclosure, contributed to The Frisky in 2010-2011 ), exalting five ways men are fighting sexism these days. Titled “Thanks, Guys: Five Ways Men Are Fighting Sexism,” Schwyzer, who teaches women’s studies classes at Pasadena City College, notes that men are undoing sexism, really! He includes the following examples: A rant video from Jay Smooth, calling out men who were bullying videogame blogger Anita Sarkeesian; the creation of a Tumblr called MenAgainstAssholesAndMisogyny; the work of performance artist Carlos Andres Gomez, who wrote a love poem called “You Are Everything,” full of ’80s references; an article in The Atlantic calling for an end to “violent masculinity”; and the movement to end the “bro hug.”   While I laud any man who recognizes his internal privilege and wants to address the social and historical oppression of women, this is not what I had in mind. Keep reading »

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