“Life is not fair. One can either accept that fact, keeling over in defeat; or one can harness the strength to fight against it. My destiny was to fight against the unfairness of the world.” – Elliot Rodger
On Friday night a man stabbed and killed three men in his apartment, got into his car, drove through the postcard-pretty college town of Isla Vista, California, and killed three more people while injuring 13 others.
He was Not All Men, of course, just a deeply disturbed, homicidal 22-year old who has been identified as Elliot Rodger.
Before I write anything, I first need to pause and offer my sincerest condolences to the loved ones of those who were killed. Like the rest of the world, I am also heartsick for those who were injured and traumatized by this attack. Nothing anyone can do or say will ever bring them back and that is a tragedy no words will ever rectify. Keep reading »
Yesterday at a Richardson High School assembly in Texas, students got some … interesting … relationship advice. Motivational speaker Justin Lookadoo — now appropriately deemed #LookADouche by the students — shared questionable “tips” such as telling students that “dateable girls know how to shut up.”
I’m sure that went over wonderfully with fragile 14-year-olds’ self-esteem. Keep reading »
I wouldn’t blame anyone for being sick of the discussion around the word “feminist.” The conversation is extremely fucking overwrought, when it shouldn’t be. I agree with Joss Whedon, who says in the video above, that you either believe that women are human beings equal to and deserving of the same opportunities and respect as men, or you don’t. But Whedon said something else when he spoke earlier this week for Equality Now at an event called “Make Equality Reality.” He said that he hates the word “feminist.” Keep reading »
In a piece published yesterday in the Huffington Post, DapperQ Managing Editor, Anita Dolce Vita, does a bang up job of explaining why, not only is telling a gay woman “she’s too pretty to be a lesbian” or “you shouldn’t have a hard time finding a boyfriend” or “you don’t look like a lesbian” NOT a compliment (as some men seem to believe), but an insulting form of homophobia. “Most people who spew such nonsense expect me to delight in their backhanded praise and are surprised when I inform them that telling someone that she is too pretty to be a lesbian is actually not a compliment,” she writes. “Believing that there is a point on some arbitrary scale at which a woman is too attractive to be gay is based on the assumption that heterosexual women are inherently better-looking, and that’s just plain homophobic.” Keep reading »
This ad was made in an effort to “celebrate” the collaboration between Johnny Farah, a Lebanese designer of luxury belts, bags, and accessories, and photographer Joe Kesrouani, but it ended up being more horrifying than anything. The photo features a man, inexplicably covered in like ten different belts, pushing a woman forward with his hand while pulling her neck back with a belt. To make matters worse, her head is covered by one of Farah’s luxury leather bags. According to Farah, however, this is all in the name of art! Keep reading »
Even the prime minister of Australia is not immune of objectification and body-snarking: at a political fundraising dinner Julia Gillard was reduced to the significance of the quail served up for dinner with an absurdly offensive menu item listed “Julia Gillard Quail – small breasts, huge thighs, and a big red box” as the main entrée. Keep reading »
Take a good look at the picture of the two men posted here. Would you want the two of them to judge your naked body? On national television? Because that’s exactly what’s happening on a new show in Denmark. TV host Thomas Blachman (the bald, pot-bellied one) and a rotating male guest (in this episode, an unkempt hairy one), openly ridicule, judge and comment on women’s naked bodies. And yes, that’s the entire point of the show. Called simply “Blachman,” the show is intended to helpfully give women an honest earful about what men truly think about their bodies.
Women, says Blachman, “‘thirst for the words of a man.” You’re thirsty right now, right? Keep reading »
Thanks, but no thanks. Yesterday, Jezebel posted an article by resident man feminist Hugo Schwyzer (who, full disclosure, contributed to The Frisky in 2010-2011 ), exalting five ways men are fighting sexism these days. Titled “Thanks, Guys: Five Ways Men Are Fighting Sexism,” Schwyzer, who teaches women’s studies classes at Pasadena City College, notes that men are undoing sexism, really! He includes the following examples: A rant video from Jay Smooth, calling out men who were bullying videogame blogger Anita Sarkeesian; the creation of a Tumblr called MenAgainstAssholesAndMisogyny; the work of performance artist Carlos Andres Gomez, who wrote a love poem called “You Are Everything,” full of ’80s references; an article in The Atlantic calling for an end to “violent masculinity”; and the movement to end the “bro hug.” While I laud any man who recognizes his internal privilege and wants to address the social and historical oppression of women, this is not what I had in mind. Keep reading »