Yesterday at a Richardson High School assembly in Texas, students got some … interesting … relationship advice. Motivational speaker Justin Lookadoo — now appropriately deemed #LookADouche by the students — shared questionable “tips” such as telling students that “dateable girls know how to shut up.”
I’m sure that went over wonderfully with fragile 14-year-olds’ self-esteem. Keep reading »
I wouldn’t blame anyone for being sick of the discussion around the word “feminist.” The conversation is extremely fucking overwrought, when it shouldn’t be. I agree with Joss Whedon, who says in the video above, that you either believe that women are human beings equal to and deserving of the same opportunities and respect as men, or you don’t. But Whedon said something else when he spoke earlier this week for Equality Now at an event called “Make Equality Reality.” He said that he hates the word “feminist.” Keep reading »
In a piece published yesterday in the Huffington Post, DapperQ Managing Editor, Anita Dolce Vita, does a bang up job of explaining why, not only is telling a gay woman “she’s too pretty to be a lesbian” or “you shouldn’t have a hard time finding a boyfriend” or “you don’t look like a lesbian” NOT a compliment (as some men seem to believe), but an insulting form of homophobia. “Most people who spew such nonsense expect me to delight in their backhanded praise and are surprised when I inform them that telling someone that she is too pretty to be a lesbian is actually not a compliment,” she writes. “Believing that there is a point on some arbitrary scale at which a woman is too attractive to be gay is based on the assumption that heterosexual women are inherently better-looking, and that’s just plain homophobic.” Keep reading »
This ad was made in an effort to “celebrate” the collaboration between Johnny Farah, a Lebanese designer of luxury belts, bags, and accessories, and photographer Joe Kesrouani, but it ended up being more horrifying than anything. The photo features a man, inexplicably covered in like ten different belts, pushing a woman forward with his hand while pulling her neck back with a belt. To make matters worse, her head is covered by one of Farah’s luxury leather bags. According to Farah, however, this is all in the name of art! Keep reading »
Even the prime minister of Australia is not immune of objectification and body-snarking: at a political fundraising dinner Julia Gillard was reduced to the significance of the quail served up for dinner with an absurdly offensive menu item listed “Julia Gillard Quail – small breasts, huge thighs, and a big red box” as the main entrée. Keep reading »
Take a good look at the picture of the two men posted here. Would you want the two of them to judge your naked body? On national television? Because that’s exactly what’s happening on a new show in Denmark. TV host Thomas Blachman (the bald, pot-bellied one) and a rotating male guest (in this episode, an unkempt hairy one), openly ridicule, judge and comment on women’s naked bodies. And yes, that’s the entire point of the show. Called simply “Blachman,” the show is intended to helpfully give women an honest earful about what men truly think about their bodies.
Women, says Blachman, “‘thirst for the words of a man.” You’re thirsty right now, right? Keep reading »
Thanks, but no thanks. Yesterday, Jezebel posted an article by resident man feminist Hugo Schwyzer (who, full disclosure, contributed to The Frisky in 2010-2011 ), exalting five ways men are fighting sexism these days. Titled “Thanks, Guys: Five Ways Men Are Fighting Sexism,” Schwyzer, who teaches women’s studies classes at Pasadena City College, notes that men are undoing sexism, really! He includes the following examples: A rant video from Jay Smooth, calling out men who were bullying videogame blogger Anita Sarkeesian; the creation of a Tumblr called MenAgainstAssholesAndMisogyny; the work of performance artist Carlos Andres Gomez, who wrote a love poem called “You Are Everything,” full of ’80s references; an article in The Atlantic calling for an end to “violent masculinity”; and the movement to end the “bro hug.” While I laud any man who recognizes his internal privilege and wants to address the social and historical oppression of women, this is not what I had in mind. Keep reading »
It seems like every day another Republican politician is bloviating about the definition of rape as if he, a middle-aged man, is the true authority on the subject. As Tina Fey said so perfectly in her speech at the Center for Reproductive Rights, “If I have to listen to one more grey-faced man with a $2 haircut explain to me what rape is, I’m going to lose my mind.” I mean, we currently live in a culture where a chart is required to keep track of which male politicians claim rape cannot cause pregnancy and which ones believe it is simply part of God’s comprehensive plan to inflict devastating sexual violence on women and populate the earth with the fruits of their rapists’ loins.
Instead of patiently explaining to these men why they have no reason, no right, and no qualifications to mansplain these serious issues to me, I’m going to take a page from their playbook and blindly, confidently, and erroneously explain a few things to them. Because obviously, as a 27-year-old woman, I am an expert on the following things… Keep reading »