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Sunday nights are no longer full of Monday dread. I have something to look forward to at the very end of the weekend: a mind-bending episode of “Mad Men.” The show you love, full of characters you hate, and issues you hope to only deal with through barrier of your TV screen: infidelity, corporate hell, violence, and mortality.
For an office drama centered around a 1960s advertising agency, “Mad Men” has tackled very nuanced issues that remain relevant topics in our day and age. Anyone who watches the show knows the terrible way that women are treated: sexual harassment, rape, sexism, domestic violence, infidelity. And as of Sunday, all of the major female characters have experienced pregnancy. Keep reading »
Earlier this week, the world reacted to the news that a hospital in Ireland refused medical care to a woman during her miscarriage and she eventually died from blood poisoning. Savita Halappanavar, a dentist, began slowly and painfully miscarrying at 17 weeks into her pregnancy, but University Hospital Galway refused to terminate the pregnancy because a fetal heartbeat could still be detected. Halappanavar and her husband, who are both Indian and Hindu, repeatedly asked for an abortion but were told no because Ireland is “a Catholic country.” Within days, the fetus died inside Halappanavar and was removed, but it was too late; she died soon after at age 31 from blood poisoning and E.coli ESBL. Keep reading »
As I lay on the floor next to my boyfriend getting ready for to play another round of Dance Central on our Xbox, I thought to myself , Something is wrong with you. You are too happy.
Less than 72 hrs before, I had a miscarriage.
I lost the baby we were so excited to be bringing into this world at a little over seven weeks.
I knew I was pregnant even before I saw the telltale plus sign on my home pregnancy test. My normally predictable period had been two weeks late. I took the pregnancy test just to have something to show to him, to announce that we were expecting. He was out of town that weekend, and I thought I’d break the news to him in a creative way. I emailed him a picture of the pregnancy test with the subject line “Guess what?” He called me immediately, and after expressing some shock, he said he was genuinely happy about it, that I would be a great mother and he was proud I was having his child. Keep reading »
I don’t think it’s anyone’s business to tell parents who have suffered a miscarriage how to behave. People express grief in all sorts of ways, even ways you might consider distasteful. That said, a video message to miscarried baby Jubilee Shalom Duggar strikes me as pro-life messaging first and foremost. “So often in society, babies are looks on as a problem, trial or responsibility,” mama Michelle Duggar reads, “but God says babies are a blessing. We do not believe that babies are a bother or a headache, a financial drainer or a career interrupter.” What a lovely way to honor Jubiliee: by guilt-tripping other women who have terminated unwanted pregnancies! Keep reading »
The biggest a**hole in the world is this guy: Greg Fultz took out a billboard in New Mexico with a photograph of himself holding the outline of a baby, which reads, “This Would Have Been a Picture Of My 2-Month Old Baby If The Mother Had Decided To NOT KILL Our Child!” The kicker? Greg Fultz said he does not know if ex-girlfriend’s pregnancy ended because of an abortion or a miscarriage, but he doesn’t care. The humiliating billboard, he said, is “inspired” by his life events. Keep reading »
Today in Anti-Abortion Activists Making Up Medical Terms That Don’t Actually Exist And Aren’t Used By Doctors News: the “unbortion.” (For past reference see: partial-birth abortion.”) What’s an “unbortion,” you ask? An “unbortion” is what Resurrection Medical Center, a Roman Catholic hospital in Chicago, calls it when anti-abortion activists persuade a woman who is partway through terminating a pregnancy to halt the procedure and carry the pregnancy to term. According to Time magazine — which published the only article on “unbortions” that I’ve ever seen — four women were persuaded to halt their abortions, but doctors only went along with it in three of the cases.
Oh, and did I mention that “unbortion” is a complete anti-abortion activist fabrication and isn’t an actual medical term used by doctors? Keep reading »
“I felt more like a failure than I’d felt in a very long time. We actually [hadn't] been trying that long … I don’t know that I took it as seriously as I should have because it happened so fast. But then when I heard the doctor say there was no heartbeat it was like—bam—like a knife through the heart … I hope that women can get to a place where they can finally talk about it because it’s so great to find comfort in other people’s stories and experiences because it’s so common.”
—Lisa Ling on “The View” discussing her miscarriage, which happened six months ago. I really admire when women in the public eye feel comfortable opening up about their personal tragedies. It’s very inspiring and I think a lot of women will be able to relate. Lisa even started the website Secret Society of Women where women can share their deepest, darkest secrets anonymously. [NY Daily News] Keep reading »