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Mind Of Man: Simple Thoughts On Settling Down

Honest Abe is a friend of ours who emails us his interesting observations about men, women, relationships, sex, and dating from time to time. And from time to time we will excerpt these thoughts in Mind Of Man. Hate it or love it, we’re sure it’ll really be that simple.

I had a conversation yesterday with a close friend the other day, as she was sharing with me her frustration with her boyfriend of 4 years, and his unwillingness to settle down (i.e. popping the question). Here’s the truth, as I told her, about men. Regardless of how great she is, if we’re not ready to settle down, we’re just not ready to settle down. This is why you see two great people break up, and you wonder why that had to happen. Often, it’s because we’re just not ready. Keep reading »

The Mind Of Man: An Insider Look At A Pickup Network

A girl walks into the wireless café that I frequent. She’s very pretty. I’ve seen her before, but never spoken to her. Today, the café’s pretty packed. The girl orders her drink. She looks around. Here is the big moment: Where will she sit? But what she’s clearly not factoring in to her decision, what I don’t think this girl realizes, is the fact she’s being monitored like a Russian agent walking through the Pentagon. Man, I think, this is so unfair. If she only knew …

If she only knew, there is a spy network of guys, regulars at this café, that have formed an unlikely bond based upon – what else? – the pretty girls that come into the café. I am, admittedly, part of this network. We are an organized and immature bunch. We watch the girls walk in. We discreetly glance at each other to make sure the others see, too. We wait for them to sit next to us. We talk to them. And when they leave, we talk about them. Not like a bunch of gossip girls, but like suspicious agents: We’ve got information to share and we are willing to share it, but only if you have some information to share, too, pal. Keep reading »

The Mind Of Man: Baggage That Will Blow A Second Date

The good news is this: the first date was a success – the quirky, out of the way Thai place he picked was charming and he paid for the dinner discreetly. He didn’t inhale beer like a frat boy on a mission from God to get drizzzunk. His listened intently to your every word, and never, ever mentioned any of his exes. The hug goodbye wasn’t awkward, in fact, the both of you simultaneously lingered for a brief, awesome moment. On your way home, as you batted away the hearts and rainbows swirling around your head like little candy-coated moons, he texts you that he had a great time and he hopes to see you soon.

Indulge me as I imagine the single word racing through your she-noggin like a unicorn galloping through a lollipop forest. That word is “ZOMG.”

But the second date looms, ladies, and it’s your date to screw up. Keep reading »

The Mind Of Man: Bros Before Hos, A Necessary Myth

Okay ladies, how many times has this happened to you? It’s a beautiful Saturday afternoon. You and your man have lunch plans with the parents. At a nice restaurant, too. One of those cloth napkin, jacket required, “why are you ordering a burger when the chef’s signature trout almondine is on the menu today”-kind of places. Yeah, it’s shaping to be a pretty good day.

Except he should have picked you up already. What gives? Keep reading »

The Mind Of Man: How To Deal With A Pregnancy Scare

As your prototypical sexually active straight man, you can imagine I’ve had my fair share of forays betwixt the sheets. And over the course of my escapades, I’ve learned that perfection isn’t always easy to achieve in the bedroom, especially when it comes to birth control. A broken condom here, a forgotten pill there – the next thing you know, you’re having nightmares about changing diapers and shopping for onesies.

Of course, the more likely outcome of a birth control breakdown is an unintended pregnancy scare, not an unintended pregnancy. Still, the resulting situation can be rather unpleasant. For a guy, emotions range from apathy to pulse-pounding fear. For a girl, initial concern is followed by massive, crippling panic. Although the “morning-after” pill is 89 percent effective in preventing contraception, it has no proven effect on the fighting, resentment and bitterness that often arise from a surprise pregnancy scare.

However, through careful trial and lots of error, I have stumbled upon a few rules of engagement that can prevent even the most terrifying of pregnancy scares from causing long-term relationship complications. Keep reading »

The Mind Of Man: The Deuce Is Gone

After years of back-and-forth, sleeping in two places, bringing a bag to work and trying to schedule my week so I know I’ll be sleeping at my girlfriend’s place at least one night, I caved. I’m moving in with her. Ballgame OVER.

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