“Midwestern nice” doesn’t mean what you probably think it means. Ehem, it actually refers to Midwesterns in the sack! And even if it doesn’t, kindness is very important in a mate, no? Plus, it’s no coincidence that most of the manliest cities in America are Midwestern places. Here’s why you should really date someone from the Midwest. Keep reading »
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Our thoughts and prayers go out to those in the Midwest, particularly Missouri, who’ve been affected by the tornadoes that ravaged the area this weekend. A massive tornado tore through southwestern Missouri, killing at least 89 people, and destroying cars and homes in its path, one of 68 tornadoes reported in seven Midwest states. Frisky readers, please feel free to share your thoughts — and links to new information — in the comments. [Huffington Post] Keep reading »
Live in the middle of the county and think you’re missing out? According to a new survey from Men’s Health, the Midwest is best at having sex. The survey ranked Indianapolis, IN; Columbus, OH; Fort Wayne, IN; Cincinnati, OH; and Salt Lake City, UT as the most sexually satisfied cities in the country based on frequency of sex acts.
Big coastal cities did excel in one category: buying sex toys. New York City, Seattle, Los Angeles, Chicago, and DC all saw the most sex toy sales.
For months I watched women swoon over “The Bachelor,” Jason Mesnick, a divorced single father, and I just couldn’t understand why. The whole thing was cute, sure, but didn’t these ladies get that people with kids have different priorities than those of us who have yet to procreate?
”When I went to see some live music last week, I found myself more into a bartender than the band. He had a beard, black-framed glasses and a mess of curly hair tucked up into a stocking cap—exactly my type. But every time I tried to order from him, another bartender would intercept. While my ill-fated attempt at conversation resulted in a few too many trips to the bar, I at least worked up enough liquid courage to give him my number … sort of. I scribbled “You, with the hat” alongside my name and number on a piece of paper, and left it by the tip jar on my way out. A few days later he called and the next night we were exchanging shy smiles and embarrassing stories over whiskey on the rocks.
I was smitten. He was cute, smart and much nicer than I expected (in my experience, his look is favored by grumbly hipsters). He played in a local alt-country band and paid for my drinks. Little did I know, he was building up some liquid courage of his own.
“I should tell you something,” he said halfway through our third round. “I’ve been married before.”
“Well, that’s what I was getting at. I have two. I figured I should probably just get that out of the way now.”
He explained that when he was 19, he married his high school girlfriend after she got pregnant. They had two kids and divorced a few years later. He now has his son and daughter every other weekend and attends all of their school functions. In fact, his relationship with his kids sounded a lot like the one my sister and I had with our father.
After I got over the initial shock, I was surprised at how much it didn’t matter to me. Had my bearded bartender told me he had kids before we went out, I would have found a reason to cancel. But I already liked him and the fact that he had two munchkins around every other weekend wasn’t going to keep me from having fun with him that night, or the next time we went out. Plus, given my success rate with dating, I figured it was too early to worry about something that wouldn’t affect me unless we were to get serious.
I ultimately had to face the fact that as I get older—and, well, do things like move to the Midwest—the chances of dating men who have already been married or have children are going to increase, which isn’t necessarily all bad. I knew on the first date that I wasn’t wasting my time with someone who couldn’t deal with life or handle responsibility. And that’s more than I can say for most of the men I’ve dated.
I am not used to being pursued by men. This is not to say it’s never happened, but the eight and a half years I lived in New York can best be described as an incredibly long dry spell interrupted by too many bad first dates, as many one-night stands, and one seriously flawed serious relationship.
While I know some of the fault lies in my refusal to date actors, bad spellers, or men who work in finance, my sister and I joke that in New York I was fat and average, but in Kansas City I’m hot. Not that there aren’t plenty of attractive women in the Midwest, but New York is a city full of models, actresses, and hundreds of thousands of women who look like models and actresses. Going out in New York in our size-10 jeans, my sister and I concluded after her first visit, was like going to a gay bar anywhere else in the country. Keep reading »
A good-looking guy can approach you with a manly swagger, but if his smile is busted, game over. And no amount of alcohol can make you feel good about frenching a mouth full of rotten nubbin teeth. Sorry, Austin Powers. So whereâ€™s a girl to go? According to Menâ€™s Health, the best bites are in the Midwest, with cities like Minneapolis, Madison, and St. Paul topping their lists. Although Las Vegas is ranked high as one the cities that buy the most floss, weâ€™re pretty sure the locals call it â€œg-strings.â€ [Menâ€™s Health] Keep reading »