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Saturday Playlist: Songs That Helped Us Deal

How To Deal
Life is hard. Sometimes we all need help dealing. Read More »
Playlist: Girls Of Summer
An all-girl summer jam mix by Julie. Read More »

In honor of How To Deal Week, today’s Saturday Playlist is a collection of songs that helped us get through tough times in our lives. These are the songs we listened to as we dealt with break-ups, death, depression, family drama, being alone in a new city, and realizing our high school crush was never going to like us back. Listen to it as a whole, or pick and choose the tracks that speak to you, but either way, we hope this music will help you deal with whatever you’re going through. And believe us, it will get better… Keep reading »

12 Self-Help Books That Actually Work

Self help books get a bad rap sometimes, I think. They’re seen as the province of walking, talking “Cathy” cartoons and hippie-dippie-fruit-loop types. That couldn’t be less true:  there are many different types of self-help books for all kinds of problems. Some books are more spiritual while others are more practical, as in teaching you techniques of coping with depression and anxiety. Not only is a good self-help book cheaper than paying for therapy — even if it’s just a co-pay!— but you can circle sections, fold over pages, and come back to them whenever you read.

I scoured my own bookshelf and that of The Frisky staff to find the best self-help books we’ve ever read — ones that actually work!

This piece is part of The Frisky’s How To Deal Week, in which we’re tackling mental health issues.

How To Deal
Life is hard. Sometimes we all need help dealing. Read More »
Giving Up Control
Being a control freak almost ruined Winona's life. Read More »

Girl Talk: I Had An Eating Disorder

Exploiting Anorexia
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Will a new reality TV show exploit women with eating disorders? Read More »
Free Therapy?
12 totally free ways to improve your mental health. Read More »
Find A Therapist
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Seven tips for finding the right therapist. Read More »
How To Deal
Life is hard. Sometimes we all need help dealing. Read More »

This piece is part of The Frisky’s How To Deal Week, in which we’re tackling mental health issues.

A week before my high school graduation, my doctor told me that I had to go to the hospital.

My weight had fallen too low, my EKG results were scary, and my continued refusal to eat was putting my life in danger. While my classmates went to college orientation, I went to nutrition counseling and group therapy. For two years I had faithfully obeyed the voice in my head that told me that if I ate more than the acceptable amount of food (an amount that kept getting smaller and smaller), I would be weak, my body and the world would spin out of control, and something terrible would happen. And yet something terrible was happening anyway.

I was losing every bit of control over my life, and goals I had spent years working towards — a scholarship to an elite college, freedom from my family and small town — were slipping from my grasp. I realized there was something I feared even more than the voice in my head, and I started to fight back. I obeyed the nutritionist even when my mind told me it couldn’t possibly be okay to eat this much food. I started to gain weight. And in the fall I enrolled in college. Keep reading »

Girl Talk: How Being A Control Freak Ruined My Life (And How I Learned To Let It Go)

How To Deal
Life is hard. Sometimes we all need help dealing. Read More »
10 Ways To Deal With Anxiety
Worried? Anxious? Panicked? We feel your pain. Read More »
Free Ways To Feel Better
12 free, easy ways to improve your mental health! Read More »

This piece is part of The Frisky’s How To Deal Week, in which we’re tackling mental health issues.

I suppose in some ways I was destined to become a control freak. I was born into a proud dynasty of control freaks. My family is Italian, and growing up it was made very clear to me that a woman’s job is to keep everyone–especially the men–in line. Not only was I the oldest child, I was the only girl with three younger brothers, so I had a big job to do. If one of my brothers did something dumb, I could expect a call from my grandma asking why I’d “let him act that way.” “You have to control your brothers,” my great aunt would tell me as she rolled out biscotti dough. “If you don’t, who will?” Keep reading »

5 Reasons It’s Important To Ask For Help

How To Deal
Life is hard. Sometimes we all need help dealing. Read More »
Free Therapy?
12 totally free ways to improve your mental health. Read More »
Find A Therapist
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Seven tips for finding the right therapist. Read More »

This piece is part of The Frisky’s How To Deal Week, in which we’re tackling mental health issues.

As an oldest child/perfectionist/control freak/Taurus, asking for help is one of my least favorite things. Whether I’m doing a crossword puzzle or weathering an emotional storm, I’ll handle it on my own, thankyouverymuch. Over the past year, though, I’ve been dealing with some pretty intense life changes and found myself in the position where I literally couldn’t get through it alone. I was drowning, and I had no choice but to reach out and grab the outstretched hands of my amazing friends, who pulled me to shore and gently guided me toward the office of a therapist, where I swallowed my pride and said, “You know what? I’m not doing so well.” In the process, I learned how important it is to be able to ask for help, especially when you’re feeling lost, overwhelmed, or alone. Here’s why… Keep reading »

4 Ways To Dump Your Shrink

How To Deal
Life is hard. Sometimes we all need help dealing. Read More »
Best/Worst Therapists
The best & worst zingers from our therapists. Read More »

As is the case with any relationship gone south, sometimes you need to break up with your therapist. Maybe you feel ready to fly in the world on your own, or you’ve stopped connecting, or maybe she said something awful, like “You shouldn’t cry so much.” I don’t care how much she helped you unpack your mommy issues, she’s not going to be of any more assistance saying crap like that. So you know you need to dump your shrink, but how? It seems like it would be easier than breaking up with someone you’ve been sleeping with. But sometimes, because of the intimate nature of things you share with your therapist, it’s harder. You have a few options. Some shrink dumping approaches after the jump. Keep reading »

Girl Talk: In Defense Of Retail Therapy

How To Deal
Life is hard. Sometimes we all need help dealing. Read More »
Best/Worst Therapists
Sometimes our therapists say totally WTF things. Read More »
Free Therapy?
12 totally free ways to improve your mental health. Read More »
Explaining Depression
What does it really feel like to suffer from depression? Read More »
retail therapy

I have seen a therapist off and on since my first panic attack at age 14. Talk therapy (and the delightful mood-soothing properties of 20 mg of Lexapro) are the reason I can put on pants and leave my house in the morning. With their help, I’ve learned how to self-soothe anger and disappointment, combat the negative self-talk that leads to depression, and create boundaries with my loved ones. My current therapist is this rad little old Italian lady who not only gets me but champions my very Jessica-ness. My life is infinitely more manageable for me under her care and as such I am the world’s biggest proponent of talk therapy. [Nuh-uh, I am! -- Editor]

But all of that doesn’t change a separate fact: sometimes what really makes me feel good is retail therapy. Keep reading »

The Soapbox: A Reluctant Defense Of Pro-Ana Blogs

Pro-Ana Shirts Banned
The Kate Moss-inspired shirts pulled from shelves. Read More »
Body Dysmorphic Disorder
One woman's experience battling this disorder. Read More »
Exploiting Anorexia
Tracey Gold photo
Will a new reality TV show exploit women with eating disorders? Read More »

This piece was originally published on xoJane.com.

A new study into the hoary underworld of pro-anorexia bloggers has discovered the unexpected: pro-ana communities may not exclusively be the dark pits of self-destruction they are typically assumed to be. The survey, conducted by researchers from Indiana University, suggests rather candidly that pro-ana communities may provide better support than traditional eating disorder treatments, and that said communities even continue to provide assistance to those who have decided to begin recovery.  Keep reading »

The Best & Worst Things Our Therapists Have Said To Us

How To Deal
Life is hard. Sometimes we all need help dealing. Read More »
Pre-Therapist GF
Why do so many of Amelia's bf's head to therapy after they split? Read More »

When a therapist hits you with a zinger, it’s the kind of thing that stays with your forever. Best case scenario: it’s sage wisdom or advice that changes your life. Worst case scenario: it’s so wildly offensive or off-the mark that you know you have to dump your shrink. After the jump, I canvased Frisky staffers and friends for their therapists’ very best and worst one-liners. Share yours in the comments! Keep reading »

Girl Talk: I’m A Former Cutter

How To Deal
Life is hard. Sometimes we all need help dealing. Read More »
Ways To Love Your Body
10 ways to love your body this summer. Read More »

Since I’ve just marked my 30th year on this planet, I’ve lately found myself reflecting on my life. As it stands now, I’m in love with a man who freely admits he’s pretty nuts about me too, I’m lucky enough to be translating my passions into (albeit meager) paychecks, I volunteer, I vote. All good stuff, the hallmarks of a person who has her life together.

The thing is, I never thought I’d live this long. Having a perfect storm of prerequisite issues that aided in the devaluing my own life, it wasn’t too long ago that I was swinging madly between maladaptive behaviors. I didn’t eat. I couldn’t sleep. I thought a lot about killing myself. I was hospitalized several times during my college years. Despite all the hospitalizations, the awkward post-hospitalization meetings with the Dean of Students, and the weekly meetings with my therapist, I was unable to discuss the problem I kept well-hidden.

I was a cutter. Keep reading »

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