Raise your hand if you’ve experienced this scenario once or twice: you wake up one morning eager to take on the day, to make positive choices, and to spend your evening after work at the gym or going to a social event you might otherwise ditch out on. But when five o’clock rolls around, your body… More »
When it comes to reconnecting with one’s inner child, there tend to be two narratives: “grow the hell up and get on with life like the rest of us” or some deep-end manic pixie nightmare that encourages intelligent adults to quit their jobs to go dance in the rain because YOLO or… More »
It’s a moment we all dread: one day, you wake up to find that the tension that’s been slowly building between two or more of your close friends has reached a brutal boiling point, and a conflict erupts with a magnitude that rivals an earthquake. Now you may find yourself in the unenviable position of… More »
“…Mental health I feel is something that you have to talk about. That time from 15 to 16 to your mid- to late- 20s – you look grown up, people think you’re grown up, but you’re still a kid.” More »
So, big question for people who are getting into fitness and are coping with anxiety over it: How do you find exercise motivation when you really, really, really just want to stay in bed or on the couch or safe at home?
I know how this goes; every few weeks I seem to… More »
When I think about willpower, I usually think of shame. More »
I have pretty severe ADHD. That dictates a lot of the way that my life, brain, body, and relationships function, but it’s not something I talk about a lot because – well, I don’t know, I’ve known about it and been living with it for fifteen years. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
But it’s been coming up… More »
On our last date, we sat next to each other on the floor of an Afghan restaurant, sharing a plate of kaddo bourani and a bottle of wine. He looked at me for long stretches of time without speaking, then he looked at the waitress, at the carpet, at the other diners. We came to the… More »
Brazil’s President Dilma Rousseff has signed a femicide bill into law, which increases the penalties for the murder of women relating to domestic violence. More »
At the exact time that I’m writing this (8:30 a.m. ), on this exact day two years ago, I was reporting my rape. It had happened after midnight on March 10, 2013.
I’ve been trying not to write about it too much, anymore, because I feel like I’ve said everything I need to… More »
How many more?
Yesterday, a white, as-yet-unnamed police officer shot and killed 27-year-old Anthony Hill, a Black man who was seen naked and behaving erratically at his apartment complex near Atlanta. The Dekalb County officer was responding to a call saying a man was “acting deranged, knocking on doors, and crawling around on… More »
Yesterday, Facebook announced new measures to help users who might be at risk for self-harm. It’s become too common that we hear stories about Facebook users who speak to their distress and end up hurting themselves or worse, and in the meantime, their friends don’t know what to do.
Facebook’s new tool will allow… More »
Over the last five months, I’ve been going the Nick Briz Facebook escape route and, instead of “deleting” my profile with the possibility of coming back to it later, I’ve been deleting all of my activity on Facebook so that there’s just nothing there. Briz’s web site offers codes that you can plug in to… More »
More than 40 percent of high school-aged girls in England report being coerced into sex. [The Guardian]
A memo to Alabama Senator Jeff Sessions: Judges who disagree with you aren’t “activist” judges. [Vox]
A new study shows that there are long-term health benefits for LGBT youth who come out during high school. More »
Remember the “fat is not a feeling” hashtag? The phrase has been around for a long time, but it trended as a hashtag last October, when Facebook added “fat” to their “feeling” statuses, complete with a smiling face with implied double-chin and rosy, cherubic cheeks. I mean, it’s a cute little emoticon, but it made… More »
When it started, I thought it was just a stomach thing. I had probably unwittingly eaten some dairy, my usual digestive foe. But the mild nausea showed no signs of letting up. Two weeks, then three. I couldn’t ignore it anymore. It had gone from a minor inconvenience to an omnipresent feeling, lurking deep down… More »
I woke up at 2 AM last night and didn’t go back to sleep! It was great, and by “great” I mean nerve-wracking and tiresome. The night before that, I had a trauma nightmare and woke up in the middle of the night. It’s great. Super great. So great that I’ve given up completely on… More »
Today in Conclusions That Could Have Been Reached After A 10-Minute Phoner With Me As Opposed To An Exhaustive Study! A study from the University of Texas has found that people who struggle with loneliness and depression are more likely to binge-watch television than their peers because it provides an escape from their problems. Hello,… More »
It’s been a few years since I’ve seen a therapist, but with the new year comes new self-discovery. Just last week, I bit my ring fingernail down to a three-centimeter stub and decided it would probably be in my best interest (and my fingernails’ best interest) to tackle some of the anxiety I’ve been having… More »
It’s not everyone who can watch a horror thriller, point at the villain and say, “Hey, that’s me!” But you can if you have borderline personality disorder — that’s the condition that Hollywood loves to scare the shit out of men with in movies like “Fatal Attraction.” Any movie of that “woman seems OK at first,… More »