Being in a relationship with someone who has ADD presents some unique challenges. Conversations tend to jump rapidly from one topic to another. Shiny objects might distract them during important moments. And that pile of clothes on the floor? Yeah, that’s never, ever going to get put away. Of course, there are also many benefits to being with someone with ADD: a sense of spontaneity, endless intellectual curiosity, excitement, and creativity. One thing’s for sure: an ADD relationship is never boring. Here are some tips for loving someone with ADD, from someone who has it: Keep reading »
“There’s more to life than books, you know, but not much more.” Ah, the immortal words of my beloved Morrissey – they served as a kind of mantra for me as I stumbled and bumbled through adolescence and early adulthood. Books have been a vital part of my everyday existence for far longer than Moz, though (WHAT?! I KNOW!), serving as my nearest, dearest cultural companion for as long as I can remember.
Books especially saved my ass when I was young (as a super-shy, introspective only child, I got accustomed to spending a lot of time alone). Books swooped me away from my loneliness. They became one of my first Easy Escape Routes of Choice — later I’d add alcohol and men to the mix. (Fortunately, books are socially sanctioned escape routes that I never had to feel lame or ashamed about engaging in night after night — no hangovers! No awkward “Will he or won’t he call?” bullshit!)
Do you have books you turn to again and again, ones you rely on in times of fear, or anxiety, or depression? I do. So I thought I’d lay ‘em out for you here — some of the books I turn to as “medicine” for various precarious emotional states. Enjoy, and add your own picks in the comments. Keep reading »
Darnell Barton, a Buffalo bus driver, saw a woman who’d climbed over a guardrail and was leaning over traffic on the expressway below her. He knew he had to do something. Because nobody else was stopping their car, Barton wasn’t sure at first whether the woman was in distress. But he’s a former volunteer firefighter and member of the Buffalo Special Police, He stopped the bus and approached the distressed woman, giving her a hug and asking if she wanted to come back to the other side of the guard rail. After he’d gotten her to safety and returned to his bus, he was met with applause from his 20 high school-aged passengers. What a nice reminder that sometimes people really are everyday heroes and fate puts us on one another’s paths for a reason. I know it’s cliche, but it really does take a lot of courage to do the right thing sometimes — and this man is about as humble as people come. BRB, I’m getting seriously emotional over here. [USA Today]
Well, you’re a crazy bitch for a reason, at least. The exxxtreme version of PMS, premenstrual dysphoric disorder (PMDD), has officially been recognized as a distinct mental disorder in the American Psychiatric Association’s newest Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, the DSM-5. Premenstrual dysphoric disorder affects roughly 3-8 percent of women, who report having debilitating feelings of depression, anxiety, tiredness, among other physical and mental symptoms, in the two weeks leading up to their period. The good news is that by adding PMDD to the DSM, women who suffer from these symptoms will be taken more seriously; the bad news is that it’s likely to be a great talking point for those who like to use women’s “moodiness” as the reason they wouldn’t be good for, say, public office or serving in the armed forces. As with any mental health issue, recognition leads to advances in treatment, which is a good thing, but, as NYMag.com points out, only so long as doctors and drug companies don’t use it as an excuse to “pathologize healthy women’s emotional cycles.” [NYMag.com]
Did anybody else breathe a huge sigh of relief when Amanda Bynes was finally hospitalized? Watching her increasingly bizarre stints play out for as long as they did made me wonder if anyone close to her was ever going to step in. I was starting to worry that Amanda would seriously hurt herself, with all of us watching along on social media and doing nothing to stop it.
Thankfully, our favorite/only “Amanda Show” star seems to be getting the help she needs. Her mom, Lynn Bynes, was granted temporary conservatorship over her daughter finances (since dropped because Amanda is in a doctor’s care) and spoke publicly about her daughter’s situation for the first time since Amanda was hospitalized in July. In a statement to People, Lynn Bynes said: Keep reading »
In the twelve years that Mayor Bloomberg has presided over New York City, the Department of Health and Mental Hygiene (srsly, that’s for real, MENTAL HYGIENE) has been responsible for quite a few not always-well-received ad campaigns. The words “controversial” and occasionally “insensitive” come to mind — hello, human fat being poured out of a soda bottle; nice to see you, comically-crying “child of a teen mother.” (There was also that time they took a photo of a healthy two-legged man and Photoshopped him into a diabetes-suffering amputee.)
The department’s latest venture, which takes the form of posters to be found primarily in subways and on street corners, takes a slightly different approach than the usual I’m hungover and even if I weren’t I still didn’t really need to see that on my way to work this morning scare tactics. In fact, the NYC Girls Project is the rare positive stab at successful outreach. The posters, as well as the accompanying city-sponsored fitness programs and #imagirl Twitter campaign, are aimed at young girls aged 7 to 12. As more than 80 percent of 10-year-old girls are “afraid of being fat,” and with “body satisfaction” hitting rock bottom between 12 and 15, the idea behind the campaign is that some of these body image issues can be addressed as early as possible before things start to get rough (which we all know they will anyway, of course). Keep reading »
Before Tiger Woods gave his celebrity endorsement to sex addiction, we debated whether it’s an easy excuse or a mental health issue. But now it seems more people are treating it as a serious condition. Sex addiction has gone mainstream in movies like “Shame” and now “Thanks For Sharing,” out today.
We already took a look inside sex rehab clinics to find out what to expect when you’re reforming, but here are seven facts about sex addiction you might not have been aware of already. Read more at Tres Sugar…
Yesterday I tweeted that I was taking an abstract painting class in an effort to cure my perfectionism (more on that later!). I got a reply from a woman I didn’t know with a link to a video. At first I thought it was spam (if you use Twitter, you know that most replies from random women asking you to watch a video are not exactly wholesome propositions), but luckily for me the woman was Jennifer Gresham of Everyday Bright, and the video turned out to be a really inspiring little snippet of wisdom. If you’re a perfectionist, I highly recommend pushing play. [YouTube]
Some say that love can conquer all. But a couple struggling with the effects of the pressures of an eating disorder may need a little outside help. Though eating disorders are more frequently reported in women than in men, they occur among both genders. The most commonly seen are anorexia (starvation) and bulimia (binge eating and purging food). Read more at Your Tango…