It’s no secret that becoming a new parent can be one of the most trying times in a person’s life. Seven years later, I can still vividly remember those first few hours and days together, despite the foggy haze of sleeplessness I was in. A plethora of hormones coursed through my body, screwing with my emotions. I’d be happy but I’d cry, I’d be sleepy but couldn’t quell the anxiety that gripped me. I had read countless books and taken a few classes in order to prepare me for this moment. I still felt completely out of my depths.
Welcome to motherhood.
Thankfully, I had an incredible support system: an equally tired husband who had managed to cobble together a month of paternity leave (through FMLA, using up paid vacation, and taking unpaid time off), parents and in-laws who lived no more than two hours away, a doting doula who helped me not only through labor and delivery but with breastfeeding as well, eager friends, and even a visiting nurse provided by the hospital via our insurance. I was fortunate and privileged. Besides many sleepless nights and some stained shirts, I escaped my son’s infancy relatively unscathed. Yet, the same can’t be said for everyone. Keep reading »
The kombined Kardashian-Jenner klan is famous (“famous”) for lots of things (or, rather, one thing that has splintered off into lots of things): multiple revealing reality television shows, media ubiquity, 72-day marriages, explicit discussion and occasional tasting of bodily fluids, giving birth on camera … you get it. Not one of these things even begins to imply that they are known for any intellectual capacity or emotional sensitivity. Sure, they’re “smart,” in the same way someone like Miley Cyrus is smart — they know how to keep their names in the headlines. (Or their mother does, at least.)
So that’s why it’s depressing, but not at all surprising, that Kylie Jenner went ahead and stirred up some controversy of her own on the Twitters yesterday, posting an old photo of herself with a past hair color with the caption, “I miss my black hair I’m so bipolar :( .” :(, indeed, because girl, YOU ARE NOT BIPOLAR. I can’t even begin to describe the idiocy of this type of misuse of a word — changing your mind about something does not, I repeat, does not a bipolar person make. But hey, on the bright(er) side, at least she acknowledges that bipolar disorder exists, unlike her boyfriend Jaden Smith‘s family. Ain’t nothing Xenu can’t cure! (And no, they still have yet to pinpoint a medical term to describe whatever is amiss with Kris Jenner.) [Gossip Cop]
Darnell Barton, a Buffalo bus driver, saw a woman who’d climbed over a guardrail and was leaning over traffic on the expressway below her. He knew he had to do something. Because nobody else was stopping their car, Barton wasn’t sure at first whether the woman was in distress. But he’s a former volunteer firefighter and member of the Buffalo Special Police, He stopped the bus and approached the distressed woman, giving her a hug and asking if she wanted to come back to the other side of the guard rail. After he’d gotten her to safety and returned to his bus, he was met with applause from his 20 high school-aged passengers. What a nice reminder that sometimes people really are everyday heroes and fate puts us on one another’s paths for a reason. I know it’s cliche, but it really does take a lot of courage to do the right thing sometimes — and this man is about as humble as people come. BRB, I’m getting seriously emotional over here. [USA Today]
Did anybody else breathe a huge sigh of relief when Amanda Bynes was finally hospitalized? Watching her increasingly bizarre stints play out for as long as they did made me wonder if anyone close to her was ever going to step in. I was starting to worry that Amanda would seriously hurt herself, with all of us watching along on social media and doing nothing to stop it.
Thankfully, our favorite/only “Amanda Show” star seems to be getting the help she needs. Her mom, Lynn Bynes, was granted temporary conservatorship over her daughter finances (since dropped because Amanda is in a doctor’s care) and spoke publicly about her daughter’s situation for the first time since Amanda was hospitalized in July. In a statement to People, Lynn Bynes said: Keep reading »
Eleanor Longdon was a college student when she began hearing a totally neutral voice in her head that would narrate her daily going ons in the third person. “She is leaving the room.” She is going to the lecture.” Longdon’s relationship with this innocuous narrator eventually turned into what she called a “psychic civil war” where the voices multiplied, becoming both her “persecutors and her only perceived companions.” This eventually led to a diagnosis of schizophrenia and complete mental unraveling, which caused her to go so far once as to try to drill a hole in her head to get rid of the voices. Keep reading »
For the last few weeks, the notoriously controversial male feminist Hugo Schwyzer has been off Twitter and Facebook, an absence that was noticed by some, at first, and then everyone who pays attention to these sorts of things when the reasons for his social media disappearance became common knowledge. Schwyzer, who’s made a career denouncing “the myth of male weakness,” had cheated on his wife (his fourth) repeatedly, they had separated, and that, plus the stress of what he calls “takedown culture” online, had led to Schwyzer checking himself into a psychiatric facility. The admitted former drug addict (who once, in the midst of a drug binge, tried to kill himself and his then-girlfriend) explained in a mass email to friends, former colleagues and acquaintances (including myself) that he had become a danger to himself and he was taking time away from the internet to get well and repair his marriage to the mother of his two small children.
Except he didn’t take time away. First, he gave an ill-advised interview to NYMag.com, in which he described his infidelity as “off-brand” (he’s right, in the sense that he has spent the last few years writing about sex, gender, marriage, relationships, etc. from the perspective of a bad boy gone good). That was followed by interviews with LAWeekly.com (in which he confessed to another suicide attempt) and a porn gossip website (regarding the details of one of his affairs, with an online web cam model), not to mention upwards of four additional “goodbye” blog posts on his own website.
For a few days, things were quiet on the Hugo front. Until today, when Schwyzer reactivated his Twitter account and began tweeting, almost non-stop, for an hour. Admitting almost right away that he was in the midst of a manic episode – Schwyzer says he suffers from bipolar disorder and borderline personality disorder – Schwyzer said it was time for the truth to come out, that he was a “breathtakingly cocky,” “self-aggrandizing” fraud who “loved the attention” and was “fucking awesome at getting it.” Keep reading »