Earlier today, we posted an essay by former Maxim editor Keith Blanchard in which he listed the nine things he learned about women from working at the magazine. I worked at Maxim, and I learned a few things, too — about men, that is. Most of my lessons were gained from working with a predominantly male staff. In the editorial department, I was one of two or three females over the course of two-and-a-half years. Here are seven things that have stayed with me … Keep reading »
I edited Maxim for four years, and let me tell you, we knew everything there was to know about guys. Like this: All guys really care about is girls. Our sex and relationship pieces tried to break down the great female mystery, and they were consistently the highest-rated articles in the magazine aside from, well, the pictorials. And we learned a lot ourselves. Here are nine interesting nuggets of wisdom I gleaned from my job presenting women to men. Keep reading »
During a recent business trip, I found myself shoe-horned into the back of a taxi with colleagues in various stages of inebriation, hurtling through chancy neighborhoods of Baltimore. I was on my Blackberry with my wife, going through the litany of “kids/mail/bills/when are you coming home/this single mother crap is getting old” when the cabbie abruptly stopped at our destination.
“Gotta go, hon,” I said. “We just pulled up to the strip club.” My colleagues turned their heads my way, mouths open. Keep reading »
According to a study published in the journal Archives of Sexual Behavior, the length of time a man looks at a women the first time they meet can be an indicator of how he feels about her. So, next time you go on a blind date, bring a stopwatch. The study, which tracked eye movements of 115 students as they spoke to actors and actresses, found that men looked into women’s eyes for an average of 8.2 seconds if they thought they were beautiful. When they rated a woman as less attractive, they only looked at her for around 4.5 seconds. Now, I’m not sure if you’re aware, but eight is a lot of seconds to be looking at someone. If a random guy in a bar looked at me for that long, I might think he had a staring problem. To give you an idea of how long a guy will look at you when he thinks you’re hot, listen to this clip from the Britney Spears song “If U Seek Amy,” which is eight seconds long. [Telegraph]
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Ever typed a web address into the computer you share with your husband and seen it automatically fill in a suspiciously sexy url? Do you have an ex-boyfriend who talked incessantly about a threesome with your best friend from college? Are you familiar with the phrase “male intimacy issues”? Dr. Michael Bader unpacks these situations and more in his new book, Male Sexuality: Why Women Don’t Understand It—And Men Don’t Either. Keep reading »
Breaking up is never a pleasant experience. The relationship moves from “You are awesome, let’s spend oodles of time together,” to “Actually, I’m not very fond of you, let’s never see each other again.” Tears fall, fists fly, hurtful things are said—and that’s when a breakup goes well. One of the most important things to decide when breaking up is where it will happen. The right place can help a break up go smoothly. The wrong place and you can wind up crying alone on the side of the New Jersey Turnpike. Not that that’s ever happened to me. In general, you’re looking for neutral territory, a transient place that will not hold the memory of your breakup. Here are four places to avoid and four places to go to have the dreaded breakup conversation. Keep reading »