According to relationship experts, all the sexy lingerie in the world won’t give you the intimacy boost of a simple, calm, daily conversation — about yourselves.
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Oh, snap, you guys. According to a new study, a quarter of women aged 35+ say they never have sex. Perhaps not unrelated, the same study found that 42 percent of those aged 35 to 64 “have sought medical help for depression or are thinking about doing so.” Are the 745 women studied representative of women over 35? What’s going on that so many “mature” women aren’t getting any? And why is everyone so depressed? One couples therapist, Paula Hall, blames celebrities. She said all these “celebrity kiss-and-tell stories fuel the notion that frequent sex is the norm,” which has “led to exaggerated expectations, that everyone else is getting it three or four times a week and your behavior isn’t normal.” Celebrity kiss-and-tell stories? Look, when women are holding up people like John Mayer as an example of “normal” sexual behavior, we all have a problem — not just those of us over 35. But what do you guys think? Do you compare your sex lives to celebrities’? [via Daily Mail] Keep reading »
This Sunday marks six months since I got hitched, and I hope this doesn’t sound all braggy, but man, these last few months have been good ones. I love being married! Even more than I thought I would. That’s not to say I didn’t imagine it would be great; I just wasn’t expecting it to be so much better than simply living together, like we had been for a year and half before we tied the knot. For us, there’s a deeper commitment now, a stability that wasn’t quite as acute before; we’re closer, we’re family now. But with all that comes added pressure and expectations. And nowhere is that more apparent for me than our sex life. Keep reading »
British sexpert, Bettina Arndt, asked 100 couples to keep diaries about their sex lives for a year. In her experience, spicing things up can really solve any problems in the bedroom and that’s what she was hoping to prove. While she expected to read some salacious tales of romantic rendezvous, what she got really put the love in love life. People bared their souls and divulged their deepest, darkest feelings — wait, men have feelings?! Just kidding! Arndt has just published her findings in The Sex Diaries: Why Women Go Soft And Other Bedroom Battles based on what the couples wrote in their journals. It sounds like the perfect summer read, but if you’re like us circa high school, you’d rather skim the Cliff’s Notes. Here are eight reasons why couples stop having sex. [Daily Mail] Keep reading »