Rumors were spinning round and round and round (and then round again) about Pippa Middleton’s engagement to Nico Jackson. Some media outlets, namely the Sunday People, reported that the announcement would follow Middleton’s 29th birthday last Friday. Read more at Celebuzz…
This is Zoe Saldana and her boyfriend-maybe-husband, artist Marco Perego. The “Avatar” star may have married Perego over the weekend, but nobody’s sure. What we do know is that both of them seem intent on hiding their ring fingers from the glare of the paparazzi. Perhaps to throw questioning gossips off their scent, Perego has opted to wear his hair in a crazy huge man bun. And I guess it worked: I don’t even care about the rings — I just want to know what his hair looks like when it’s down. [Photo: Pacific Coast News]
A woman goes through life with a number of labels that she doesn’t have any control over, either by birth or by society’s imposition. But one label she should get to choose is whether she wants to be someone’s “wife” or not. This should be a right for all of us.
A recent piece on Salon.com by soon-to-be-married author Tracy Clark-Flory about the word “wife” really pissed me off. Clark-Flory wrote about going over the language of her wedding ceremony script with her fiancé and getting to the part that says “I now pronounce you husband and wife.”
Husband? Wife? I could barely conceal my gagging sounds. He said something to the effect of, “Ew, gross.”
It makes me feel like Betty Draper, like I should be fetching his slippers and a scotch on the rocks — and remembering to get the roast bird out of the oven. (In reality, I’ve only just recently expanded my cooking repertoire beyond Kraft mac ‘n’ cheese and things you put in the microwave. He, however, will roast a chicken and make a rustic tart from scratch — all in one night.) I am a daughter, partner and friend — but a wife? I can’t help but imagine saying “I’m his wife” with heavy air quotes, a roll of the eyes or exaggerated feminine cheer.
Clark-Flory then expresses concern that the Middle English/Old English terms for “wife” and “husband” translate, roughly, to “vagina” and “householder.” It’s not that I don’t understand Clark-Flory’s discomfort with both words or their histories (although dredging up the Old English definition? really?). But I’m uneasy with how glib she was about that choice when so many people are scrambling to have the same one. Keep reading »
Being a fan is a difficult thing. You’ll find a musician or an actor or (more often than not) an Internet writer whose work you really respond to and suddenly feelings of creative or professional admiration turn into feelings of love and attraction. For some fans, the line between “I really appreciate the art you make” and “I guess I’m probably in love with you” gets blurry, and that can be dangerous if the object of your fandom isn’t all he’s cracked up to be. Or if he’s Elvis. Read more at Cracked…
Eat your heart out Mr. Big! A California man named Paul Brockman has trounced even your most extravagant romantic gestures by buying his wife, Margot, 55,000 dresses over the course of their 56-year marriage, enough to fill a large warehouse. The decades-long shopping spree began when the couple started going ballroom dancing, and Paul insisted Margot have a brand new dress to wear to each of their weekly dances. Margot didn’t like shopping, so Paul would buy her new dresses before and after work at his construction job. By 1988, Margot’s dress collection totaled 25,000. Today it’s 55,000. Crazy, right? But the craziest part of this story is that Margot didn’t even want the dresses, and Paul has actually been buying them in secret and storing them in shipping containers for years. Whaaaaaaat?!?! Keep reading »
Harold and Ruth Knapke were childhood friends who started a romantic correspondence while Harold, known as “Doc,” served in the army during World War II. The wartime flirtation turned into a real-life relationship when Doc returned (as Ruth put it, “I let him chase me until I caught him!”), and the couple were soon married. During their 65-year marriage, they raised 6 children together, tended to their Ohio farm, and remained hopelessly devoted to each other. Earlier this month, days before their 66-year anniversary, Doc died in the nursing home room they shared. Eleven hours later, so did Ruth. Doc and Ruth had both been ailing, but the couple’s children believe Doc went first “as a final act of love.” “We believe he wanted to accompany her out of this life and into the next one, and he did,” their daughter explained. “It is really just a love story,” said another daughter. “They were so committed and loyal and dedicated, they weren’t going to go anywhere without the other one.” [Dayton Daily News]
Lily Tomlin has been in one of the longest Hollywood relationships ever. No, like EVER. She’s been with girlfriend Jane Wagner for 42 years. FORTY-TWO YEARS. And up until now, they haven’t been legally allowed to be married. Britney was married to her first husband for a handful of hours, but yeah, no, gotta preserve the sanctity of marriage. Read more at Evil Beet Gossip…
Meet our friend Tom. He’s a married guy with tons of relationship experience, and a skilled advice giver who’s here to answer all your pressing sex, dating and relationship questions. Have a query for Tom? Email him! All questions will be posted anonymously, unless otherwise requested. First up…
I’m 32 and married with two young children. Recently I reconnected with one of my best friends from 20 years ago online. We have always had strong feelings for each other and after high school checked in on each other a few times throughout the years. But because we’ve always been with other people, we respected those boundaries. He has always been verbal about his feeling though I haven’t. We have been able to talk to each other like no one else. In February I went to visit him and the feelings were too intense for both of us. We talked everyday, he repeatedly told me he loved me and wanted to know did I love him (although he is also married with two kids). Eventually it got physical. We had a conversation once about him not wanting to hurt anyone else involved … he says there were are so many people who could get hurt if we were to leave our spouses (which is what I wanted). I asked him to just for once consider our feelings, because we never have, and for a few weeks it was great. Then the last time I saw him we had sex. He called me 30 minutes later to tell me how much he loved me and hasn’t returned a call or email since then. I just want him to tell me that he fell out of love, or he thinks we were in the wrong. Or whatever the reason was … Why won’t he at least do that? If you could see the look in his eyes when he told me he loved me, I know he wasn’t lying. I’m still in love with him. He knows I have never ever cheated before and I only did it because it was him. How do I get over this? Why would a man just disappear from someone he loves and should I expect him to come back? Please help me.
Dude, this is brutal.
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In private, my husband, Paul*, has started referring to his sexual orientation as “Results-Oriented.” As in, he doesn’t care what gender his sexual partners are if they can get the job done, so to speak. He’s being glib when he says that — no, he wouldn’t go to bed with just anyone — but there’s also some truth behind it. For a person who isn’t ready to socially, culturally, or politically identify as bisexual, Results-Oriented is his way of saying that he’s not quite as straight as most straight-identified men.
Paul started calling himself Results-Oriented around the time we had our first foursome with a straight-presenting, queer-identified couple. For the most part, we engaged in heterosexual and lesbian activities, but at one point, I let it slip that watching two men together has always been one of my top turn-ons. Our male partner looked up with excitement and climbed on top of Paul. Once he obtained consent, he gave Paul a long and thorough blowjob that finished in climax. I couldn’t decide whether to observe our partner’s clearly experienced technique or Paul’s facial expressions of utterly baffled pleasure. When it was over, all my husband could say was, “Wow … that wasn’t as different as I imagined it would be.” Keep reading »
South Korea has a problem. According to The New York Times, the birth rate has plummeted to 1.15 average births per woman, the lowest birthrate of the world’s most developed countries. The country is also highly conservative and does not allow for extramarital births. As people have moved out of the country and into the cities, it is more difficult for families to act as matchmakers for their children so they can get married and start making babies..
Instead, the South Korean government is setting people up. Keep reading »