Six weeks ago, when I sat down with my Rabbi in anticipation of my upcoming Bat Mitzvah, I was most nervous to tell him that I was in love with a WASP—who happens to be the kind, caring person I’m marrying.
Before I could be officially accepted into the religious education program—which would consist of six sessions with Torah discussions, guest speakers, lots of falafel, one community service project, one full, 24-hour Shabbos, and the option for a (very reform) Bat Mitzvah (something I, while Jewish, had never had)—I had to get the Rabbi’s approval. Keep reading »
Conservatives’ stance on marriage hasn’t ever much suited me. The so-called value they profess the loudest is “Preserving And Protecting Traditional Marriage” — it sat at number one atop the 2012 GOP platform — and is of course coded language for marriage between a man and a woman.
Their PR strategy for pushing traditional marriage is pretty firmly focused on accusing LGBTQ couples of not being “natural.” Obviously this boner for “saving marriage” is just a cover for bigotry towards LGTBQ folks. But having recently gotten married — to a man — I’m noticing more and more how conservatives meddle in heterosexual marriage, too.
Ladies, you haven’t won the game just because you have a ring on your finger! You are also probably doing something wrong right this minute!
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Johnny Depp recently made an appearance wearing — GASP — a woman’s engagement ring on his left finger. Many assumed that this was some kind of hint about his hush, hush engagement to Amber Heard. In response to questions about the bling on his finger, Depp replied, “The fact that I’m wearing a chick’s ring on my finger is probably a dead giveaway. Not very subtle.”
Great. They’re engaged. Mazel tov!
But what really interests us is whether or not he plans to permanently rock this new rock, and how many other guys will follow suit. We’re really hoping that it’s not a stunt, that it’s an earnest attempt to imbue the engagement process with the gender equality it deserves. Best case scenario: Johnny will make the man-gagement ring a trend. Below, some reasons why we’re fervently pro guys wearing “chick” engagement rings. Keep reading »
I remember the very first time that I felt jealous and possessive of my husband. It was back when we were still dating. One weekend, he and his friends did a Bloody Mary bar crawl; I abstained because I’ve never been a big fan of Bloody Marys, but I was happy to look through the pictures Kale posted later that night on Facebook. Between all the tomato juice and the celery sticks, though, I found something I was not happy about: two pictures of him giving big smooches to a female friend on the cheek.
I really liked his female friend. In fact, she’s a friend of mine now, too. But at the time, I didn’t know her well at all and Kale and I were a fairly new couple. All I could see was my boyfriend, who was in love with me, being affectionate with another woman — who happens to be strikingly beautiful, hilarious and smart. I must have turned the brightest shade of emerald green.
I called up one of my girl friend’s to commiserate. Surely she would agree that not only kissing another woman on the cheek but posting the photos on Facebook for all to see was rude at best and troublesome at worst? Grab the pitchforks! Let’s storm the castle together!
But she didn’t say that. She said friends kissing opposite-sex friends on the cheek isn’t a big deal. She and her long-term partner do it all the time. She said I was overreacting. And, most cuttingly, she said my response to Kale’s photos said more about my insecurity than it did anything about him. Keep reading »
There’s more to being ready to be in a committed relationship than a combination of emotional preparedness and luck: it turns out that there are certain traits that can predict whether someone is going to cohabit or marry. Keep reading »
Our open mindedness to friends-with-benefits lifestyles is coming around, once again, to bite us in the bum. A new study reveals that 60 percent of newlyweds have slept with at least two guests invited to their wedding. You might think this is normal enough, considering typically everyone has at least one ex and sometimes people remain friends with their exes, but the next statistic I’m about to lay on you makes this whole thing a little more scandalous. Read more on College Candy…