Ours was the shortest courtship that I had ever heard of. Well, except for celebrities, but we all know how those turn out most of the time. Oh, and that girl I knew in college who went on a date with a college professor and was married to him two days later. Fool, was what we muttered under our breath. Over 10 years later, they’re still married, and now have two kids. Perhaps, we were the foolish ones to doubt them.
So when, after just five months of dating someone, I announced to my friends and family that I was engaged, the shock was, well, huge. Admittedly, I was shocked myself, and I expected others to be stunned by it, but the outpouring of public “Congratulations!” messages that were followed by private emails begging, “Are you fucking kidding me?” was something I surely didn’t expect – at least not to that extent. Keep reading »
“Communication. A very good girlfriend talked to me about the real meaning of communication, the right way to communicate and really properly communicate on an equal and respectful level. It changed the way [Rene and I] related to each other… It’s a lesson that every married couple should know to hold their relationship together.”
– Celine Dion, who has been married to her manager Rene Angelil for nearly 20 years, revealed to Vegas Deluxe that up until seven years ago, she and Rene “weren’t communicating properly.” Celine may be one of the richest, most famous women on the planet, but just like the rest of us, sometimes she needs a dose of straight talk from a girlfriend to get her life in order. Glad to hear that she and Rene are stronger than ever (and also that they have extended her Vegas contract to 2019 — I’m hoping to see her show at least 20 more times!). [People]
This week, my husband and I sat in a real estate agent’s office and put our first ever offer on an actual house on an actual piece of land that we would actually like to own.
“You guys are legally married, right?” the real estate agent asked. We said yes, we are.
“Do you have the same last name?” the real estate agent asked.
It’s a question I’ve become used to answering, and one of the first I tackled in the weeks after Patrick and I got drunk at the lake one hot September weekend and decided to get married. Keep reading »
A wife taking her husband’s name is pretty much the essence of traditional marriage. But an increasing number of women, especially young women, are choosing to keep their own last names when they are married, according to a study by Facebook.
The social networking site took the names of women whose relationship statuses were set as “Married” and compared these names with the names of their husbands. Overall, about a third of women are now choosing to keep their last names when they marry. Researchers found that about 38 percent of women in their 20s took their husband’s name, while 26 percent of women in their 30s did. Only 12 percent of women in their 60s kept their own name. Keep reading »
I’m standing in the kitchen in my underwear, crying over a carton of fat-free half and half. I’m about to do one of those dramatic Lifetime movie moments where the emotionally exhausted woman has just had too much and she crashes to the floor with dramatic flourish and beats her fists on the ground. But I feel crusty cat food and coffee grounds stuck to my heels and I can’t remember the last time I mopped. In fact I can’t even name a single time I’ve mopped this particular kitchen floor, which prompts me to remember that the person who mops the kitchen floor in our house is my husband, Patrick. And then I cry some more. Keep reading »
Today In Terrible Ideas: Justin Bieber told Us Weekly that he would like to get married and start a family young. He looks to his grandparents as a model for his future relationship as they are still together and in love. Bieber said, “They love each other so much, after so many years! When I’m their age, I want to be as in love with my wife as my grandfather is with his.” This is all really romantic and sweet until you remember the German government confiscated his pet monkey because he wasn’t properly taking care of it. And that he’s constantly in trouble for pissing off his neighbors, like racing his Ferrari up and down the street. I hope he knows that smoking pot “constantly,” as the Biebs is rumored to do, isn’t good for his sperm count. Okay, I’ll stop now. But seriously, wait awhile, Biebs. [Us Weekly] [Photo: Getty]
So, apparently cheating doesn’t take up as much free time as we thought it would. While married women were busy scouting out the profile of this weekend’s lover on AshleyMadison.com, 52,390 of them took a quick pause for survey about what they like to wear. The straying missus doesn’t walked around with a scarlet letter pinned to her chest, after all. And what did it reveal? Not a whole lot. The whole staff of The Frisky could be cheating wives according to this “data.” The top five stores a cheating wife apparently shops in are Banana Republic, J.Crew, Macy’s, Ann Taylor and H&M; she prefers Marc Jacobs purses, Ray-Ban sunglasses, and tankinis at the beach; and her summer must-haves are a maxi dress, colored skinny jeans, and a pencil skirt. How … interesting? According to AshleyMadison.com’s CEO:
“Becoming more concerned with one’s appearance is often a dead giveaway for an affair. If your spouse suddenly seems more consumed with style and putting outfits together after spending years in sweat pants, that is a tell tale sign she could be two timing.”
I’m guessing these answers are completely the same as faithful wives. But maybe that’s exactly what these cheating wives want you to think. Sneaky! [AshleyMadison.com]
“I am quite dominant in my career, so what really works for me when I come home, is to relax more into the feminine side. If you’re really an alpha female, you don’t allow [your partner] to have the space to feel like the man in the relationship. Maybe I am too traditional, but men feel important when you ask for their help, instead of thinking you can do it all on your own. My mistake in my relationships has been to feel that I can do it all on my own: I don’t need a man. That is definitely a mistake. Women generally want to feel loved and appreciated. It’s something that I am working on every day, trust me! It’s a challenge for me to do that.”
––Miranda Kerr has got a net worth of $12 million and is “dominant” in her career, but when it comes to her marriage to Orlando Bloom, Miranda Kerr told Net-a-Porter’s online magazine The Edit she takes a more submissive route. Just a few months ago, pro volleyball player Gabrielle Reece also said that she let her husband Laird Hamilton be the leader in their relationship and cited the same reasons as Kerr. It makes me wonder if there’s a secret society of wealthy, famous wives who don’t fight to wear the pants at home. If it works for them, more power to them. I’m all about each couple choosing how they want to operate rather than following society’s prescriptions, even if it means following traditional gender roles. I’m not loving the gender essentialism (men are like this! women are like that!) in Miranda Kerr’s quote, but hey, she’s a lingerie model, not a gender studies scholar. [PopSugar] [Image: Splash News]
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I just started a new relationship, and my boyfriend is bugging me to get a ‘Brazilian.’ Should I?
And let’s call it what it is: a bald vagina. Keep reading »
Good news, online daters! Your next relationship is more likely to last than that of your non-Internet-y peers. A new study from eHarmony (and independently verified) found that more people than ever are finding their mates online. A survey of 19,000 married people found that a third of them met their significant other via an online dating site. And those who met online reported higher levels of satisfaction in their marriages. Couples who met online were also less likely to break up or get divorced.
But just because two people met online doesn’t necessarily mean they were using an online dating site. While 45 percent of the people surveyed were on some matchmaking site, 20 percent met their mate via social networks, and another 10 percent through online chat rooms.
Why might meeting online work so well? Keep reading »