Two summers ago, I remember sitting on a bar stool, anxiously twirling a straw in my Rum and Coke as a guy I’d been dating for a little over a month explained why he didn’t think we should see each other anymore. “Why?” I asked, stunned. He hemmed and hawed for a moment, and opened and closed his mouth sharply, as if he enjoyed the taste of the air. I could tell there was something he was wanting to say, but couldn’t quite make himself form the words.
“My parents taught me that you don’t date someone unless you can see yourself marrying them,” he said. “That’s always stuck with me. Those are words I live by.”
The wooden bar stool felt harsh and uncomfortable underneath me—almost as uncomfortable as the words coming out of this guy’s mouth. Really, he’s breaking up with me because he doesn’t want to MARRY me? Is this guy I’ve gone on SIX dates with and had sex with ONCE really talking about freaking MARRIAGE? Keep reading »
What can we learn from marriages on situation comedies? For starters bowling teams and in-laws mean trouble. And if your spouse wants to talk to you in the kitchen, you’re screwed. But the real secret, according to a new study, has to do with an epic sitcom formula: chubby husband, skinny wife.
A new study published in the journal Social Psychological and Personality Science, suggests that marriages are more satisfying for both husband and wife when the woman is skinnier than the guy. After four years, surveying 169 newlyweds, researchers claimed that a woman with a lower BMI pleased both parties ultimately.
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I am in an open marriage. I know what you are probably thinking because, the first time a friend said this to me, I quickly felt myself growing judge-y. My knee-jerk thought was, She’s just doing this to please her husband. How sad. And then, Oh, they must want raise their kids commune-style. Can’t relate. But now, years later, I’ve realized that every relationship is unique, and it’s about finding what works for you.
So far, I’ve found a way to make my relationship with my husband, Edmund, keep its charm, passion, intimacy and commitment. And it has happened by opening the gates. Keep reading »
Yup, even alongside smart-assery from Samantha Bee and Jason Jones, watching gay couples wed makes me tear up! The adorable “Daily Show” corresondents — a husband and wife duo of 10 years — were there on Sunday when same-sex marriage became legal in New York State; somebody had to warn these couples about what they are getting into. [The Daily Show] Keep reading »
“[Married life is] so fly. There’s something great about feeling at peace and ease with your partner and knowing you understand each other. I really enjoy that friendship. There are so many similarities between us, it’s just mind-blowing. It’s really cool to have met my equal.”
—Alicia Keys talks to People about her first year as a married woman on the eve of her anniversary with rapper Swizz Beatz. With all the sitcoms and commercials telling me that marriage is the pits, it’s so refreshing to hear someone talk about it with excitement and wonder. Thanks Alicia! [People] Keep reading »
The other day, I was talking to one of my lesbian friends about the difference between gay and straight relationships. “Being a straight woman, who may want to get married someday, means I have to entertain the notion of having a nonmonogamous marriage,” I argued.
“Why?” she challenged me. (I get this reaction a lot. Especially from women, gay or straight, who tend to get defensive when I say something to this effect.)
“Not to consider it would mean I’m in denial,” I replied. Keep reading »